Theory The myth of "cold approaching"

[PunishedNEETcel]

It's amazing how on platforms like reddit, youtube.....hell, even 4chan, most of the dialogue surrounding dating advice for men involves going up and talking to random women. Obviously people like us know that this strategy only works for Chad, but even just from observing how normies operate, you can conclude that this advice is complete bullshit. It's honestly baffling to me how anyone can even give this advice unless they are straight up trying to gaslight you. In my own life, I know lots of people who are in the age range of 25 to 35 who are married or at least in a long term relationship (this isn't because I have lots of friends, but rather because my brother has a lot of friends and I know his friends through him). Anyways, amongst that group of people I can't think of a single relationship that started because the guy just walked up to the girl in a public place (like the gym, a coffee shop, a book store, etc.) and started talking to her. Literally every single one falls into one of three categories: 1) they met at work, 2) they met at church/through church related activities, 3) they met through mutual friends. None of these situations involve just walking up to random women and smooth-talking your way into their pants. I'm so tired of these "just cold approach, bro" motherfuckers infesting every corner of the internet

 

[iraniancel]

envoirment pill

 

[SoycuckGodOfReddit]

bluepillers aren't telling you to cold approach, they are telling you to talk to more women so that you become used to doing it and are better equipped to find relationships

cold approaching is a redpill thing, and was mostly popular before the modern generation with dating apps and smartphones everywhere

 

[Emba]

Cold approaching only works for night shift morgue janitors

 

[Verxis]

bluepillers aren't telling you to cold approach, they are telling you to talk to more women so that you become used to doing it and are better equipped to find relationships

cold approaching is a redpill thing, and was mostly popular before the modern generation with dating apps and smartphones everywhere

That's 100% not what they're saying.

 

[SoycuckGodOfReddit]

That's 100% not what they're saying.

bluepillers generally don't advise incels to talk to foids just to pick them up, it's to get them used to talking with foids

pick up stuff is more redpill

 

[PunishedNEETcel]

Cold approaching only works for night shift morgue janitors

 

[VideoGameCoper]

Good thread. I never knew anyone who met through cold approaching either. Not to mention going up to a random woman and trying to smooth talk her just seems so ridiculously stupid and giga autistic.

Non Chad men can often still do ok in dating if they have a big social circle and are very NT, since this will give them an opportunity to be introduced to many women in a warm approach way. My parents met through a mutual friend even. And of all the “How we met each other initially” stories, not one I ever heard consisted of cold approaching.

 

[PunishedNEETcel]

Non Chad men can often still do ok in dating if they have a big social circle and are very NT, since this will give them an opportunity to be introduced to many women in a warm approach way.

Very true. This is why being non-NT is such a death sentence for most men

 

[VideoGameCoper]

Very true. This is why being non-NT is such a death sentence for most men

Yes. If your looks aren’t Chad level where they do all the work, you need to have a degree of that NTness about you. Many here will say it’s cope, but an NT man is gonna do way better in dating.

If you’re too much of a sperg to even make friends in your hobby, you don’t stand a chance at getting a gf

 

[BlackLowLtn]

It's because they ask the advice from the person they know slays the most, aka the Chad in their life; normies don't seem to understand how easy Chad has it with women because, unlike us, they just see him as slightly more lucky but still having the same issues as them so they think they are able to replicate it as well to slay easily.

 

[BlackLowLtn]

bluepillers aren't telling you to cold approach, they are telling you to talk to more women so that you become used to doing it and are better equipped to find relationships

cold approaching is a redpill thing, and was mostly popular before the modern generation with dating apps and smartphones everywhere

Modern mediums of dating is quite literally the pinnacle of this advice, you do realise you are "cold approaching" when you interact with a random girl online to date them through these apps and social medias? The only thing different is that you are now defined by a short description and a couple photos/videos instead of them meeting you blind.

