This is litteraly half an hour ago, I'm walking back from a gymcelling session, it's midnight and I see a girl following two men screaming in anger about something. They're speaking in some foreign language but they're all quite young, early twenties, attractive. At this point I don't care at all about what they did to her or why she might be angry because in my mind I'm thinking whatever they did to you, you deserve it for choosing guys like him. I'm still behind them as they walk further down and our paths stay the same to the point where it looks like I'm following them which I got quite nervous about, but I wasn't gonna take a different way home just to please them.
Anyway the girl stopped screaming after a minute and now she's crying whilst still following them, it was that type of cry where you can tell they're trying to hold it in as much as possible. The guy who is probably her partner randomly loses his shit at her crying after a while and all three of them stop where they're standing, he starts shouting at her aggresively out of nowhere and now I'm closing distance on them, he then violently throws his drink all over her. I was so close that it almost hit me and I could smell it was 7Up/sprite, she cries even more while he screams more swear words at her, he repeated "kurva" which I know is a polish or romanian swear word and at this moment I've caught up.
I felt social pressure to intervene but at the same time convinced myself she deserves it for following them even though they treat her like shit, so I kept slowly walking and I can see behind me the situation getting worse and worse where to where he's going to attack her, I'm conflicted at this point but then the other guy with them starts holding him back so I carry on walking. Litteraly 5 minutes later, I'm still walking and I start to feel bad and confused about if it was right to blame her and if I should have stepped in. I'm super high inhib, so I feel like I was justifying not stepping in by saying she deserves it but I don't think I feel that way. I just didn't get involved cos I have social anxiety and I'm a coward, and this sounds messed up but If I had stepped in to protect her and then she just goes back to him that would piss me off even more.
I'm willing to accept her situation, it's London and they're immigrants so I think it's likely she's reliant on him, maybe lives with him. But yeah, it's super easy to not care about women getting beaten up by their badly chosen boyfriends on the internet but it happened in real life today and I felt bad and still do, she was crying so hard and I regret not saying something. Maybe I could have said "You need to stop being with guys like that because the abuse only gets worse" and comfort her crying then she would've came home with me instead *dream situation*
But no srsly I hate myself right now for feeling bad for her, but I do. Then I also feel bad for not stepping cos I feel like a beta, for being scared to do it. Thoughts anyone?
Anyway the girl stopped screaming after a minute and now she's crying whilst still following them, it was that type of cry where you can tell they're trying to hold it in as much as possible. The guy who is probably her partner randomly loses his shit at her crying after a while and all three of them stop where they're standing, he starts shouting at her aggresively out of nowhere and now I'm closing distance on them, he then violently throws his drink all over her. I was so close that it almost hit me and I could smell it was 7Up/sprite, she cries even more while he screams more swear words at her, he repeated "kurva" which I know is a polish or romanian swear word and at this moment I've caught up.
I felt social pressure to intervene but at the same time convinced myself she deserves it for following them even though they treat her like shit, so I kept slowly walking and I can see behind me the situation getting worse and worse where to where he's going to attack her, I'm conflicted at this point but then the other guy with them starts holding him back so I carry on walking. Litteraly 5 minutes later, I'm still walking and I start to feel bad and confused about if it was right to blame her and if I should have stepped in. I'm super high inhib, so I feel like I was justifying not stepping in by saying she deserves it but I don't think I feel that way. I just didn't get involved cos I have social anxiety and I'm a coward, and this sounds messed up but If I had stepped in to protect her and then she just goes back to him that would piss me off even more.
I'm willing to accept her situation, it's London and they're immigrants so I think it's likely she's reliant on him, maybe lives with him. But yeah, it's super easy to not care about women getting beaten up by their badly chosen boyfriends on the internet but it happened in real life today and I felt bad and still do, she was crying so hard and I regret not saying something. Maybe I could have said "You need to stop being with guys like that because the abuse only gets worse" and comfort her crying then she would've came home with me instead *dream situation*
But no srsly I hate myself right now for feeling bad for her, but I do. Then I also feel bad for not stepping cos I feel like a beta, for being scared to do it. Thoughts anyone?
