Now that I've gotten your attention...
Sometimes, we here ask "why incels, why now?" The obvious answer is that the Internet allows eccentrics to meet. These groups sometimes turn into echo chambers that encourage the worst kind of behavior.
But I think there's more to it than that. Society's changing faster than ever before. Technology, economics, marketable skills and social norms seem to change by the day. It's not easy to keep up, and a lot of people are left behind.
I think Incels fall into this category, a bit. A lot of them don't seem to understand social norms. We all knew weird kids back in school. Some of them got lucky, were helped by a kindly teacher or a good friend, but a lot of them drifted through without any clear direction and ended up as even weirder adults. They might have come from broken families, had psychological problems or had some other trouble.
There's an economic version of this, too, one that's taken a far worse toll on society. People graduate without knowing the skills they need, and are unable to keep up in a world that demands you constantly learn in order to stay relevant. Frankly, I don't think everyone is even capable of doing this, but even some people who are get burnt out or discouraged.
Incels are a social version of this. I'm not saying it's not their fault. A lot of these guys have shitty attitudes. I'm not someone who's had a lot of luck in love (didn't lose my v card until I was in my early thirties), but I never blamed or hated women for not sleeping with me.
But not everyone's as resilient as I am. Some people will break under the strain. Right now, I don't think society's very good at helping those left behind. The Internet also worsens social isolation, since it gives people an easy but unsatisfactory substitute for the real thing.
We also don't have as many widespread social norms as we did in the past. Conformity's not good, but there's a dark side to too much individualism. Kids without clear directions on behavior will have to figure things out themselves. Some will do okay, but some will not.
Incels are responsible for their behavior. And their behavior is often pretty awful and sometimes actually evil. Society could be doing more to prevent people from ending up in this stage, but I have to admit that I don't really know a surefire solution for this.
