This seems a bit high IQ for me but sounds interesting.
So if I get you right, you say there is no such thing as genuine foid's love -unless super low esteem-as the union will always be interpreted as a will of climbing the hierarchy ladder?
On the first paragraph I only understood that it is extremely difficult to escape this pattern even when acknowledging it, if I get you right.
Now the question is : what is your perception of an ideal relationship with a foid woman? Do you even want or at least can conceive one you'd want?
Ideal relationships are about finding someone who A. has a criteria of investment that you fit enough that it becomes genuine/ comfortable for you. (yet women are also hypergamic, hormonal, etc... so doing this is like trying to balance a raft in a hurricane without being chad. Being a chad is just being a cruiser in a hurricane while being incel is being a rickety raft).
B. You have enough in common/ meet your criteria of intimacy that the connection feels fun/ happy/ natural/ ideal
C. Healthy relationship environment. Typically surrounding what people deem as "good".
But the hurdles that are inevitable are that women are selective, as are men. All attraction is based on desire, and not all people can be with all others. Love isn't distributed equally and is based in distinction.
There is no true love in anyone. Because love isn't distributed as something that can entirely comfort or bring true happiness to anyone's spirit. It is challenging, unsafe, difficult, and brings misery and contention to people.
Yes there is "love" in that can be defined as a residual longing/ liking for a thing that makes you uphold and sacrifice for the sake of it. Where it is worth so much to you that preserving it is something that you are willing to pay a hefty price for. For its value exceeds that of things you'd cherish about yourself that are also held dear like time and energy.
But there is also the feeling of possession people have, and in possession people become envy/ greedy/ etc. People's desires are often unaddressed and disrespected. This is what makes people angry/ selfish/ entitled as a reaction mechanism.
An ideal love is one with no possessive selfish reactionary system behind it. But we all want it. Yet that's what makes love, and people contributing to the real issue behind human interaction... that our criteria of comfort and love revolves around people giving us what we want as opposed to giving people honest and fair delivery/ treatment.
We don't care about that as a species. We love favorable unfairness. We are possessive. We will not be compassionate or graceful with humanity. No one virtually is. We hate giving empathy to peoples emotions at the expense of furthering ourselves. We overlap each others desires. We want to get our fill in life.
Our primal fill. That's why you can't count on people to have your heart. Their primal narcissism makes everyone at odds. The supply for their demands are in relation to their demands which may not be good to you ultimately
