In dating, the rules work the opposite way of everything else. If you really want to be an excellent guitar player, you are going to put the effort in to achieve this goal. However, if you really want to have a relationship this is seen as desperate or sad and no one will want to be with you. It's because people are not the same as things. Anyone can make themselves smarter by reading more. Anyone can get better at playing a card game by playing it more, but you can't do this with people. You can't just fuck someone to "gain experience" unless you are some kind of psychopath. This is the part that really hurts me because I want to date someone my age (22) but these people are always in relationships and have had multiple partners in the past. I just don't stack up in terms of experience. Unless I specifically target fat, unwanted people and use them for sex which would be a huge waste of time for both parties.
