When was the first time you were victim of LOOKISM?

[YunGandUgly]

This wasn't the first time ofc, but my earliest memory is of me +2 boys and a girl in the pool having fun, my mom was also close talking to us to make sure we didn't drown, there was this white 11yo kid with light eyes and surfer blond hair who must have cursed 10 times already and my mom would just laugh about it but the moment I said "shit" she scolded me in a very harsh tone and just went back to normal.

This might seem like a silly story to some of you guys but at the time this left me really confused, I KNEW there was something wrong going on but just couldn't grasp why but now after finding incels/lookism everything clicks.

 

[Gunslinger]

I think your mom was just trying to be polite considering it wans’t her kid, regardless of that she wouldn’t want her kid to do the same thing?

 

[ThisLifeKillsMe]

Its normal.

 

[Gyros_Pretcel]

I got bullied because of my height. Resulsts of being poor don't fall under lookism I guess?

Spoiler

I was like 6'3 with twelve and then stopped growing.

 

[Gunslinger]

Also, lookism is based off of how attracted one is to another. I’m pretty sure your mom wasn’t attracted to that boy.

 

[YunGandUgly]

I think your mom was just trying to be polite considering it wans’t her kid, regardless of that she wouldn’t want her kid to do the same thing?

I knew this comment would come but I thought really hard and reached the conclusion in my original post. Beautiful children will get away with way more, besides she ended up doing more damage than good.

 

[psychowazowski]

I can't remember a time as a boy when I wasn't started at. Even in kindergarten no one wanted to play with me and they didn't want to sit next to me when we did that dumb kindergarten thing where everyone sits in a circle.

 

[kappo0]

From birth to deth

 

[Juxtaposition6]

Less than a year old, my dad's sister made fun of my nose.

 

[Gunslinger]

I knew this comment would come but I thought really hard and reached the conclusion in my original post. Beautiful children will get away with way more, besides she ended up doing more damage than good.

I do agree with you, it is a well known fact. But parents being parents isn’t lookism, it’s blatant parenting. Think if she told him to stop, would she get a call from that kids mom? She has no idea and, at 11 years old you most likely took influence she was clearly trying to stop. But you are right, beautiful people get away with more.

 

[Deleted member 6470]

When I was 6yo.
Too brutal, never had a chance.
I wish I was home schooled.

 

[happiless]

Primary school

 

[Weirdcel]

1st grade. Would get made fun of and called werewolf for being a hairyass motherfucker.

I wish I was home schooled.

 

[UBERCEL]

Also, lookism is based off of how attracted one is to another. I’m pretty sure your mom wasn’t attracted to that boy.

It's over for pedomomcels

This wasn't the first time ofc, but my earliest memory is of me +2 boys and a girl in the pool having fun, my mom was also close talking to us to make sure we didn't drown, there was this white 11yo kid with light eyes and surfer blond hair who must have cursed 10 times already and my mom would just laugh about it but the moment I said "shit" she scolded me in a very harsh tone and just went back to normal.

This might seem like a silly story to some of you guys but at the time this left me really confused, I KNEW there was something wrong going on but just couldn't grasp why but now after finding incels/lookism everything clicks.

Since birth BOYO

 

[youngswedecel]

3 times. First at 9 years old when I realised most of my friends had had several relationships when I had had zero. At 15 when I saw/heard 2 people fucking in the bathroom stall. I peeked in a tiny hole and saw an ugly fucking girl with a hockey player (pretty much very high status in swedish schools). That made me fucking mad so I just played porn loudly to ruin their time and shit. The last time was when I was 17, 2 years ago. We had a tightly knit friend group from when I was 13. However, when I was 17 a couple of girls hopped into the social circle and then it slowly disintegrated. I went from being the centre, "leader" of the group to becoming fucking outcast, getting invited to a CS game once in a week if I was lucky.

 

[averageblokecel]

3 times. First at 9 years old when I realised most of my friends had had several relationships when I had had zero. At 15 when I saw/heard 2 people fucking in the bathroom stall. I peeked in a tiny hole and saw an ugly fucking girl with a hockey player (pretty much very high status in swedish schools). That made me fucking mad so I just played porn loudly to ruin their time and shit. The last time was when I was 17, 2 years ago. We had a tightly knit friend group from when I was 13. However, when I was 17 a couple of girls hopped into the social circle and then it slowly disintegrated. I went from being the centre, "leader" of the group to becoming fucking outcast, getting invited to a CS game once in a week if I was lucky.

The friend group thingy is happening to me right now, I'm fucking scared and trying to do my best to hold on but fuck this is hard

 

[_incelinside]

It was probably less to do with looks and mkre because she was your mother so shes stricter with you

 

[youngswedecel]

The friend group thingy is happening to me right now, I'm fucking scared and trying to do my best to hold on but fuck this is hard

Attempt to build up your friendship with the guys in the centre of the group. Hopefully that can save you cause honestly, do you know how fucking painful it is. I feel so much loneliness so often it fucking hurts.

 

[calily]

I was tall, overweight, had discoloration of my teeth due to a health condition so I've experienced this lots of time.

