Cope "you have to learn to be happy by yourself before you can be happy with a girlfriend"

[Stupid Clown]

Normies will give advice that they've never tried themselves to people who are living through something they've never experienced. They are so utterly narcissistic that they think they know everything. This would be equivalent to me giving a indian living in slums advice on becoming a millionaire.

The best example of the absolutely retarded advice normies spew is
"You have to learn how to be confident in yourself before others will like you. Even if you get a girlfriend you'll still fail because you're not HAPPY BY yourself and need the approval of others"

YOU FUCKING RETARD. OUR BRAINS ARE HARDWIRED TO SEEK SOCIAL APPROVAL. THE ENTIRE REASON YOU'RE ON A SOCIAL MEDIA SITE IS BECAUSE YOUR YOURSELF ARE LOOKING FOR SOCIAL APPROVAL AND VALIDATION.

Studies show that self esteem is directly linked to how much social approval you receive

Self-esteem depends on beliefs about the rate of change of social approval - Scientific Reports

A major challenge in understanding the neurobiological basis of psychiatric disorders is rigorously quantifying subjective metrics that lie at the core of mental illness, such as low self-esteem. Self-esteem can be conceptualized as a ‘gauge of social approval’ that increases in response to...

www.nature.com

Not only that but we become depressed when socially and sexually rejected.

Can Rejection Give You Depression?

Is it possible for a rash of romantic or professional rejections to cause depression?

psychcentral.com

Black sheep get the blues: A psychobiological model of social rejection and depression

Major life events involving social rejection are strongly associated with onset of depression. To account for this relation, we propose a psychobiolog…

www.sciencedirect.com

So no, if you're repeatedly rejected you can't just reprogram your brain and learn to be happy.
Your brain is hard coded to be unhappy after rejection because we are social animals. Our biological goal is reproduction and social success. Thus, our brains punish us for failing to obtain these because it doesn't want us to give up.

 

[wgm24]

No human on earth can just shut off their desires until they reach some undetermined point of success. Mind you the feminist lgbtq faggots that say this are the most degenerate sexually repulsive and predatory people alive. Yet they tell normal straight men who are modest sexually to repress their desires

 

[SmhChan]

I'd be happy if I got to punch these fucks, who say this blame-shifting shit, in the face.

 

[Stupid Clown]

No human on earth can just shut off their desires until they reach some undetermined point of success. Mind you the feminist lgbtq faggots that say this are the most degenerate sexually repulsive and predatory people alive. Yet they tell normal straight men who are modest sexually to repress their desires

Exactly. They're constantly having sex. They have never gone without it. Yet they have the gull and nerve to tell us that we need to learn to be happy by ourselves.

I'd be happy if I got to punch these fucks, who say this blame-shifting shit, in the face.

Based

 

[Mecoja]

People, especially foids cannot possibly comprehend how soul crushing is being considered utterly worthless by everyone. You gotta love yourself before others could love you i hate myself and everything about me with burning hatred, id rather be anyone other than me.

 

[erenyeager]

Normies will give advice that they've never tried themselves to people who are living through something they've never experienced. They are so utterly narcissistic that they think they know everything. This would be equivalent to me giving a indian living in slums advice on becoming a millionaire.

The best example of the absolutely retarded advice normies spew is
"You have to learn how to be confident in yourself before others will like you. Even if you get a girlfriend you'll still fail because you're not HAPPY BY yourself and need the approval of others"

YOU FUCKING RETARD. OUR BRAINS ARE HARDWIRED TO SEEK SOCIAL APPROVAL. THE ENTIRE REASON YOU'RE ON A SOCIAL MEDIA SITE IS BECAUSE YOUR YOURSELF ARE LOOKING FOR SOCIAL APPROVAL AND VALIDATION.

