If you identify as incel, it should mean (at least to my knowledge) that you either have some sort of SMV limitng deformity or you're just rudely unattractive. For me, I'm incel becuase I am 1- mentally ill 2- have acne scars 3- just plain ugly, and that's the end of it, any attempt to change that is just futile coping. So, after accepting the abysmal God/nature given hand that I recieved at birth, and that no women will ever find me attractive and that I have an SMV of close to 0, shouldn't that be freeing? shouldn't I be happy that I have one less thing to worry about? No, I still have to live the rest of my life with these flaws, I still have to participate in this God awful society so I wont starve to death, I still have to face the daily ignominy and looks of disgust and thoughts of detest everyday. I am locked between the jaws of society and forced to do as it pleases while slowly feeling it's incisors peneterating my flesh until I expire. "Just pull yourself by your bootstraps" for what? I will always be a low quality male, cashiers and store clerks will always find me repulsive, classmates/coworkers will always repudiate me. The social struggles of an incel are directly proportional to the romantic aspects, and if that doesn't apply to you, then you never had it that bad to begin with.
