Truecel trait: your timing is horrible and absolutely unlucky.... it's always about a few minutes or seconds

[TheGrayWolf]

I was outside today just for the sake of it to swim in the lake, bc it's very hot, it went more or less ok, I could keep my head down and earphones in, but a minute before I got into "my" car, a family approached from the path 90° adjacent to where I was walking and they said something about my looks (headphones died a minute before). My ok mood was ruined. Sure I noticed that others were aware of me, but I could cope and ignore it.

Even if I manage to block out all visual and auditory stimuli, bullying almost until the end, I can be sure that something will mess it up before I get home or in the safety of the car.

If I left maybe 10-15 seconds earlier, this wouldn't have happened and today would have been a "success". But noooo... I took 10 seconds too long to walk or in the water or left my home 10 seconds too late. Who needs to think like that??

It's all very jinxed.

 

[Cryotron]

basically things often don't go the way you wanted them to.

 

[TheGrayWolf]

basically things often don't go the way you wanted them to.

yeah, exactly. things go ok/not bad (I can ignore the stares with my hat) but then seconds before the safety of home or car, something happens I can't avoid (like hearing "he's ugly"). Hard to explain.

 

[sk.feelsdevil]

Bruuutal
I never got to experience what you have. At most people were addressing me with feminine pronouns when I was little on account of my voice and hair. Guess that that's the burden of a trucel.

 

[Cryotron]

In my experience, often when i pass a couple of females or just group of young people i hear laughter or jiggling few moments after they passed me. In 16km walk recently i remember at least 4 of such instanced happened. Better to wear noise cancelling headphones so you don't hear people laugh or talk crap about you.

 

[TheGrayWolf]

In my experience, often when i pass a couple of females or just group of young people i hear laughter or jiggling few moments after they passed me. In 16km walk recently i remember at least 4 of such instanced happened.

Brutal man, that's exactly me as well. I sometimes feel as if FATALISM / DETERMINISM (the latter more) is a real thing, it certainly feels like it.
How do you feel when it happens? Sad? Angry? I feel mostly sad but never say anything back.

Better to wear noise cancelling headphones so you don't hear people laugh or talk crap about you.

Exactly. I did have noise-canceling earphones but they died a minute before this happened. Also my mom was with me today, her hearing isn't as good as mine. She was talking to me so I had my earphones out but I was the one who took 10-15 seconds too long somewhere. It's ALWAYS about a few seconds, maybe a minute.

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Bruuutal
I never got to experience what you have. At most people were addressing me with feminine pronouns when I was little on account of my voice and hair. Guess that that's the burden of a trucel.

Same here, I have short hair and despite my stubble I mostly have and deep voice, people mostly older ones, sometimes address me with feminine pronouns due to my lack of facial bones/strange head and jaw shape.

A kid once asked his mom, "mom is that a man or woman", to which I was happy to hear the mom said, "that's a man." Or another time a kid asked "why does this man look so weird?" the parents said "hey don't say that."

Sorry, I don't wanna bother you with all this, I just remembered right now bc of what you said.

 

[Cryotron]

wish i could become low inhib and stop giving a crap about what people think or how they would react, it will be like escaping prison of the mind

 

[TheGrayWolf]

wish i could become low inhib and stop giving a crap about what people think or how they would react, it will be like escaping prison of the mind

same here man, most of the time I can't. it's disrespectful as fuck to voice one's opinion on my looks + the implications it brings (no girlfriend)

 

[sk.feelsdevil]

Sorry, I don't wanna bother you with all this, I just remembered right now bc of what you said.

Don't worry. This is a place to vent all of those frustrations.
Honestly I benefit off of you telling me this because I know that I have it twice as easy as you. Makes my personal struggle all the easier.

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Don't worry. This is a place to vent all of those frustrations.
Honestly I benefit off of you telling me this because I know that I have it twice as easy as you. Makes my personal struggle all the easier.

That's good at least but do you feel bad for me?

 

[sk.feelsdevil]

That's good at least but do you feel bad for me?

Of course I do. You are probably the biggest trucel here. It was over before it ever began for you.
If anyone deserves compassion then it is you.

 

[Paladin]

Incel life is full of bad luck

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Incel life is full of bad luck

Some evil witch or wizard must be casting spells on us. Of course I don’t believe that but it seems like it , given this repeated pattern of last-minute bad luck
Edit- sometimes the bad experiences happen throughout a situation (going outside, not only the end). But a bad occurrence will ALWAYS happen

 

[Pancakecel]

That sucks man, fuckin normfags are the worst. Sorry that happened.

Was the swimming at least enjoyable?

 

[TheGrayWolf]

That sucks man, fuckin normfags are the worst. Sorry that happened.

Was the swimming at least enjoyable?

Yeah it was nice, thanks bro!

 

[HotDogCel]

Sorry that happened bro.
Tbh its good you still manage to go in these places anyway.
I would say that if you already are partly able to isolate yourself from visual and auditive stimuli to avoid their negative reactions to your looks, then you might simply decide to not let the ones that go through the filter bother you.
I mean tbh you're doing well by continuing doing stuff in life and I hope you can keep finding ways to ignore all this, that it somewhat will make u stronger rather than making u somber. Idk what I can say more tbh you are probably the one who should give me advice on that topic kek.
Hope ur having an okay day at least

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Sorry that happened bro.
Tbh its good you still manage to go in these places anyway.
I would say that if you already are partly able to isolate yourself from visual and auditive stimuli to avoid their negative reactions to your looks, then you might simply decide to not let the ones that go through the filter bother you.
I mean tbh you're doing well by continuing doing stuff in life and I hope you can keep finding ways to ignore all this, that it somewhat will make u stronger rather than making u somber. Idk what I can say more tbh you are probably the one who should give me advice on that topic kek.
Hope ur having an okay day at least

Thanks bro, really appreciate it. That's actually great advice but often my autistic brain just can't stop being sad about it or start to think about my past. It's a dilemma bc I don't want to be inside for more than 3 days but I also don't want to go outside (my mom sometimes makes me go out), I just somehow think it might all be better in a year or so but if I use logic that's not the case.

I totally get what you're saying, I think it makes me both stronger and somber if that's even possible. Thinking about the past and future makes me more somber than the actual situations if that makes sense. Otherwise you basically said it all.
Thanks man, otherwise it was okay, hope the same for you.