Story The time I was first acknowledged as ugly by my family(that I'm aware of)

[Deleted member 8353]

When I was about 15 and taking part in an extended family visit, a relative of mine(paternal grandmother's sister) was talking about me to my dad, and I heard/watched her say "his face still looks the same" with a look of obvious pity. I couldn't hear my dad, but judging by his face, I don't think he disagreed with her. Keep in mind, at this point it had been several years since the onset of puberty, as I could ejaculate at age 12, so late onset puberty isn't the issue here(if anything puberty made me look considerably worse overall).

At the time it made me incredibly depressed, as I had been trying to disassociate my (then) current self from the fat kid that I had been from 10-14. I was still coping that all the mockery and rejection up to that point had been due to my weight, so anything acknowledging the contrary fucking crushed me. Even taking non anglefrauded pictures would sometimes make me cry, that's how bad my denial was at the time.

It's funny how everyone is so clearly cognizant of lookism, yet nobody is allowed to talk about it or even directly acknowledge it's existence to other people.

 

[Deleted member 17724]

if anything puberty made me look considerably worse overall

That's the case for most us probably. I was quite attractive in elementary school, people would often compliment me on my looks back then, saying that I was cute and such. It was at age 15 that I lost the last of my good facial features.

 

[Deleted member 8353]

That's the case for most us probably. I was quite attractive in elementary school, people would often compliment me on my looks back then, saying that I was cute and such. It was at age 15 that I lost the last of my good facial features.

The only people who've ever told me I looked good have been my own mother and a therapist, JFL. I remember a therapist telling me to stop thinking about myself like this, but if everyone is sending me signals that I'm unattractive, wtf am I supposed to think? I don't need therapy to delude myself.

 

[Joelossus]

That's the case for most us probably. I was quite attractive in elementary school, people would often compliment me on my looks back then, saying that I was cute and such. It was at age 15 that I lost the last of my good facial features.

That hasn't really been the case for me tbh, i was pretty much always known as the ugly kid, despite the fact that i've never been fat and neither did i have acne, i have always been just plain ugly.

 

[janoycresva]

So you lost weight but your face stayed fat?

 

[Deleted member 8353]

So you lost weight but your face stayed fat?

More or less, my facial bones are terrible, they make my face look fat even when I'm borderline underweight.

 

[Deleted member 16455]

My mother says I would look better if I took care of myself more JFL

 

[Deleted member 14805]

My mother says I would look better if I took care of myself more JFL

Just gymaxx bro.

Case in point, I did lose weight at one point and gained it back shortly after, due to depression and me not looking much different.

There are members here who even looksmaxxed and their attractiveness barely went up. Honestly the only other solution might be surgery, but that's both very risky and expensive. Case in point weight, height, race, age, hobbies etc. doesn't mean shit if you weren't born with the right genetics. Plain and simple.