 

[PersonalityChad]

If you have to "cold approach" you have already lost. In 2024, if women are interested they will just approach you.

 

[ItsovERfucks]

If you have to "cold approach" you have already lost. In 2024, if women are interested they will just approach you.

Literally this

 

[Verxis]

bluepillers generally don't advise incels to talk to foids just to pick them up, it's to get them used to talking with foids

pick up stuff is more redpill

You've got that the other way around. At least your username is accurate.

 

[SoycuckGodOfReddit]

You've got that the other way around.

wtf are you even talking about

 

[PillarofReality]

"cold approach" is the synonym for simping

 

[autisticmanchild]

I think back then there was a "night club" scene where guys would try to approach girls at clubs. Pua Roosh V wrote 2 books called "Day Game" and "Night Game".
There was also pick up artist "Mystery" that wrote a whole retarded book called "The game" or something with a flow chart.

Idk it's all very autistic, even if the goal was just sex and run.

"Rsd Tyler" and "Simple Pickup". These are all random puas that come to mind.

I think the bottom line is the good looking Chad ones were real and everyone else faked it.

 

[BPJ]

Yes. If your looks aren’t Chad level where they do all the work, you need to have a degree of that NTness about you. Many here will say it’s cope, but an NT man is gonna do way better in dating.

If you’re too much of a sperg to even make friends in your hobby, you don’t stand a chance at getting a gf

this is why the NT pill strikes hardest for normies

 

[Verxis]

wtf are you even talking about

It's redpillers who do confidence exercises. They pioneered the "say outlandish things to women in the bar and disagree with them to build a tolerance" technique. Bluepillers are the ones with a delusion that you can just walk up to a foid and she will beg for your babies.

 

[SoycuckGodOfReddit]

It's redpillers who do confidence exercises.

redpillers do confidence exercises to reduce approach anxiety, because they view approaching as a skill that requires practice like any other skill

bluepillers aren't as focused on pick-up, they generally believe that men should interact with women more so that they become used to it and pick up the social skills required for a relationship, which they won't get from posting on an incel forum

 

[VideoGameCoper]

this is why the NT pill strikes hardest for normies

Yep

 

[ThisShitIsOva]

I needed this thread 15 years ago

 

[Limitcel]

It's really easy to get arrested these days for doing this tbh
if you're ugly don't even try

 

[PunishedNEETcel]

It's really easy to get arrested these days for doing this tbh
if you're ugly don't even try

I used to know a guy who was actually pretty good looking and fairly tall (like 6' or so, maybe a little shorter), but he was from south america and didn't really understand social norms in the US. He once told me that he was at a grocery store and saw a cute girl waiting in line a few rows down from him. So he waited outside the store and approached her once she came out, and she ended up going back inside and getting a security guard to escort her back to her car so she could avoid him. The guy was really non-threatening and super nice, so he definitely didn't say anything crazy, women are just that unhinged whenever a sub-9/10 guy tries to say anything to them in public. That story pretty much ended any chance I had of ever trying to approach women in public

 

[Hasdrubaal]

Cold approaching is a complete and utter lie, statistics and anecdotal evidence say the same. 90% of the people I know met through mutual friends, the rest met through attending the same classes in college.

 

[SoycuckGodOfReddit]

I used to know a guy who was actually pretty good looking and fairly tall (like 6' or so, maybe a little shorter), but he was from south america and didn't really understand social norms in the US. He once told me that he was at a grocery store and saw a cute girl waiting in line a few rows down from him. So he waited outside the store and approached her once she came out, and she ended up going back inside and getting a security guard to escort her back to her car so she could avoid him. The guy was really non-threatening and super nice, so he definitely didn't say anything crazy, women are just that unhinged whenever a sub-9/10 guy tries to say anything to them in public. That story pretty much ended any chance I had of ever trying to approach women in public

basically, the way that 99% of the world has traditionally treated and approached women has been branded rape or SA in the modern west

yet people still claim they don't understand why there's a backlash against feminism

