Discussion What does it even mean to be in love for normies who have casual sex?

[Sex-Starved Beast]

Average threads on 4chan after it's been taken over by sexhavers

Why don't I like this girl? I hate myself for it
>she is incredibly smart (studying law at the best uni in the country)
>has a relatively stable family life
>good social life
>comes from money
>very pretty
>great in bed
The list goes on... but something is just stopping me from truly FEELING for her like I have done with a woman before

Notice how he dropped the "great in bed" like it was nothing

Should I confess my love?
She's sweet, pretty, the sex is amazing. Should I make her my girlfriend?

Again.

WHAT!?

I've always had a simple conception of it. If a boy and a girl kiss, they are boyfriend and girlfriend. If they are boyfriend and girlfriend, they can have sex. It goes in that order. How can people kiss and have sex before they "start dating"? Then what does being in love or in a relationship mean for them?

I fall in love with a girl, I try to date her, she rejects me, we don't even get to hold hands. Someone I truly feel attracted to and I put a lot of effort to get. And these animals are having sex with girls they're not even sure they like? It's wrong and disgusting. It's wrong, because I couldn't do it if I wanted. It's disgusting because only an animal would have sex with someone he doesn't love (I assume that escortcels catch feelings for their prostitutes too). For me sex = Love. With how unattainable it is to me, I couldn't imagine trying to have sex with someone I'm not absolutely obsessed with. And yet these people are figuring out if they like eachother after they've had sex.

I don't know, the order seems reversed to me. First falling in love, then kissing and then sex. Any other way doesn't make sense to me.

It's also become normal that foids kiss random men at parties in clubs. This shouldn't be allowed, I'd never want to have a relationship with a foid who kisses or has sex with someone she doesn't consider to be her boyfriend.

I'm not like some of you guys that say that one should wait until marriage, I don't even want to marry, but this is too much. You should only kiss and have sex with your partner. We're turning into a society of bonobos and cucks.

Does my confusion come from a misconception because I can't tell apart love and lust? But I would never kiss a girl who I wouldn't want to make my girlfriend. I'm not the one who's wrong, it's them, for separating the two concepts in the first place.

TL;DR: How can people tell if they are in love/in a relationship if they also have sex without being in love/in a relationship?

 

[WeirdPanda]

Average threads on 4chan after it's been taken over by sexhavers

Notice how he dropped the "great in bed" like it was nothing

Again.

WHAT!?

I've always had a simple conception of it. If a boy and a girl kiss, they are boyfriend and girlfriend. If they are boyfriend and girlfriend, they can have sex. It goes in that order. How can people kiss and have sex before they "start dating"? Then what does being in love or in a relationship mean for them?

I fall in love with a girl, I try to date her, she rejects me, we don't even get to hold hands. Someone I truly feel attracted to and I put a lot of effort to get. And these animals are having sex with girls they're not even sure they like? It's wrong and disgusting. It's wrong, because I couldn't do it if I wanted. It's disgusting because only an animal would have sex with someone he doesn't love (I assume that escortcels catch feelings for their prostitutes too). For me sex = Love. With how unattainable it is to me, I couldn't imagine trying to have sex with someone I'm not absolutely obsessed with. And yet these people are figuring out if they like eachother after they've had sex.

I don't know, the order seems reversed to me. First falling in love, then kissing and then sex. Any other way doesn't make sense to me.

It's also become normal that foids kiss random men at parties in clubs. This shouldn't be allowed, I'd never want to have a relationship with a foid who kisses or has sex with someone she doesn't consider to be her boyfriend.

I'm not like some of you guys that say that one should wait until marriage, I don't even want to marry, but this is too much. You should only kiss and have sex with your partner. We're turning into a society of bonobos and cucks.

Does my confusion come from a misconception because I can't tell apart love and lust? But I would never kiss a girl who I wouldn't want to make my girlfriend. I'm not the one who's wrong, it's them, for separating the two concepts in the first place.

TL;DR: How can people tell if they are in love/in a relationship if they also have sex without being in love/in a relationship?

Normies are degenerates who just fuck and mate without attachment because they're apes dirty little apes

They're just more ape-brained than us and idk I think in nature mating sort of works like this but I think it's degenerate ape behavior

So love for them is just ape-like love y'know

 

[Yabadadabadoo]

Is he retarded?

 

[generalcoffeejr]

maybe normies are so used to being in relationships that its just clockwork to be having sex before officially dating among other things but thats just what I think

 

[WeirdPanda]

Is he retarded?

Who

 

[Yabadadabadoo]

Who

The guy from the 4chan post

 

[Friezacel]

maybe normies are so used to being in relationships that its just clockwork to be having sex before officially dating among other things but thats just what I think

Not in that universe. Normies nowadays struggle to get into ltrs and if they do they usually get treated like shit and have to jestermax

 

[Sex-Starved Beast]

maybe normies are so used to being in relationships that its just clockwork to be having sex before officially dating among other things but thats just what I think

Except that not all of them date afterwards. They have casual sex, which is sex outside of relationship. But then how can they tell when they actually are in a relationship? That's what I was trying to ask in this thread.

