The normie male has dozens of girls he would bang.
The normie foid has dozens of guys she finds "hot".
At first chance they find themselves an opportunity to fuck each other they do just that -- fuck.
Normies don't develop "oneitis", obsession, fixation on one single particular person. This is for incels.
Normies just go with the flow and, if the opportunity arises, they fuck whomever they'd like, if they can.
I think it's entirely plausible that your friend Hamid was honestly trying to set you up with Shila, but since you didn't fuck her (probably because she didn't want you) Hamid just fucked her because he can and because she wanted. Normies don't usually think in terms of "oneitis" or other such romantic things.
To normies, sex is just an opportunistic pursuit, much like inviting someone to dance, offering an exchanging of snacks during a snack break, or asking the buddies if they want to play cards -- "I want, you want, let's go" is all it takes.
It's omega males, incels, and incurable romantics who, being systematically denied access to opportunistic sex, create these fantastical mental castles to enshrine their "love pursuits" to their "beloved" ladies-in-white, as if snatching pussy is requires complex thought like proving a theorem or building the Taj Mahal, when in fact it's just a matter of making an invitation or accepting it.
Oneitis is a cope for sexlessness. An omega male, being universally excluded, either goes on a rampage like an omega elephant or wastes their mental energy torturing themselves with unimaginably complex scenarios that put his sexual pursuits totally beyond reach of mere human endeavors. In fact a foid determines in less than 5 seconds if she wants to fuck you or not, and all it takes to find out is ask her.
Normies are completely oblivious to the mental spaghetti of "oneitis", because this is a cope they don't usually maintain long after pubery, as they don't need this immature cope. Sex, for a normie, is just a matter of invitation and acceptance.
