Why did people lie to me growing up?

[worthlessloser26]

When I was a teenager, family friends and a few other adults called me handsome, cute, good looking, even though I went through all of my teen years a kissless virgin. I always knew looks mattered, but I always just assumed I was good looking, I was delusional, because I believed people when they told me. I assumed it was my shyness or personality that I didn’t get girls. Did these adults lie to me because they get pleasure from the pain they caused when I realized I’m not as good looking as they said I am? Women have let me know exactly where I stand with them through the years, and it’s nothing good

 

[Deleted member 34085]

They tried to bluepill you.

 

[MarquisDeSade]

It's like when someone is going to die soon you try to comfort them with kind words even though in the end it's not comforting whatsoever because the constellation is that they're still going to die anyways regardless, likewise our mothers, aunts, or sisters lied to us growing up because they didn't want to divulge to us truly the whorish nature that is being female, so instead they build up false confidence saying bullshit popular expressions like, "All you need is love in your heart to find a good woman.", because that sounds a lot nicer than saying you need a six pack, six figure income, and be at least six feet tall.

Whole generations of men raised by their lying mothers and females relatives in broken households where the father isn't present, that's why for a majority of us all this seems like revelations when really these have been truths known to men for entire generations. Consequences of the single mother generation.

 

[NYCcel]

Women in your life rejected you. That was their honest assessment.

 

[worthlessloser26]

it only matters if you get compliments like those in your late teens and above

I did, all the way up to like 18 I got them. Around 19 they stopped

 

[BrazilianLiveMatter]

this is the problem of modernity, everyone says that what is different is beautiful and that everyone can be included, but the truth always speaks louder, no friend close to you will say that you are ugly, they will only feed you lies until that you die hanged

 

[I want to believe]

When I was a teenager, family friends and a few other adults called me handsome, cute, good looking, even though I went through all of my teen years a kissless virgin. I always knew looks mattered, but I always just assumed I was good looking, I was delusional, because I believed people when they told me.

Can relate. I was bluepilled then. Although they called me handsome when I was a child mostly.

 

[MarquisDeSade]

this is the problem of modernity, everyone says that what is different is beautiful and that everyone can be included, but the truth always speaks louder, no friend close to you will say that you are ugly, they will only feed you lies until that you die hanged

The very root of post modern society is specialization and economic classism, so the idea of social equality is an absurd joke especially in regards to income distribution.

Also, at the very heart of a foid's sexuality is one rooted in male social inequality because foids in terms of sexual reproductive behavior is based upon social inequities of men competing against other men, once again, equality for women is another absurdity. The very idea of equality for women whose sexual reproductive behavior is based upon solely the social or economic inequality of men should be a laughing stock of the entire world, but unfortunately we have a non-thinking population that don't discuss such matters openly or publicly.

 

[Deleted member 35110]

It is mostly to make you feel better, I got called "good looking" by my parents and grandparents, and that being a "good guy" with a good job will get me the girl jfl

 

[meatball]

When I was a teenager, family friends and a few other adults called me handsome, cute, good looking, even though I went through all of my teen years a kissless virgin. I always knew looks mattered, but I always just assumed I was good looking, I was delusional, because I believed people when they told me. I assumed it was my shyness or personality that I didn’t get girls. Did these adults lie to me because they get pleasure from the pain they caused when I realized I’m not as good looking as they said I am? Women have let me know exactly where I stand with them through the years, and it’s nothing good

They meant well

 

[Meus]

When I was a teenager, family friends and a few other adults called me handsome, cute, good looking, even though I went through all of my teen years a kissless virgin. I always knew looks mattered, but I always just assumed I was good looking, I was delusional, because I believed people when they told me. I assumed it was my shyness or personality that I didn’t get girls. Did these adults lie to me because they get pleasure from the pain they caused when I realized I’m not as good looking as they said I am? Women have let me know exactly where I stand with them through the years, and it’s nothing good

Mogs me, nobody ever called me good looking.

 

[worthlessloser26]

They meant well

No, no they didn’t

 

[Izayacel]

Women in your life rejected you. That was their honest assessment.

 

[autisticghost]

I did, all the way up to like 18 I got them. Around 19 they stopped

 

[AllanKing]

maybe you really not that ugly before

 

[Deleted member 17883]

They meant well

It was only meant to make them feel good and self righteous.

 

[Mecoja]

Your family and cousins dont see you as a man, its like saying to a dog that is cute.