Discussion What does "try working on your personality" mean to you?

[Nordicel94]

I've been in the Blackpill community for 10 years and I could write an essay on what Bluepillers mean when they say that phrase and why it's utterly nonsense, but what do you personally take that statement to mean? What concrete actions do they think "improving your personality" entails in your eyes.

 

[joocel52]

>Showering more often
>learning to respect women
>consuming content created by women, bipoc folks and so on
>not being a heckin reactionary incel chud

 

[Darth Aries]

It means trying to NTmax when you’re nonNT which is impossible because the way your brain is wired is genetic and trying to act NT when you’re not just makes you look even more nonNT and autistic than you already look.

 

[Da_Yunez]

I've been in the Blackpill community for 10 years and I could write an essay on what Bluepillers mean when they say that phrase and why it's utterly nonsense, but what do you personally take that statement to mean? What concrete actions do they think "improving your personality" entails in your eyes.

Its "JUST BE NT VRO!!!" theory

 

[TheJester]

Time Management and maybe be more bluepilled, behave "normal". A rational human - basically the opposite of me.

 

[kaijicel]

jestermaxxing

 

[TheJester]

jestermaxxing

More like the opposite because I heard that A LOT from women especially when I was in HS.

 

[Nordicel94]

>Showering more often
>learning to respect women
>consuming content created by women, bipoc folks and so on
>not being a heckin reactionary incel chud

Haha yes indeed.

What's funny is that "respecting women" is more of a social attitude rather than a personality trait. Your personality is the core you and how you interact with the world, not your opinion. If you somehow crank your "respecting women"-trait up to the same level as your primary personality traits, such as being kind, funny, helpful, it comes off as not genuine. "Being respectful" is a personality trait that most people have towards, everyone, but "being respectful to Native Americans" as a personality trait just becomes overly specific and forced.

 

[joocel52]

Haha yes indeed.

What's funny is that "respecting women" is more of a social attitude rather than a personality trait. Your personality is the core you and how you interact with the world, not your opinion. If you somehow crank your "respecting women"-trait up to the same level as your primary personality traits, such as being kind, funny, helpful, it comes off as not genuine. "Being respectful" is a personality trait that most people have towards, everyone, but "being respectful to Native Americans" as a personality trait just becomes overly specific and forced.

Exactely. Its not really personality - its a social norm. The native american example is good bec its no longer an inherent aspect of ones personality. At any rate we both know the level of respect a man has towards women has very little affect on his success with them

 

[kaijicel]

More like the opposite because I heard that A LOT from women especially when I was in HS.

so they want you to be the opposite of funny? that only works if you are like chad i thought

 

[TheJester]

so they want you to be the opposite of funny? that only works if you are like chad i thought

Calm, stoic, focused and tall are the personality traits that seem to have worked on pretty much all girls from 8th grade onwards. Being a Jester was always just "Hes a friend" or "Hes the class clown" kinda guy.

That said you can be funny, but no one who had girlfriends ever 'overdid it'.

 

[RandomGuy]

It means trying to NTmax when you’re nonNT which is impossible because the way your brain is wired is genetic and trying to act NT when you’re not just makes you look even more nonNT and autistic than you already look.

View: https://youtu.be/_2NGeTbzDXU?si=bs3my9VpdrJQaXAC

 

[kaijicel]

Calm, stoic, focused and tall are the personality traits that seem to have worked on pretty much all girls from 8th grade onwards. Being a Jester was always just "Hes a friend" or "Hes the class clown" kinda guy.

That said you can be funny, but no one who had girlfriends ever 'overdid it'.

tall as personality trait?
were they good looking?

 

[kaijicel]

That said you can be funny, but no one who had girlfriends ever 'overdid it'.

very true

 

[SocialOutkast95]

It literally can't change your personality, it's innate with you by the time you're like 4-6 years old. So, anything traumatic or weird that happens to you around those delicate times in your development will lead to a abnormal personality. So when people say "work on yourself - personality" type of shit, tell them to eat shit and get bent. Nothing you do for yourself will change your personality. Now, sure, you can try suppressing certain emotions and certain thoughts, but overall, that's just like trying to keep the demon inside your basement (think Evil Dead). Shit's a fucking sham, a coping mechanism for normie faggots.

