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Discussion What do you think about the "focus on what you can change" advice?

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It sounds good and logical in theory but in practice, it's usually just another way of saying "just cope". You try to convince the person to give up about the things they want the most and do what they think they can, which in most cases will be cope.
 
Most of things you can change don’t really matter.
 
Yeah it's basically just a cope. The person will go through the self improvement and still find himself in the same situation
 
Most of things you can change don’t really matter.
In terms of sex and romance, what you do definitely matters very little compared to what you are.
 
As useful as your daily horoscopes, like all bluepill advices.
 
It's a good idea for any incel here to looksmaxx in their prime and try to ascend.
If you can't ascend at your absolute best appearance then that's when you can fully accept it's over.
 
It's an other way of saying "give up".

I'm not satisfied with the state of society. I probably can't do shit about it, but I certainly won't pretend I don't mind.
 
If you can't ascend at your absolute best appearance then that's when you can fully accept it's over.
Wouldn't it be kinda revolting to go through all the hassle of looksmaxxing just to find out it's still not enough, though?
 
Looksmaxxing through plastic surgery is one one of the changes you can make. Of course, there are two problems:

1. It's expensive
2. You can only looksmaxx if you already a decent candidate (e.g., a slightly recessed jaw, but you can add some extra bone; balding, but have lots of donor hair, etc). You can't looksmaxx if you're a complete genetic failure.
 
Wouldn't it be kinda revolting to go through all the hassle of looksmaxxing just to find out it's still not enough, though?
Yes it would be suicidefuel, but it's a better alternative to just LDAR at your peak age imo.
 
It's an other way of saying "give up".

I'm not satisfied with the state of society. I probably can't do shit about it, but I certainly won't pretend I don't mind.
Yeah, about society, I pretty much feel I have the duty of calling out the bullshit that happens the most I can, even though, unfortunately, I have to resort to anonimity to do it.
 
Incels should never give up their pursuits in the things that objectively interest them. Not just because some retard responds to your passion with 'cope.' I'm sick of reading this kind of nonsense. You have a right to grow. You have a right to delve into the mysteries of the piano, or water-color painting, or even breeding lizards. You have a right to enjoy ganking the horde on your mixmaxxed human rogue. Etc.

However, when it comes to women, turn the fuck back.
 
Looksmaxxing through plastic surgery is one one of the changes you can make. Of course, there are two problems:

1. It's expensive
2. You can only looksmaxx if you already a decent candidate (e.g., a slightly recessed jaw, but you can add some extra bone; balding, but have lots of donor hair, etc). You can't looksmaxx if you're a complete genetic failure.
Balding is fixable, though not through a very satisfactory way. Super expensive and invasive surgeries, having uncomfortable shit glued to your scalp or taking pills that can fuck up with your hormones for your whole life (not even guaranteed to work).

There are 100% unfixable traits though, for example a skull with a bad format, innocular distance, etc.

Yes it would be suicidefuel, but it's a better alternative to just LDAR at your peak age imo.
I agree, looksmaxxing is only really worth it if what you have is fixable to a satisfactory extent and you're still young. A young teen who's one nose job away from ascension absolutely would benefit from doing it. When you have just one big flaw that can be fixed, it's worth it. But after your old, it's pretty much over anyway, why bother.

Incels should never give up their pursuits in the things that objectively interest them. Not just because some retard responds to your passion with 'cope.' I'm sick of reading this kind of nonsense. You have a right to grow. You have a right to delve into the mysteries of the piano, or water-color painting, or even breeding lizards. You have a right to enjoy ganking the horde on your mixmaxxed human rogue. Etc.

However, when it comes to women, turn the fuck back.
I get the feeling that many people here are so overwhelmed by their lack of romantic and sexual fulfillment they barely have any genuine interests, if any. It's tough to focus on things and being good at them when your basic needs are not met.

I feel privileged to have at least one genuine interest, something that I would still do even if I was granted a harem of females exactly my type, which is writing and playing music. But the dream of my life for many years, which was having a successful band, is pretty much over no matter how hard I try as a 31 yo ugly norwooder from Brazil in 2019.

My other dream is having relationships and sex with young cute girls,. This one would come together with the first one pretty easily if it was achieved, but it's also over now.

No matter how I look at my life, all there's left is cope. At least I still have that genuine interest that makes me happy, I feel happy that a handful of incel brothers enjoy my songs. And maybe I can impact the world somehow through them.
 
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Looks influence every part of your life, it's mostly bluepilled cope.
 
normie advice, u can improve on a few things tbh
 
It's an other way of saying "give up".

I'm not satisfied with the state of society. I probably can't do shit about it, but I certainly won't pretend I don't mind.
 
It's an other way of saying "give up".

I'm not satisfied with the state of society. I probably can't do shit about it, but I certainly won't pretend I don't mind.
 
What I CAN change has no interest or bearin to how foids view me unless you include betabuxx which is the retardedly cucked.
 
It doesn't really sound logical to me at all because its very vague, it isn't "real advice"

Better advice would be - "focus on building wealth", that's something more specific

Normies just love to give "open ended advice" because they don't want to feel responsible for someones failure due to their shitty advice
 
Its 100% legit advice
 
There's a decent amount of changeable things.
But sometimes it's just not enough.
 

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