Venting When I'm truly depressed I can't mask it

[SupremeAutist]

My parents always tell me that I should just mask my unhappiness and that everyone does the same thing. I can do it when I'm just a little sad but when I'm genuinely depressed like I am now I can't hide it.

I've just been avoiding talking to anyone for the last two weeks because of it. I can't function in society like this.

 

[joocel52]

Same man, you can only mask mentall issues to an extent. I feel like i have to do it cause my moms mental health is directly infkuenced by mine, but its so hard

 

[SupremeAutist]

Same man, you can only mask mentall issues to an extent. I feel like i have to do it cause my moms mental health is directly infkuenced by mine, but its so hard

It's manageable when minimal but at the moment I can't mask it at all.

 

[joocel52]

It's manageable when minimal but at the moment I can't mask it at all.

I was in your situation a while ago, it cost me 4 exams which i failed in uni and even more suffering for my mom. Its very hard i know, but tbh you have to hide it when you arent alone

 

[SupremeAutist]

I was in your situation a while ago, it cost me 4 exams which i failed in uni and even more suffering for my mom. Its very hard i know, but tbh you have to hide it when you arent alone

I'm thinking of either redoing the year or dropping out at the moment. I've already fucked up a good bit of this uni year

 

[joocel52]

I'm thinking of either redoing the year or dropping out at the moment. I've already fucked up a good bit of this uni year

Look man, in my case me begging the management to consider my mental state was enough for them to go "ok we will allow you to do the exams you failed in seconed semester of seconed year". They have to take into account when a student talks about mental health problems bec they are afraid of legal action against them (admittedly due to was here in jewland they also were less strict this year). Id advice you to try the same. If it doesnt work restartimg the year would be good too. Ofc maybe you havent fucked up too much and you can finish the year normally.

 

[lowz1r]

My parents always tell me that I should just mask my unhappiness and that everyone does the same thing.

that's cope. most people who appear happy are actually happy.

 

[DarkStar]

My parents always tell me that I should just mask my unhappiness and that everyone does the same thing.

Kinda bad advice tbh

My parents have said stuff along the lines of "man up" or whatever, but I'm not sure they've ever told me outright to "mask" it though I did learn it myself. I mean, them saying "be positive" is kind of that.

Thing is, they are kinda right since everyone/most are unhappy. Though they don't understand that for guys such as us, it's much worse than on average.

I can do it when I'm just a little sad but when I'm genuinely depressed like I am now I can't hide it.

Yeah I get how you feel

I can mask myself very easily, but when I do get depressed it sort of "half falls off" if that makes any sense: I can somewhat keep it together, but then I also fall off and am more visibly down, emotionless, and just seemingly empty as usual.

I've just been avoiding talking to anyone for the last two weeks because of it.

Brutal, I know that feeling

Best thing to do is to try talking to any friends/acquaintances randomly. Just ask them something and strike-up some conversation to see how it goes.

I can't function in society like this.

 

[turbosperg]

just mask my unhappiness

Just be an NPC bro

 

[DarkStar]

that's cope. most people who appear happy are actually happy.

To a degree yeah, but the reality is everyone nowadays is more "down" on average due to various factors.

I'm thinking of either redoing the year or dropping out at the moment. I've already fucked up a good bit of this uni year

Same here, I did do better on many things, but I also didn't reach my goals I wanted & am worried about some exams I might fail.