Studies show that self esteem is directly linked to how much social approval you receive

Self-esteem depends on beliefs about the rate of change of social approval - Scientific Reports

A major challenge in understanding the neurobiological basis of psychiatric disorders is rigorously quantifying subjective metrics that lie at the core of mental illness, such as low self-esteem. Self-esteem can be conceptualized as a ‘gauge of social approval’ that increases in response to...

www.nature.com

Not only that but we become depressed when socially and sexually rejected.

Can Rejection Give You Depression?

Is it possible for a rash of romantic or professional rejections to cause depression?

psychcentral.com

Black sheep get the blues: A psychobiological model of social rejection and depression

Major life events involving social rejection are strongly associated with onset of depression. To account for this relation, we propose a psychobiolog…

www.sciencedirect.com

So no, if you're repeatedly rejected you can't just reprogram your brain and learn to be happy.
Your brain is hard coded to be unhappy after rejection because we are social animals. Our biological goal is reproduction and social success. Thus, our brains punish us for failing to obtain these because it doesn't want us to give up.

They want you to cope and rope. I reject it

 

[outerdarkness]

High IQ post.

 

[erenyeager]

I'd be happy if I got to punch these fucks, who say this blame-shifting shit, in the face.

Ban them from the universe. Aka in gta v

 

[Stupid Clown]

People, especially foids cannot possibly comprehend how soul crushing is being considered utterly worthless by everyone. You gotta love yourself before others could love you i hate myself and everything about me with burning hatred, id rather be anyone other than me.

EXACTLY! They've never even experienced it. It's ridiculous they'd even have the audacity to give such advice.

They want you to cope and rope. I reject it

They want us to cope and be wageslaves.

 

[erenyeager]

EXACTLY! They've never even experienced it. It's ridiculous they'd even have the audacity to give such advice.


They want us to cope and be wageslaves.

I reject it. But all this talkin and expecting negotiations has led us nowhere. If things don’t change we have to be the ones to instigate change

 

[AsakangaHalo]

this assume, that EVERY person who has girlfriend is happy with himself.

 

[Stupid Clown]

this assume, that EVERY person who has girlfriend is happy with himself.

Meanwhile guys with girlfriends never stop blabbing about their girlfriends

 

[Mecoja]

If things don’t change we have to be the ones to instigate change

This is very true.

 

[Razielcel]

Just another example of gaslighting they throw at us.

It's recurring theme isn't it? They keep unfortunate in blind state so they run in circles their whole lives thinking they are getting somewhere. It's pretty sociopathic if you ask me.

 

[Grodd]

Just more normie gaslighting

 

[Stupid Clown]

Just another example of gaslighting they throw at us.

It's recurring theme isn't it? They keep unfortunate in blind state and make them run in circles their whole lives making them believe they are getting somewhere. It's pretty sociopathic if you ask me.

Extremely sociopathic

 

[Poopless One]

Normies will give advice that they've never tried themselves to people who are living through something they've never experienced. They are so utterly narcissistic that they think they know everything.

Experienced this first hand with the NPD fake friend I've mentioned. It's the most irritating crap ever and you just wish they would shut their dumb face.

 

[Stupid Clown]

Experienced this first hand with the NPD fake friend I've mentioned. It's the most irritating crap ever and you just wish they would shut their dumb face.

It's better to be alone than around normies.

 

[ArabAndFramecel]

Fuck normies

 

[Poopless One]

It's better to be alone than around normies.

I still mentally kick myself for having to learn the hard way.

 

[Stupid Clown]

Fuck normies

Based

I still mentally kick myself for having to learn the hard way.

We all have to learn the hard way

 

[Poopless One]

We all have to learn the hard way

Guess so.

 

[GeckoBus]

Normies will give advice that they've never tried themselves to people who are living through something they've never experienced. They are so utterly narcissistic that they think they know everything. This would be equivalent to me giving a indian living in slums advice on becoming a millionaire.

