And what do you think you can do differently to get any worthwhile female attention?
Well I'm planning to try bodybuilding and Brazilian jujitsu (started already). I'm 100 lbs now and ectomorph, so really hard to build muscle, but if I eat a lot or take a gainer and really lift like 4-5 days a week, I should be able to get much more built. And bjj still let's you be killer tough at my size. Wont fix my height but I'm 5'5-5'6, so not totally disqualified if get more built.
I also want to improve my personal style. I've always worked in a kitchen at a sports bar and just worn over sized jerseys and baseball caps and sneakers. Pretty standard in my city and not a good look on a small frame. I've been really thinking about it though and the edgy/ biker look could work for me if I get a little more built. Grow out a beard and sculpt it to have a strong jawline that'll completely mask my weak chin and sqint a bit for that hunter look. Match my hair to the look, maybe get a big tattoo, and wear more fitted/ ripped jeans and t's and a leather jacket. Totally different me.
(Basically this look)
Lastly, ive always been 'nice guy' week/ soft/ timid and lacking confidence when talking to girls. I put them on a pedestal and went in assuming rejection, which combined with my size is the most beta weak look ever. It only got worse as I got older and then I stopped trying altogether.
So I've been reading about the qualities and attitudes that attract and turn women on and also the ones that turn them off or that they find repulsive. I'm going to start approaching now (even though I haven't looksmaxed or stylemaxed yet) and practice using some of this stuff to reduce my anxiety and get comfortable talking to girls, and maybe even being flirtatious or sexual in a non-creepy or threatening way.
Then once I've looksmaxed I'll be ready to go in for real. That's my plan anyway. I estimate it'll take 3-6 months near term, and a year or two to 'really' transform myself. But I'm determined (now anyway).
Dude, if you are an ugly manlet, it isn't your fault you have never been desired.
But are: a) 'Not being instantly desired while putting in little to no effort and in spite of your character flaws.', and b) 'Never having a hope of being desired due to reasons that are entirely out of your control.' The same thing?
As far as I can tell, being Incel literally means it's over. You were dead in the water from the very beginning due to reasons that were outside of your control, and what's more.. there's nothing you can ever to do change it.
So by definition, if there's anything at all you 'could' do that could increases your chances at getting a girl and you refuse to do it... you are a Volcel. Because you could have done it and 'voluntarily' chose not to. Otherwise all the normies who don't get pussy thrown at them, and yet refuse to try, would be Incels too. And tbh.. based on the comments I'm reading so far, that's all that 90% of this forum is.
