Discussion Will a gf or sex with an attractive woman give motivation?

[BodyFat10orRope]

I have seen a few people here say that a gf will give you motivation to accomplish things. I have seen people on reddit say that once they got a girlfriend they had the motivation to study. I have also seen guys say it makes no difference. I used to believe that a nerd with no gf would have the best motivation to betabuxxmaxx, but I now believe that might just be strong betabuxx genetics and bluepill.

I can't get a girlfriend but I can go to hot escorts. Would a hot escort give some type of boost? Being almost 23, isolated in a room with little human contact, let alone female touch has probably had a toll on my mind.

I need some extra motivation to get through life. All I have the energy for now is to rot on different forums and watch youtube.

 

[LOLI BREEDING]

a gf definitely will. I guess fucking a hot whore is better than your hand, but I wouldn't waste money on it regularly

 

[78980n]

Yes

 

[TheCrock]

I honestly think that at this point, I'm far too scarred mentally to actually find the motivation to live even if I find a gf.

First of all, my ugliness is confirmed, so if I were to find a gf, she would be with me in spite of my ugliness, not because she is attracted to me.

Secondly, I've already missed out on so much that I wouldn't even know how to be with a girl.

Last, I'd be worried 24/7 that she's gonna leave me for someone better.

Honestly, the biggest part of being an incel is the mental scars I've suffered throughout my teens and early twenties, even if I found a gf, it wouldn't erase those scars.

I am mentally fucked, always will be.

 

[tooth monster]

Yes

 

[BRCel123]

Yes

 

[zombie]

High SMV is the difference between being happy or not.

Some people are more active when they are happy, while some are the opposite.

 

[Shigechi]

Yes, no doubt. Free sex with attractive women or a gf will give you motivation. Paying for sex probably not.

 

[thebuddhacel]

Yes, I would be motivated totally.

 

[Hate_my_life]

Yes

 

[LastGerman]

all I know is my basement and gaming computer.

We are truly beyond repair man.

 

[ionlycopenow]

Yes, I think so. It's on par with food and water according to that hierarchy of needs

 

[Deleted member 17719]

I think having children gives normies motivation because they have to go to work, as a childless man the motivation could never be as strong especially as an incel man.

 

[Gymcelled]

Check 12:53, it's scientifically proven that a healthy relationship is the most potent medicine we have when it comes to mental health. Especially for men.

 

[grondilu]

I can't get a girlfriend but I can go to hot escorts. Would a hot escort give some type of boost?

I will only give you motivation to earn more money. Which is as good a motivation as any, I guess.

 

[Deleted member 19546]

Would give me a future in life, a reason to study and work, would cure my depression, insecurities and all my deep psychological wounds. I would be alive.

 

[BodyFat10orRope]

I think having children gives normies motivation because they have to go to work, as a childless man the motivation could never be as strong especially as an incel man.

Yes I have definitely seen the fatherhood motivation. Guy working a shitty low skill job has a wife and young children and is now in his early 30s acing and soaring through STEM courses at the University. That means he had the capability, but before fatherhood he did the common single male minimum.

 

[Deleted member 10124]

Yes

 

[⠀⠀⠀]

High SMV is the difference between being happy or not.

 

[Joelossus]

Maybe but i'm not sure it's really hard imagining myself with a girlfriend

 

[KingOfRome]

It probably wouldn't be a panacea, but assuming it's a healthy relationship largely free of drama and mind-games, it probably would give me the motivation to go out, live life, and contribute to society if for no other reason than it would be proof that society did not reject me as a person, and my outcast status was in my head all along. That is, it would be a complete fairy tale.

 

[BodyFat10orRope]

Check 12:53, it's scientifically proven that a healthy relationship is the most potent medicine we have when it comes to mental health. Especially for men.

Damn. Brutal. I remember years ago I always saw people online saying it won't solve your problems. I looked this up back when I was depressed (my depression went away and might have come back recently). I assumed they had relationships and that thus they knew. It wasn't until going on NEET subs that I saw more aware guys talk about how much it helped them.

 

[Dionysus]

Yes

 

[Vermilioncore]

Yes

 

[Gymcelled]

Damn. Brutal. I remember years ago I always saw people online saying it won't solve your problems. I looked this up back when I was depressed (my depression went away and might have come back recently). I assumed they had relationships and that thus they knew. It wasn't until going on NEET subs that I saw more aware guys talk about how much it helped them.

I kind of vaguely had an internet gf one time in my life (i know it sounds cringy af). We talked almost every day on mic for a few hours. It was by far the happiest time of my life. Not because my life was any good, actually it was kind of shitty, I was going through some rough things.

BUT. I felt happy. I didn't care about hardships, I just pressed onward, I felt so motivated. But you know the best part? Something was chemically different about me, some hormones or something in me was different, I felt drugged. Negative experiences didn't affect me, I didn't care. I felt more confident than ever.

My life has improved in some ways since then, I've experienced some good things. But nothing has ever even come close to that feeling of happiness. It's all been light years away from that feeling I had.

And this is how I felt from just talking to a girl I never met. I can't even imagine the feeling of happiness that cuddling, hugging, kissing or having sex must bring.

We're truly missing out on happiness.

 

[BodyFat10orRope]

And this is how I felt from just talking to a girl I never met. I can't even imagine the feeling of happiness that cuddling, hugging, kissing or having sex must bring.

We're truly missing out on happiness.