For me if two people do things together but no sex they are friends, and if they also kiss and have sex they are in a relationship. For me it should be that simple, but with casual sex, FWBs, situationships and all that degenerate shit, apparently it isn't.

 

[PureImagination]

4chan became just another Reddit, personally I blame the simps

 

[WhitePilledRage]

Average threads on 4chan after it's been taken over by sexhavers

Notice how he dropped the "great in bed" like it was nothing

Again.

WHAT!?

I've always had a simple conception of it. If a boy and a girl kiss, they are boyfriend and girlfriend. If they are boyfriend and girlfriend, they can have sex. It goes in that order. How can people kiss and have sex before they "start dating"? Then what does being in love or in a relationship mean for them?

I fall in love with a girl, I try to date her, she rejects me, we don't even get to hold hands. Someone I truly feel attracted to and I put a lot of effort to get. And these animals are having sex with girls they're not even sure they like? It's wrong and disgusting. It's wrong, because I couldn't do it if I wanted. It's disgusting because only an animal would have sex with someone he doesn't love (I assume that escortcels catch feelings for their prostitutes too). For me sex = Love. With how unattainable it is to me, I couldn't imagine trying to have sex with someone I'm not absolutely obsessed with. And yet these people are figuring out if they like eachother after they've had sex.

I don't know, the order seems reversed to me. First falling in love, then kissing and then sex. Any other way doesn't make sense to me.

It's also become normal that foids kiss random men at parties in clubs. This shouldn't be allowed, I'd never want to have a relationship with a foid who kisses or has sex with someone she doesn't consider to be her boyfriend.

I'm not like some of you guys that say that one should wait until marriage, I don't even want to marry, but this is too much. You should only kiss and have sex with your partner. We're turning into a society of bonobos and cucks.

Does my confusion come from a misconception because I can't tell apart love and lust? But I would never kiss a girl who I wouldn't want to make my girlfriend. I'm not the one who's wrong, it's them, for separating the two concepts in the first place.

TL;DR: How can people tell if they are in love/in a relationship if they also have sex without being in love/in a relationship?

you sound like a fucking simp.

 

[Antorian]

Normies are closer to animals when compared to people like you or me.
No... even that is unfair, as there are many animals who form deep monogamous bonds for life, without straying.

They are closer to vermin.

 

[Thugs-5-Less]

in love = want fuck

 

[DreamCoper]

Short Answer: they’re animals.

Long Answer:
Guys are rooting a bunch of girls because they have an animalistic biological imperative to do so and it feels good.

Girls either fuck a guy out of their league in an attempt to get him to commit, or they are just plain and simple validation seeking.

 

[SlayerSlayer]

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[SlayerSlayer]

WHY IS THIS SO UNFAIR

 

[SlayerSlayer]

WILL SOMEONE PLEASE TOUCH ME JUST TOUCH MY SHOULDER OVER CLOTHES AND USE A GLOVE EVEN

 

[DreamCoper]

WILL SOMEONE PLEASE TOUCH ME JUST TOUCH MY SHOULDER OVER CLOTHES AND USE A GLOVE EVEN

Me too nigga

 

[Blighteous]

Women live under the delusion that having sex with men that they find attractive will make the same man fall in love and settle down with them

 

[City Incel]

When I was younger I was in love with random and not random foids. I was a total romantic and wanted to have a lot of good sex.

 

[Todd Thundercock]

Girls either fuck a guy out of their league in an attempt to get him to commit, or they are just plain and simple validation seeking.

Simple as this.

Dating has effectively become women Chad chasing. Hypergamy unchecked is a disaster.

 

[starystulejarz]

Average threads on 4chan after it's been taken over by sexhavers

i hate modern 4chin like you wouldn't believe it's full of sexhavers and even married faggots

 

[UglyVirgin]

i hate modern 4chin like you wouldn't believe it's full of sexhavers and even married faggots

 

[starystulejarz]

Normies are closer to animals when compared to people like you or me.
No... even that is unfair, as there are many animals who form deep monogamous bonds for life, without straying.

They are closer to vermin.

 

[anon]

When money dries up, so does love.

 

[DepravedAndDeprived]

want fuck

 

[GrandWizard_137]

God, I remember the days when 4chan was actually good. Like the memes were original and had that organic autistic vibe to it. Plus, most of the users were fellow brocels who'd also be khhv just chilling and having fun on le interwebz. That was early 2010's to around the time of 2016 election. But after that, ever since 4chinz went mainstream and normies/zoomers discovered it, most boards went to complete shit. (I'm looking at you, /pol/). Now the average 4cuck is:
>Truecel LARPing as a white aryan slayer because he's white
>Sand monkeys LARPing as a white aryan nationalist
>Sexhavers gloating about being Chads/HTN and how ugly men aren't white and should be euthanized
>Pajeets LARPing as white aryans in a superpower
>Chinese bots making fun of pajeets

 

[LOLI BREEDING]

such is life under shlomo's omnipresent zogmedia

total normalfag death

 

[D. B. Gooner]

I think people who have casual sex are mentally ill, I can't imagine myself doing that, even given the opportunity.