The best example of the absolutely retarded advice normies spew is
"You have to learn how to be confident in yourself before others will like you. Even if you get a girlfriend you'll still fail because you're not HAPPY BY yourself and need the approval of others"

YOU FUCKING RETARD. OUR BRAINS ARE HARDWIRED TO SEEK SOCIAL APPROVAL. THE ENTIRE REASON YOU'RE ON A SOCIAL MEDIA SITE IS BECAUSE YOUR YOURSELF ARE LOOKING FOR SOCIAL APPROVAL AND VALIDATION.

Studies show that self esteem is directly linked to how much social approval you receive

Self-esteem depends on beliefs about the rate of change of social approval - Scientific Reports

A major challenge in understanding the neurobiological basis of psychiatric disorders is rigorously quantifying subjective metrics that lie at the core of mental illness, such as low self-esteem. Self-esteem can be conceptualized as a ‘gauge of social approval’ that increases in response to...

www.nature.com

Not only that but we become depressed when socially and sexually rejected.

Can Rejection Give You Depression?

Is it possible for a rash of romantic or professional rejections to cause depression?

psychcentral.com

Black sheep get the blues: A psychobiological model of social rejection and depression

Major life events involving social rejection are strongly associated with onset of depression. To account for this relation, we propose a psychobiolog…

www.sciencedirect.com

So no, if you're repeatedly rejected you can't just reprogram your brain and learn to be happy.
Your brain is hard coded to be unhappy after rejection because we are social animals. Our biological goal is reproduction and social success. Thus, our brains punish us for failing to obtain these because it doesn't want us to give up.

Harvard also did this ultra long term study that has been running for 80 years, to figure out what determines subjective life quality. Turns out, the quality of your relationships with other people is the biggest factor no shit. Community and social acceptable is everything. Happiness can not be reduced to material shit, unless we are talking the most basic things like shelter, water etc. Once these are established, it completely becomes about relationships. Or all of our ancestors woulda roped form not having running water. Even today in 3rd world countries, people are surprisingly happy. The reason is social life. Social life is literally everything.

When I was homeless years ago, I quickly noticed that homeless people spend all day socializing with other hobos. Only very few hobos are self-isolated and its mostly because they are either schizo, religious freaks or have diseases, shit like that.

A german autism youtuber once said in a video that in the past, they considered autism worse than down syndrome due to this. Because down syndrome people are extremely happy on average, they are well liked by people around them, they are like the most fucking NT people ever, if you have any experience with them. In contrast, autism was considered worse because it cuts you off completely from relationships and people, the main source of joy.​

Over nearly 80 years, Harvard study has been showing how to live a healthy and happy life

For nearly 80 years, the Harvard Study of Adult Development has been producing data and lessons on how to live longer, happier, and healthier lives.

news.harvard.edu

Poor and happy: The societies that defy life satisfaction trends

People living in wealthier societies tend to have higher life satisfaction. Indigenous peoples in small-scale societies buck the trend.

bigthink.com

 

[Stupid Clown]

Harvard also did this ultra long term study that has been running for 80 years, to figure out what determines subjective life quality. Turns out, the quality of your relationships with other people is the biggest factor no shit. Community and social acceptable is everything. Happiness can not be reduced to material shit, unless we are talking the most basic things like shelter, water etc. Once these are established, it completely becomes about relationships. Or all of our ancestors woulda roped form not having running water. Even today in 3rd world countries, people are surprisingly happy. The reason is social life. Social life is literally everything.

When I was homeless years ago, I quickly noticed that homeless people spend all day socializing with other hobos. Only very few hobos are self-isolated and its mostly because they are either schizo, religious freaks or have diseases, shit like that.

