Escortmaxxing gets better as you do it more often but you need to look up user reviews on your local review boards to find the best girls. Also avoid classified sites and independent escorts and stick with agencies if you can (unless there aren't any agencies where you live). When I started out I was nervous like you and sperged a lot but gradually I became more callous and stoppes caring. I just come in, pay the money, and take what I want.
And for fuck's sake, try to be clean. Brush teeth thoroughly, clean your dick, shave your pubes. The cleanet you are the more willing the girls will be to provide you services.
That being said, there are definitely some drawbacks. Being an incel, I think it is definitely more rare to have good experiences in general because from my experience, it is sometimes very apparent that the girl is... less than thrilled when she sees you. If you stick to well-reviewed girls, chances of encountering this are minimal but non-zero. Also some escorts have restrictions on race and most frequently blacks and Indians are the target so for currycels, it is almost impossible to fuck escorts at all. I cannot stress enough to avoid independent escorts (as in non agenct affiliated) because they frequently overcharge and are often man-haters. If the girl has a twitter, always skim through it before you decide to see it to make sure her pics aren't fake or old and to see if she trash talks clients. Finally, always try to be safe. Bareback blowjob (bbbj) is common and relatively safe but not 100% risk-free. I myself recently had a very bad UTI after seeing an escort which has kind of put me on guard about the whole thing.
I would say don't give up just yet as escortmaxxing is decent entertainment but just be aware that it is a transaction (lots of saps fall of the girl/believe that she likes them if she puts on a good show: avoid falling into that trap). Also be aware that it is just an elevated form of masturbation so don't expect escortcelling to fill the emotional void you probably have. If you go into it with that expectation, you will walk out of every session feeling worse than when you entered.
