Serious Why being confident for incels is next to impossible.

[Incel Prime]

We all have laughed at the fact of women saying be confident or normies say you just gotta be confident. Confidence isnt just something you can feel. Its something that starts in childhood. The reason why being confident for normies is so easy is because they have a higher level base confidence. Normies all go through experiences that by the time they are adults they have a high base confidence. Due to this its easier to compound successes and boost their confidence more. When incels grow into adults our experiences range from fucking awful to non existant. So our base confidence is very low. Due to this it makes our successes seem that much more weightless compared to the average normie and we have to do triple the work and accolades to even have a chance to ascend.

 

[Deleted member 5861]

One of the most common phrases spurted towards incels is "just be confident bro." Of course they say this like it is as easy as turning on a switch. Your natural confidence is mostly a reflection of how accepting society is towards you. This is a natural defensive mechanism to prevent even lower status, humiliation, and possible violent retaliation or a sexual harassment charge. The proof you need is all those videos we see of ugly men being accussed of sex crimes and assaulted for merely existing around normies. The stereotype that shy boys are small, weak, ugly, etc is very self explanatory. Even if a shy guy isn't small or ugly (what normies often point to as proof that they just need to turn on their confidence switch) they usually end up being total autists with their shyness removed. If you have bad shyness but those two do not fit you then you have legitimate mental issues. More likely than not you have social anxiety disorder, or social phobia (aka a fear that is not rational). But for most shy guys, it is reasonable. Telling them to not feel mental pain, insecurity, and humiliation from their experiences or characteristics is like telling a guy to not feel physical pain after being kicked in the balls. Chads are confident because they have no reason to not be. They have got girls and validation for their entire life, ever since the first day in pre-k. Then when they get success with women and everyone is like "being confident is the only key!1!1!"

 

[Incel Prime]

One of the most common phrases spurted towards incels is "just be confident bro." Of course they say this like it is as easy as turning on a switch. Your natural confidence is mostly a reflection of how accepting society is towards you. This is a natural defensive mechanism to prevent even lower status, humiliation, and possible violent retaliation or a sexual harassment charge. The proof you need is all those videos we see of ugly men being accussed of sex crimes and assaulted for merely existing around normies. The stereotype that shy boys are small, weak, ugly, etc is very self explanatory. Even if a shy guy isn't small or ugly (what normies often point to as proof that they just need to turn on their confidence switch) they usually end up being total autists with their shyness removed. If you have bad shyness but those two do not fit you then you have legitimate mental issues. More likely than not you have social anxiety disorder, or social phobia (aka a fear that is not rational). But for most shy guys, it is reasonable. Telling them to not feel mental pain, insecurity, and humiliation from their experiences or characteristics is like telling a guy to not feel physical pain after being kicked in the balls. Chads are confident because they have no reason to not be. They have got girls and validation for their entire life, ever since the first day in pre-k. Then when they get success with women and everyone is like "being confident is the only key!1!1!"

Fuckin mogged my post bro

 

[Unknown Status]

I am confident in the things I know how to do. The problem is others aren't confident in me. chad/stacy are the real cowards, they have everything given to them. Challenge them to do something... they wont show up.

 

[Stoiccel]

Exactly. It all stems from positive reinforcement. Undesirable men get none of that.

 

[BabyFacedIncel]

Im actually a fairly confident Incel. Meaning probably Normie type confidence. I am as social as everyone else at work, have good conversations and engage. Although I am probably more socially incompetent and slightly awkward due to my lack of social life growing up. But I am not the quietest one in the room anymore.

But I also worked at a restaurant which was filled with Stacy servers, there I was not so confident. It was the worst place I ever worked. But here is way better, It can change, you can gain confidence cause I certainly did. Will it get me laid? No but does it help make friends and help pass the time? Yes