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On One Man's Reason for Suicide - Dustin K MacDonald
Note: I normally keep to a post every other day, but I think this post deserves to come out now, instead my next post will be on Saturday rather than Friday. Suicide is an intensely personal decision. What drives a person to kill themselves is a question often asked of those bereaved by suicide...
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This reminds me of the classic “Six Stage Process for Coming Out”, also known as the Cass Identity Model (Cass, 1979) In this model there are six stages for a person who is coming to terms with their sexuality:
Essentially, the person finds themselves confused by their sexuality, then realizes they are different from others. They tolerate these differences, then begin to celebrate them. Next, they feel proud and wish to let everyone know, and finally they synthesize their sexuality into their broader identity; it becomes merely another part of them.
- Confusion
- Comparison
- Tolerance
- Acceptance
- Pride
- Synthesis.
Applying this to McDermid’s situation, he had passed through Confusion and was stuck on Comparison. He could not see past the advantages that others had in their life, to move on to tolerance. He was miles away from tolerating being alone, accepting it, being proud of it (if that would ever occur) and certainly nowhere near his romantic life being a single piece of his identity.
The absolute state of therapists: you should be PROUD to be an unwanted unloveable subhuman piece of genetic trash