Porn addiction definitely contributes to this too, I remember when I was 14 I watched those reddit AI voice videos on yt. In one story one guy was expressing how disgusted he felt after finishing on his gfs face. He said "Why am I defiling the face of my girlfriend, whom I really love." And that struck me super hard. People in relationships love each other? They don't just mutually use each other for sex? My only concept of love was porn, so I this was groundbreaking for me.

I haven't gooned or watched porn in nearly 4 months and I have lost any craving for casual sex, but that has also made me a lot more depressed, because now that I only want a real girlfriend, agepill is hitting hard. Why have I not had a girl show interest in me once in my life yet? Even if one ever does, she will be ran through and I will subconsciously be repulsed by her.

Now having sex early into a relationship I think is normal, I think that's how things should be. But your intention should be to have a family with that person, anything less means you're a degenerate.

To me, love is only true if it is love at first sight. It's the only kind of love that makes sense, if you aren't immediately in love with a person, and need to go through "bonding experiences", you are just settling for whoever you can. Those bonds weaken over time, eventually you will get bored of them, and grow resentful. If you are genuinely attracted to a person and they are attracted to you and it's been that way from the start, you have a bond that will never fade.

 

[Arkansasmentalcel]

People who have causal sex can’t seek true love because they are retarded

 

[R(p)apist1488]

It's fucking disgusting. They say sin corrupts the mind and heart and it's true. The base nature of man wants him to be the degenerate who sleeps with many, but the Spirit calls us to something higher. Nietzsche and Jesus talk about this.

These people don't know what love is.

 

[V c z s q e]

It's obvious now that 4chin was a psy op all along. The normies sex havers just help exposed it at the end.

 

[MuddyBuddy]

Women are incapable of love in the western sense. Whether you like it or not the fundamental moral foundation in most western nations is based on christian ethics. The primary authority, Jesus says plainly "Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends." Looking at the attitude the average woman has towards men now and throughout history it's quite clear that no woman would ever lay down her life for a man that wasn't at least her son. Even then it's questionable. Men have routinely shown a capacity to sacrifice their lives for other men, women and children. There is not historical precedent for women doing such.

 

[ItsOverMan]

Normies are closer to animals when compared to people like you or me.
No... even that is unfair, as there are many animals who form deep monogamous bonds for life, without straying.

They are closer to vermin.

Yes. Bald eagles are more deserving of respect for their lifelong unstraying monogamy, only getting a new partner when their current mate dies.

 

[Numetalist]

And these animals are having sex with girls they're not even sure they like?

The culture of casual hookups has consumed them. Actual love becomes an afterthought when you have sex like it's as easy as breathing. Doesn't help that society doesn't see this as a bad thing, so you don't feel bad about doing it since many others seem to be as well

 

[TheAbsoluteMaximum]

I'm with you man; casual sex just doesn't make any sense to me. How are you gonna expose yourself at your most vulnerable to a person you barely know? And then do one of the most intimate acts with them? Personally, I think people who engage in casual sex are broken in some form or another. Have never met anyone who engages in casual sex and thought to myself, "Wow, this person is really well put together!"

Also, it makes sense how marriage rates have plummeted. Why even bother getting married if everything that marriage offers can just be gotten now for free?

As an aside; 4chan is so fucking bad now. Literally every board is infested with normie tier Redditors, and it seems to even have a plethora of "girls" trying to fit in. I put girls in quotes because it could be troonies, but who knows kek.

 

[DutchCel01]

Its brutal. She means nothing to him and is being a slut for him yet someone will have to put in effort and spend money and time to wife her.

 

[the kurdish loner]

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only an animal would have sex with someone he doesn't love

love does not really exist, its all about chemical attraction and genetics

 

[HomicidalSuicidal88]

cant answer that cause idk

 

[sadlemon]

Everyone, girls, guys are fucking animals degenerates. I'm not sure why you and me, are both cursed with feelings. Like for everyone else, they want to get off. So they don't care about girlfriend, boyfriend or whatever the fuck.


And then when you dig deep enough, you'll learn that girls crave rough sex. I don't even understand why, they crave to be utterly used and violated. Like they want their BFs to be rough in bed, the rougher the better and that's how they get off. It's incredible, sweet loving words, cuddling and making love. That may seem gay as fuck to them? because from what i've read, what they really crave is a long cock and being used and treated as shit in bed.

I'm utterly flabbergasted, it's like i was made in a way that's completely incompatible with the world, and then i think about it and feel depressed as fuck. It's not like i even have the chance to cuddle but if i even got a gf, how the fuck would we be compatible?