 

[Darth Aries]

View: https://youtu.be/_2NGeTbzDXU?si=bs3my9VpdrJQaXAC

Women aren’t funny

 

[Nordicel94]

It literally can't change your personality, it's innate with you by the time you're like 4-6 years old. So, anything traumatic or weird that happens to you around those delicate times in your development will lead to a abnormal personality. So when people say "work on yourself - personality" type of shit, tell them to eat shit and get bent. Nothing you do for yourself will change your personality. Now, sure, you can try suppressing certain emotions and certain thoughts, but overall, that's just like trying to keep the demon inside your basement (think Evil Dead). Shit's a fucking sham, a coping mechanism for normie faggots.

Very true. Your personality is like a cathedral built brick by brick based on your genetics and your life experiences from birth. Trying to change your core personality in adulthood is like trying to move the stones with your bare hands. No one who has been very shy all their life at 25yo will be the life of the party at 26yo because they "improved their personality". Sure, they can practice and adjust and be more sociable, but to their core, they're a shy person who will not be able to perform at a level socially as someone who has always been extroverted. Telling people to "work on their personality" is truly an insult because it's an attack on their very core being, and the problem is that it comes from people who don't even know you, Redditors who say this don't even know your personality and yet tell you to improve it, because God forbid, it couldn't possibly be your face or height holding you back...

 

[Ubermenschvirtues]

>Showering more often
>learning to respect women
>consuming content created by women, bipoc folks and so on
>not being a heckin reactionary incel chud

 

[Myst]

being a Neutrotypical, agreeable, conformist fuck

 

[BSGMANLET]

A cuck.
The same women that said this are the same ones that go out with good looking dudes despite how bad there personality is.
How do I know. I've seen it through ms,hs even as a adult.
If she wants you to change your personality, she doesn't truly respect you she's only using you for assets.
Doesn't matter what age, that mindset women have in the high-school years are the same when they hit the real world.
Here's an example.


View: https://youtu.be/FKaLkhA63QQ?si=BVFDnVfKYsIUqaY5

 

[SocialOutkast95]

Very true. Your personality is like a cathedral built brick by brick based on your genetics and your life experiences from birth. Trying to change your core personality in adulthood is like trying to move the stones with your bare hands. No one who has been very shy all their life at 25yo will be the life of the party at 26yo because they "improved their personality". Sure, they can practice and adjust and be more sociable, but to their core, they're a shy person who will not be able to perform at a level socially as someone who has always been extroverted. Telling people to "work on their personality" is truly an insult because it's an attack on their very core being, and the problem is that it comes from people who don't even know you, Redditors who say this don't even know your personality and yet tell you to improve it, because God forbid, it couldn't possibly be your face or height holding you back...

I worked in the restaurant business for over a decade (before I inevitably quit - mind you), and even though I picked up on some social-cue's and somewhat could "adjust" to normalcy, it was all for nothing at the end. Even when you think you've made progress in the social-sphere, it all becomes very apparent that ppl around you were simply tolerating you. I was in fact still a laughing stock since I had started when I was 16. You can try as hard as you want to "fit in", but "they" (normies) will never accept you for who you are. That's as black pill as you can get, that's as harsh of a reality that you can face.

The only positive side of all this is that at least now you can forgive yourself, realize it wasn't your fault, move on and fuck off from the rest of society. It gave me a good wake up call when I quit and having nobody give a shit that I was leaving. There is no loyalty, there is no real "friendships" out there.. it's all a fucking lie.

 

[Lazyandtalentless]

jestermaxxing

 

[Wolnir]

They probably mean to stop being resentful of women for rejecting you. They don't understand that you become resentful after being rejected and treated poorly by others because of the way that you look. In reality, personality doesn't matter much because there is plenty of men with bad personalities that get into relationships because they are good looking.

Everything ties back to your looks. You're more likely to be outgoing, confident and have a positive outlook on life if you're good looking because you're always receiving positive reinforcement from people. I have been called ugly, never had positive reinforcement from my peers, now and during my formative years, this forms a negative personality and it is all because of my looks.

 

[turbosperg]

What concrete actions do they think "improving your personality" entails in your eyes.

Just don't be autistic and be good-looking.

 

[Pancakecel]

Nothing, if somebody says that line it tells you all you need to know about them, they can be ignored.

 

[travis_bickle_]

so they want you to be the opposite of funny? that only works if you are like chad i thought

Nothing will work if you are a sub 5 male

 

[travis_bickle_]

Women aren’t funny

 

[kaijicel]

Nothing will work if you are a sub 5 male

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[Izayacel]

Nothing will work if you are a sub 5 male

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[Ibrahim997]

Nothing will work if you are a sub 5 male

True, foids like being dominated. Sub 5s don't fill the tick box.