Fuck man. What I've read recently from posters online (including you), that video and my own feelings I can't believe I didn't realize how important this shit is. I guess the total lack of motivation didn't hit me until quite recently. Society gives so many bullshit answers to bluepill men so they don't pull out of society or lose it.

Porn keeps men physically satisfied so they don't feel as much of a drive to get a woman (often not realizing that they're missing the mental and emotional aspects). I was pretty satisfied with porn and video games until around age 20.

I had a brief period of depression at around 18 where I questioned this but bluepill answers about how "a gf won't solve your problems" made me forget about it.

 

[Gymcelled]

Fuck man. What I've read recently from posters online (including you), that video and my own feelings I can't believe I didn't realize how important this shit is. I guess the total lack of motivation didn't hit me until quite recently. Society gives so many bullshit answers to bluepill men so they don't pull out of society or lose it.

Porn keeps men physically satisfied so they don't feel as much of a drive to get a woman (often not realizing that they're missing the mental and emotional aspects). I was pretty satisfied with porn and video games until around age 20.

I had a brief period of depression at around 18 where I questioned this but bluepill answers about how "a gf won't solve your problems" made me forget about it.

I truly can't express how happy and good I felt at that time. If it hadn't happened to me I would have never even imagined that it was even possible to feel this good. Living life as an attractive person must be pure bliss.

The whole bluepill answer of a gf won't solve your problems is obviously bullshit as that Dr in the video points out.

Then you have the redpillers who say you need to fix the problems in your life, find self worth, have goals etc. But according to Maslow's hierarchy of needs those are impossible to truly achieve being romantically satisfied. Or at the very least feeling accepted and validated (like a single attractive person would feel).

We're literally stuck and unable to develop properly as human beings because of how alone we are romantically.

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

I have seen a few people here say that a gf will give you motivation to accomplish things. I have seen people on reddit say that once they got a girlfriend they had the motivation to study. I have also seen guys say it makes no difference. I used to believe that a nerd with no gf would have the best motivation to betabuxxmaxx, but I now believe that might just be strong betabuxx genetics and bluepill.

I can't get a girlfriend but I can go to hot escorts. Would a hot escort give some type of boost? Being almost 23, isolated in a room with little human contact, let alone female touch has probably had a toll on my mind.

I need some extra motivation to get through life. All I have the energy for now is to rot on different forums and watch youtube.

normie guys with a 5+ gf (that's "Hot" these days) are always talking about their gf, and their social media top header image, is a giant image of their gf's face or body, let's do the math here

 

[Mainländer]

Undoubtedly.

 

[BodyFat10orRope]

The whole bluepill answer of a gf won't solve your problems is obviously bullshit as that Dr in the video points out.

It makes so much sense (since reproducing is the number one goal biologically) and it's something many young men think about (that they're depressed because of no gf) yet there's a flood of bluepill about how you won't be fulfilled by a gf. What will fulfill you according to them is focusing on "muh career, muh hobbies, muh interests" and shit like that which are either a means to an end (career to get money for family) or copes to reduce boredom.

I can't believe this took me so long to fully realize out of all things. I guess it's because as you said, even redpill and alternative resources tell you shit about "focus on yourself" or even "just go mgtow bro, I cooked a whole chicken for myself this evening and sipped on beer".

normie guys with a 5+ gf (that's "Hot" these days) are always talking about their gf, and their social media top header image, is a giant image of their gf's face or body, let's do the math here

I assumed this was cause they're pussywhipped and bluepilled about women (which may be true) but yeah, they probably don't have much joy in their lives when a gf is missing from it.

 

[Inceljoe]

Oh fuck yeah, theres a reason for marriage and all that shit. God created woman to be with man. Man can NOT fulfill his potential if he is a lonely incel.

A girlfriend or wife gives tremendous motivation and jezt for life.

 

[ihaveno1]

It indeed would.

 

[michael2222]

Yes

 

[Gymcelled]

It makes so much sense (since reproducing is the number one goal biologically) and it's something many young men think about (that they're depressed because of no gf) yet there's a flood of bluepill about how you won't be fulfilled by a gf. What will fulfill you according to them is focusing on "muh career, muh hobbies, muh interests" and shit like that which are either a means to an end (career to get money for family) or copes to reduce boredom.

I can't believe this took me so long to fully realize out of all things. I guess it's because as you said, even redpill and alternative resources tell you shit about "focus on yourself" or even "just go mgtow bro, I cooked a whole chicken for myself this evening and sipped on beer".

The bluepilled advice exists because

1) foids don't want unattractive men to chimp out
2) other incels/soyboys/betas want good boy points so they just regurgitate bluepill shit
3) the government does not want us to chimp out or give up on life (gotta wage slave and pay taxes)

The redpill advice is based on a semblance of truth. Basically if you're attractive (or at least have the potential to be attractive) following redpill advice might improve your smv. Redpill shit enhances SMV a bit, but it does not CREATE attraction.

The reason so many people get caught in the redpill is because 1) it's vaguely opposed to the bluepill 2) it's based on some truths 3) it gives you vary vague, distant goals. It puts you on this endless self improvement journey that never ends. So you always think you're making progress even though in reality you're just stuck in place, like a car stuck in the mud or a dude running on a treadmill.

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

I assumed this was cause they're pussywhipped and bluepilled about women (which may be true) but yeah, they probably don't have much joy in their lives when a gf is missing from it.

most brutal suifuel i ever witnessed was a guy posting 'hate this job, can barely hang in here until vacation', and his gf posted 'hang in there we're going to the beach when you get back' (i.e i'm sucking your dick in a cheap beachside hotel)