 

[Limitcel]

I used to know a guy who was actually pretty good looking and fairly tall (like 6' or so, maybe a little shorter), but he was from south america and didn't really understand social norms in the US. He once told me that he was at a grocery store and saw a cute girl waiting in line a few rows down from him. So he waited outside the store and approached her once she came out, and she ended up going back inside and getting a security guard to escort her back to her car so she could avoid him. The guy was really non-threatening and super nice, so he definitely didn't say anything crazy, women are just that unhinged whenever a sub-9/10 guy tries to say anything to them in public. That story pretty much ended any chance I had of ever trying to approach women in public

everyone have a friend who got a false accusation, a friend of mine was accused of looking at a girl's ass when he was at school, without any proof that this happened, the school tried to lynch him and he had to go to the police station but the girl confessed that it was a false accusation

 

[PunishedNEETcel]

basically, the way that 99% of the world has traditionally treated and approached women has been branded rape or SA in the modern west

yet people still claim they don't understand why there's a backlash against feminism

yeah, and these same women are probably the ones posting on reddit whining about how they never get approached by men in public

 

[SoycuckGodOfReddit]

yeah, and these same women are probably the ones posting on reddit whining about how they never get approached by men in public

why would any non-chad approach a woman in the modern west

what is a western woman? a miserable little pile of neuroses

 

[forwhombell]

Sometimes I want to cold approach just because I know it'll make women mad

 

[SoycuckGodOfReddit]

Sometimes I want to cold approach just because I know it'll make women mad

if u r a sub5, then treating them as relatable and trying to act like they're similar to u will automatically shoot down their self-esteem

they will be raging that some nerd thought they was similar to him, and talked to them as if they were on the same page

modern foids have so much inflated SMV and self-worth, but it has no real basis. they have to take extreme means to avoid + criminalize men approaching them, because it will dent their pride to realize that most others are just like them

 

[WorthlessSlavicShit]

Cold approaching, like all of these "strategies", is something that works if you are a Chad or a foid, because you are a Chad or a foid, and doesn't work in the slightest for absolutely anyone else.

For example, I remember reading a few months ago (pretty sure I could quickly find the article/podcast if anyone needs it) when searching for stories about relationships with foreigners in my country, a Macedonian guy talking about dating two Ukrainian women at the same time after randomly meeting them at a bus stop. Obviously, something like that would be unimaginable for 99% of men, but for this guy, it just worked.

Also, you have this porn star who's doing public agent pick-up stuff IRL and picking up dudes who are in public with their friends and family like she were a porn story protagonist. It just works if you are a Chad or a foid.

"So today I'm going to be sleeping with 23 barely legal 18-year-olds."

"Women are oppressed by the way:soy::soy::foidSoy::foidSoy:." https://www.dailystar.co.uk/real-life/woman-mission-bonk-uks-freshers-33647805 https://www.nottinghampost.com/news/nottingham-news/adult-star-who-slept-hundreds-9570473 View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJ_y-VNE_5g So, how...

incels.is

 

[Paperman]

It's because they ask the advice from the person they know slays the most, aka the Chad in their life; normies don't seem to understand how easy Chad has it with women because, unlike us, they just see him as slightly more lucky but still having the same issues as them so they think they are able to replicate it as well to slay easily.

You are right about normies thinking they can replicate what Chad does; I personally think that normies apply that thinking to other areas as well. Normies think they have much more in common with Chads than they really do.

 

[Verxis]

redpillers do confidence exercises to reduce approach anxiety, because they view approaching as a skill that requires practice like any other skill

bluepillers aren't as focused on pick-up, they generally believe that men should interact with women more so that they become used to it and pick up the social skills required for a relationship, which they won't get from posting on an incel forum

Infiltrator.

 

[SoycuckGodOfReddit]

Infiltrator.

nigger