Venting Stuck in Fear

[JimMilton]

I could go to campus, get a job, put myself out there—but I’m too afraid. I’ve had every opportunity, and I’ve wasted them all. I don’t value myself, and it’s hurting my family. My dad’s right—I won’t leave my comfort zone. My mom thinks she failed me, but I know the truth—it’s on me.

I’ve thought about living alone, finding work, even something unconventional, but fear stops me from everything. I’m not incapable—I just don’t try.

Soon, I’ll have to do the in-person part of my degree, and I’m scared. I have no confidence in myself about anything. I wish I could leave it all behind—live alone, find a job, or work for myself doing odd jobs—but I know I’d fail. I’m stuck in this rut, with no belief in myself, and it’s affecting everyone around me. I’ve let my parents down. I deserve all of it. I value fear more than I value them, and at the end of the day, that’s on me. What a waste of space and breath I am.

I don't hang with anyone, people my age can see right through my covert narcissist bullshit and patheticness. I am tempted to let myself die sometimes, but my mother and father don't deserve it. My mother has always been by my side and my father stepped up for my mum and I when my own father didn't (and hasn't for my whole life and I don't see him anyway which I am happy about) and not many people did for my mother and myself from her own family for some time, a hard time.

I am a very awful son, nothing to be proud, cowardly, and most of all, a leech and user. I will rot in hell and if I lost my gentials I'd deserve that fate.

 

[Solid]

How could I get some confidence to start lving life and take charge?​

 

[JimMilton]

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Well why not?

 

[Solid]

Well why not?

By all means try, but that stuff is usually left for HTNS and above.

 

[JimMilton]

By all means try, but that stuff is usually left for HTNS and above.

HTNs? What are they?

 

[Anthrofurrcel]

It's over mang, ur here stuck with us forever and ever

But serious, you sound like a youngcel, if you're really young, 22 at least, there's still time to normiemaxx and try to leave inceldom. The expected result will always be the same if you really are sub5, but it's always worth a shot.

 

[JimMilton]

It's over mang, ur here stuck with us forever and ever

But serious, you sound like a youngcel, if you're really young, 22 at least, there's still time to normiemaxx and try to leave inceldom. The expected result will always be the same if you really are sub5, but it's always worth a shot.

I’m 21 and I have a very fortunate life as I am a person with a problemless life. I will try to leave inceldom, I’m sub5 but I’ll try, I owe to a lot of people I’ve known and know.

 

[Anthrofurrcel]

I’m 21 and I have a very fortunate life as I am a person with a problemless life. I will try to leave inceldom, I’m sub5 but I’ll try, I owe to a lot of people I’ve known and know.

Good luck. So... have you already come up with a plan to get out of inceldom? It's very difficult to make friends at the club, even worse to find a girl, which is impossible there cause no girl go out alone

 

[D. B. Gooner]

You develop your confidence based on feedback you've been receiving from people your whole life. If you're unconfident it's because people have been ignoring or mistreating you. These things you've listed could lead to fake confidence, but it is see-through, people can tell if your confidence is fake.

 

[JimMilton]

Good luck. So... have you already come up with a plan to get out of inceldom? It's very difficult to make friends at the club, even worse to find a girl, which is impossible there cause no girl go out alone

No plan to get out of it, I’m hoping that one day I will be in public and the stars will align so to speak. Sounds unlikely really.

 

[JimMilton]

You develop your confidence based on feedback you've been receiving from people your whole life. If you're unconfident it's because people have been ignoring or mistreating you. These things you've listed could lead to fake confidence, but it is see-through, people can tell if your confidence is fake.

I’ve been very well treated, nobody has ever picked on me or given me negative feedback ever I’m a true coward at my core, comfort zone etc. yes fake confidence would likely be the closest I will get, but I’m no victim, abuse victims are and I’m an abuser

 

[DutchCel01]

benzodiazepines

 

[Justanotherbloke]

It's over mang, ur here stuck with us forever and ever

But serious, you sound like a youngcel, if you're really young, 22 at least, there's still time to normiemaxx and try to leave inceldom. The expected result will always be the same if you really are sub5, but it's always worth a shot.