At least your mom didn't find out about a girl you liked and flat out tell you that "She wouldn't give you the time of day". That SRSLY happened to me.

 

[TrueAlphaMale]

In middel school were, despite being one of the ebst at soccer, I was left out of the team becausE I was ugly

 

[CIA nigger]

I got bullied because of my height. Resulsts of being poor don't fall under lookism I guess?

Spoiler

I was like 6'3 with twelve and then stopped growing.

you were 6'3 at twelve??? why wouldnt you just beat the shit out of them?

 

[Kurdish_Incel]

you were 6'3 at twelve??? why wouldnt you just beat the shit out of them?

If he had a developed body he could. But bad center of gravity + weak muscles = death

 

[Timecel]

My friends always get approached randomly by girls while I just awkwardly stand next to them.

 

[ticktock]

I was actually semi-popular from Elementary-6th grade. I never felt oppressed because I was likable and made friends easily and in 1st grade, I found out the cutest girl in my class liked me. I always subconsciously thought I'd get a girlfriend and never worried about it because there were signs that I was an attractive kid (received 'will you be my valentine' cards from some girls, rumors of some girls liking me). Btw, it was all subconscious and I never felt ugly facially so it was all just normal to me. I had little to no insecurities about the way I looked when I was little.

Then in 7th grade my mom forced me to split with my best friend (bfs since 2nd grade) because she thought he was taking advantage of me (not really that true, she was a little over protective). It really hurt me and I cried for a week but I was raised to never dishonor my mom so I just dealt with it and cut him off without an explanation. I then had to find new friends and so I joined this group and made a new best friend who I actually knew since 2nd grade. We'll call him J. J was a tall white guy and from walking around campus with him, I noticed he got attention easily from certain girls. Also we had gym together and this girl who I somewhat had a crush on liked him. Also another girl agreed to make out with him and he rejected her. He basically rejects every girl lol. J didn't seem interested in relationships/sex. He was raised to be a good kid with religious morals. W/e tho, these were my first experiences being MOGGED.

Also walking up the stairs to class, another girl who I found to be pretty greeted him TOOOO nicely, smiling while looking at him and I was like wtf... okay they probably have the same class together??? But I did not think of it too much because I was not red pilled at all. I was not mindful of lookism theories at the time. I'm only analytical about it now after I've been black pilled.

Point is, he got attention from a lot of girls and I only heard of one girl that liked me that year and she was ehh. My reality was changing so fast because I lost my former best friend who I loved as a brother and I started feeling inadequate when hanging around J.
J didn't feel like a best friend much, but more of a friend I NEEDED because I didn't really have other friends. After 8th grade, I didn't feel confident enough to go to a public high school, so instead, I was home schooled my first 3 years of high school and I isolated myself and became even more socially awkward.

this is TMI, I'll just post this now lol

 

[UnwantedVirgin]

For me it was pre-school, kids started ganging up on me for no reason and in primary school girls would pretend to "date" me as a joke. Didn't help being the shortest kid in the year throughout my schooling years.

 

[Evildoer]

Not sure when exactly, i always felt i'm mistreated because of my looks.

 

[Gyros_Pretcel]

you were 6'3 at twelve??? why wouldnt you just beat the shit out of them?

What Kurdish_Incel said. It was also highly awkward suddenly walking around in a lankish body like that. They didn't call me goofy for nothing..

School was also ultraconservative and tried to sweep everything under the carpet, but physical violence is apparently evil. They would have thrown me from the school lol and it was the only one where I lived.
Earlier I had to clean every fucking day the schoolyard after school for a case, where we scuffled in a playful manner and a guy tripped against a dustbin with his head. Should have Er'd the headteacher tbh.

I also resent violence in general and at that point it was basically like in those films, where the autist giants brain goes into catharsis and they just circle around and call him names...

And what would I have achieved anyway? Would have had to purge two hole classes.

In groundschool people were once piling up on me and I had a mental break down and took my chair and sent two of them to hospital. The bullying just got worse afterwards. They knew the teachers already had a down on me.

For me it was pre-school, kids started ganging up on me for no reason and in primary school girls would pretend to "date" me as a joke. Didn't help being the shortest kid in the year throughout my schooling years.

Hate those pretend games. I can't trust anyone until today because of it...

Then in 7th grade my mom forced me to split with my best friend (bfs since 2nd grade) because she thought he was taking advantage of me (not really that true, she was a little over protective).

So she thougt he played you for some benefits, because you had a lot of toys or sth.? Elaborate pls more about you mom. What's TMI?

 

[ticktock]

So she thougt he played you for some benefits, because you had a lot of toys or sth.? Elaborate pls more about you mom. What's TMI?

My mom claimed my ex best friend lied about me to his mom and the principal which would give me a bad rep all so he can look good to his mom. I actually don't remember the fine details lmao because that case was not THAT serious to me. Besides that, I felt we had a good relationship, but my mom would disagree with me. She's the type that HATES to be taken advantage of probably because she was abused by her sister growing up. My mom is known to overreact at times.

and TMI means too much info.
I felt I was ranting for too long