A german autism youtuber once said in a video that in the past, they considered autism worse than down syndrome due to this. Because down syndrome people are extremely happy on average, they are well liked by people around them, they are like the most fucking NT people ever, if you have any experience with them. In contrast, autism was considered worse because it cuts you off completely from relationships and people, the main source of joy.​

Over nearly 80 years, Harvard study has been showing how to live a healthy and happy life

For nearly 80 years, the Harvard Study of Adult Development has been producing data and lessons on how to live longer, happier, and healthier lives.

news.harvard.edu

Poor and happy: The societies that defy life satisfaction trends

People living in wealthier societies tend to have higher life satisfaction. Indigenous peoples in small-scale societies buck the trend.

bigthink.com

Brutal but not surprising. We are animals bound by instincts at the end of the day. "Just focus on yourself and get rich bro"
Jfl

 

[Nick Gurr the third]

i feel jealous of you being single it just so happens im always in relationship

 

[Stupid Clown]

i feel jealous of you being single it just so happens im always in relationship

Jfl

 

[Antorian]

"You have to learn to accept being hungry before others deem you worthy to be given food"

 

[Allah (Real)]

worse is "you have to love yourself first before anyone else can love you", no you don't. It's important to let go of any self-hatred for the sake of yourself but its not landing you any love in any of its forms from mankind. Self-hatred itself, contrary to what these people say, (for the most part) doesn't originate from a strong inner critic but from simply receiving insufficient kindness or from being constantly maltreated in social settings leading to inferiority complex. Then there are people who are loved despite hating themselves. Nothing but blackpill could ever explain why people get different baseline treatment from others even when they're part of the same identity bracket.

 

[Manlet Ricecel]

Didn’t they sperg out during the covid lockdowns bc they couldn’t see other people?

 

[TooSomething]

Insane gaslighting. From my days of chatting up foids online I can tell you from experience that foids and normies in general absolutely need sex to function and be healthy.

Hell, this one foid asked me how I could go so long without sex. Like, bitch, that's the whole point. You can't. You will go insane. That's when I was a virgin and didn't visit escorts yet.

Note that the foid didn't know what I looked like.

We just got to know each other a bit over similar interrests, at the time.

Also, the foid was married and she apparently was looking for a hook-up.
Bitch ended up hooking-up with a dude in my contact list. Jfl. Actually it was two guys from my contact list.

She cheated on her husband with another married man. LoL
His wive later found out and divorced him.

Normies are wild animals, rly.

It was also my breaking point so I turbeed to escortcelling, which was not the fulfilling experience I was looking for.

 

[Friezacel]

Normies will give advice that they've never tried themselves to people who are living through something they've never experienced. They are so utterly narcissistic that they think they know everything.

This. I hate people who have an answer to everything. Their narcissistic ego just cant admit that they cant and dont know everything

 

[SlayerSlayer]

cucks are able to feel something called compersion which is the ability to derive joy when their partner fucks others. If you have that ability of course they are gonna spew shit like this

I think where it gets insane is that you get the sense from cucks that compersion is morally correct, whereas we feel it is morally repugnant

 

[m3nt4Lbl0ck3d]

Typical foid betabuxxer attitude. You have to have everything done, stable and maxxed out so I can spread my holes and live stress free and cheat on you with chad who treats me like a piece of shit has no job and a crippling drug habit.

But he is confident and happy with himself, clearly.

 

[Yabadadabadoo]

Just be happy for no reason bro

 

[Todd Thundercock]

cucks are able to feel something called compersion which is the ability to derive joy when their partner fucks others. If you have that ability of course they are gonna spew shit like this

I think where it gets insane is that you get the sense from cucks that compersion is morally correct, whereas we feel it is morally repugnant

Compersion has become the normie standard for men, while women can't empathize at all. It's all so tiring.

 

[WomanKicker]

They say as they've glut themselves on cunny from day one while the chonchon cupboard lies bare for us. Literally the sexual equivalent of telling someone to pull themselves up by their bootstraps. I will not have it. I will not be mocked. Just brought up so many memories in my head, I'm going to kick the wall.

 

[WomanKicker]

A banal platitude and I'd sooner have a pint of piss for my drink and shit for my meat.