You are either incel or not.
I can never change my introverted nature, me being high inhib and socially awkward just to normiemaxx and fit in.
It gets tiresome after a while.
Just like you are either Chad or not (no in between) you are either incel or not, you get what I'm saying?
Some guys just aren't cut out to make it,

 

[JimMilton]

benzodiazepines

I don’t know if I should take medications

 

[JimMilton]

You are either incel or not.
I can never change my introverted nature, me being high inhib and socially awkward just to normiemaxx and fit in.
It gets tiresome after a while.
Just like you are either Chad or not (no in between) you are either incel or not, you get what I'm saying?
Some guys just aren't cut out to make it,

I get what you’re saying, thanks for clearing that up for me.

 

[dextercel]

HTNs? What are they?

A man with good features

such as height, facial features, status, and money.

 

[JimMilton]

A man with good features

such as height, facial features, status, and money.

Any specifics on those?

 

[Emba]

I'm guessing, but I take it, that English isn't you're primary language?

 

[Pancakecel]

Are you sub5 in looks? If so, then don't bother. If you are average+ looking then it's worth a try.

 

[JimMilton]

I'm guessing, but I take it, that English isn't you're primary language?

It is my only language, I’m tired a lot so my typing isn’t very good.

 

[JimMilton]

Are you sub5 in looks? If so, then don't bother. If you are average+ looking then it's worth a try.

I’d say a 4 in looks. Yeah me not trying in anything anymore is why people are
Worried and annoyed at me.

 

[Doomedvirgin]

You develop your confidence based on feedback you've been receiving from people your whole life. If you're unconfident it's because people have been ignoring or mistreating you. These things you've listed could lead to fake confidence, but it is see-through, people can tell if your confidence is fake.

 

[Doomedvirgin]

Based

 

[Wok22]

Are you sub5 in looks? If so, then don't bother. If you are average+ looking then it's worth a try.

True. If you have tried and you had 0 success trying again and again, and even tried to find another way to find success, then yeah it's over. I actually knew a guy when I used to work at McDonald's as a cashier. He (let's call him Joe) was a tall white dude, pretty average face, and he is a regular at McDonald's. Joe always comes to McDonald's looking depressed all the time, and this is because fiancé began doing drugs. He didn't explain why, but all I know is that she started to do drugs and left him.

I talked to Joe about how he was going to move on, and he said "I don't know, we were going to get married, and this is no simple high school crush type of thing. We were genuinely in love."

And then I said the most retarded thing ever, "I think it's over for you dude." (this was a couple of months after I discovered the blackpill)

The look of sadness on his face made me regret saying that, "That really hurts man..." Was what he said.

I immediately said "Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to jump to that conclusion."

And then he got a call from his mom, which saved my ass from any awkward silence.

-------

He later tried to ask out one of my co-workers, and she said no, and Joe got pissed. My co-workers said he went on a rant about how much he hates women (based??).

One day, he was getting his morning coffee and saw a woman pass by him. He said, "Hi, good morning," and she didn't hear him.

So he just yelled, "BITCH, I said good morning to you and you just ignore me? I fucking hate women."

She looked back, "Sorry, I didn't hear you," and walked out of the McDonald's quickly.

I just looked around the McDonald's to see if anyone else heard that, and yup they did. The parents looked uncomfortable and the children were just silent, and I just looked at Joe with deep deep, deeep pity.

 

[UglyDumbass]

I could go to campus, get a job, put myself out there—but I’m too afraid. I’ve had every opportunity, and I’ve wasted them all. I don’t value myself, and it’s hurting my family. My dad’s right—I won’t leave my comfort zone. My mom thinks she failed me, but I know the truth—it’s on me.

I’ve thought about living alone, finding work, even something unconventional, but fear stops me from everything. I’m not incapable—I just don’t try.

Soon, I’ll have to do the in-person part of my degree, and I’m scared. I have no confidence in myself about anything. I wish I could leave it all behind—live alone, find a job, or work for myself doing odd jobs—but I know I’d fail. I’m stuck in this rut, with no belief in myself, and it’s affecting everyone around me. I’ve let my parents down. I deserve all of it. I value fear more than I value them, and at the end of the day, that’s on me. What a waste of space and breath I am.

I don't hang with anyone, people my age can see right through my covert narcissist bullshit and patheticness. I am tempted to let myself die sometimes, but my mother and father don't deserve it. My mother has always been by my side and my father stepped up for my mum and I when my own father didn't (and hasn't for my whole life and I don't see him anyway which I am happy about) and not many people did for my mother and myself from her own family for some time, a hard time.

I am a very awful son, nothing to be proud, cowardly, and most of all, a leech and user. I will rot in hell and if I lost my gentials I'd deserve that fate.

no confidence for your face

 

[unborndegenerate]

sounds like a fakecel