In my humble opinion, as long as you're not extremely dicklet, don't think it's that important as people think. More like a social and visual thing. I've done quite a lot of research on the female orgasm subject and tbh most women can't even reach it simply through vaginal sex. It's a physiological barrier they have. Also, if they manage to have the genetics which allow them to orgasm through PIV, the terminal nerve connections that are responsible for it are located within the first 8cm of the vaginal canal.
Now, this is simply anedoctal, but from what I've heard from escorts, if anything, big dicks hurt. That's why it's very common for very men to get turned down by them.
I think, in my opinion, that the whole big dick thing is way more psychological than anything. Same thing with quickie and rough sex. Tecnically, women ain't getting any physical pleasure out of it.