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Prior to these two innovations, online dating required sitting at a computer and typing up a profile. It also required you to sit at the computer and search through other peoples' profiles. It was more inefficient, and thus it required more of a time investment. And since it took more time, it weeded out women who weren't actually serious about meeting someone.
Fast forward to today, a woman can make a dating app profile that merely consists of a handful of good pictures of herself. Her required time investment is close to zero. She can swipe men whenever she's bored and if she is attractive (a 6 or above) she will match with 90% of the men who have an active profile. This not only supplies her with an endless pipeline of potential dick, it gives her a nice ego boost to know that so many men find her desirable. Whenever she is bored or lonely or feeling ugly she can exchange messages with a guy who you can be sure will be doing all he can to entertain and woo her. If she is particularly entertained and/or intrigued by him, she might even go meet him. Or she might just go have sex with one of the Chads she previously met on an app and bangs whenever she feels the need. In any case, she is in no hurry to settle down with any one man - because the app tells her there is always another around the corner, and why settle for Average Joe when Prince Charming might be one swipe away? Oh, and did I mention that she can do all of this in complete privacy? None of her friends and family have any idea who she is talking to or sleeping with. She can be as anonymous and secretive as she'd like with it. There is no accountability and no risk of being labeled a slut for sleeping around.
Smartphone/dating apps are like the Netflix of sex for women. The illusion of infinite choice combined with instant access and total ease of use. And just like when you're scrolling through Netflix and end up watching trailers for an hour because you can't settle on any one movie, these women squander their prime years in a procession of short flings rather than settling down with a husband. The problem is the technology itself and our human nature. It's like if you sit someone down in front of a bunch of junk food for a few hours - the large majority of people simply won't be able to resist eating it. It is the same in regards to smartphones and dating apps - when you give young women seemingly infinite sexual choice at their fingertips you not only encourage them to take advantage of it as much as they'd like, but you devalue its importance in their minds. Why do women in their prime years behave so poorly these days? Because they view men as completely disposable commodities. From their perspective, there is always another (maybe hotter) guy just around the corner. So their bad behavior doesn't matter. There is no shame or self-reflection or even considering how her personal behavior might be contributing to her dating outcomes - it's just on to the next. Because there is always a next for her. Until the wall approaches and she scrambles to settle down. But by that point she's been so used up that her emotions are dulled. Her brain literally does not possess the necessary oxytocin sensitivity anymore to bond her to a man. She's like a rental car that's been driven into the ground after just a few years.
tl;dr Smartphones and dating apps have upended the sexual marketplace to a greater degree than anything in history, including the contraceptive pill. Never before have women had instant, on-demand and completely anonymous/private access to sex with potentially thousands of men in their immediate area. It's like giving a 10 year old boy a real bazooka to play with. In both cases, they aren't equipped to handle that kind of power, and will likely end up destroying themselves and those around them.
Fast forward to today, a woman can make a dating app profile that merely consists of a handful of good pictures of herself. Her required time investment is close to zero. She can swipe men whenever she's bored and if she is attractive (a 6 or above) she will match with 90% of the men who have an active profile. This not only supplies her with an endless pipeline of potential dick, it gives her a nice ego boost to know that so many men find her desirable. Whenever she is bored or lonely or feeling ugly she can exchange messages with a guy who you can be sure will be doing all he can to entertain and woo her. If she is particularly entertained and/or intrigued by him, she might even go meet him. Or she might just go have sex with one of the Chads she previously met on an app and bangs whenever she feels the need. In any case, she is in no hurry to settle down with any one man - because the app tells her there is always another around the corner, and why settle for Average Joe when Prince Charming might be one swipe away? Oh, and did I mention that she can do all of this in complete privacy? None of her friends and family have any idea who she is talking to or sleeping with. She can be as anonymous and secretive as she'd like with it. There is no accountability and no risk of being labeled a slut for sleeping around.
Smartphone/dating apps are like the Netflix of sex for women. The illusion of infinite choice combined with instant access and total ease of use. And just like when you're scrolling through Netflix and end up watching trailers for an hour because you can't settle on any one movie, these women squander their prime years in a procession of short flings rather than settling down with a husband. The problem is the technology itself and our human nature. It's like if you sit someone down in front of a bunch of junk food for a few hours - the large majority of people simply won't be able to resist eating it. It is the same in regards to smartphones and dating apps - when you give young women seemingly infinite sexual choice at their fingertips you not only encourage them to take advantage of it as much as they'd like, but you devalue its importance in their minds. Why do women in their prime years behave so poorly these days? Because they view men as completely disposable commodities. From their perspective, there is always another (maybe hotter) guy just around the corner. So their bad behavior doesn't matter. There is no shame or self-reflection or even considering how her personal behavior might be contributing to her dating outcomes - it's just on to the next. Because there is always a next for her. Until the wall approaches and she scrambles to settle down. But by that point she's been so used up that her emotions are dulled. Her brain literally does not possess the necessary oxytocin sensitivity anymore to bond her to a man. She's like a rental car that's been driven into the ground after just a few years.
tl;dr Smartphones and dating apps have upended the sexual marketplace to a greater degree than anything in history, including the contraceptive pill. Never before have women had instant, on-demand and completely anonymous/private access to sex with potentially thousands of men in their immediate area. It's like giving a 10 year old boy a real bazooka to play with. In both cases, they aren't equipped to handle that kind of power, and will likely end up destroying themselves and those around them.
