Blackpill Social anxiety fucks you over so badly

[Nordicel94]

I have social anxiety to the point where going to buy groceries or getting on a bus is daunting. I plan my activities outside the home around calculations about how many people will be around in a place at any given time. At Uni, alcohol helped me to go to some events, but now I can't mix alcohol with my medication so that "shield" is gone.

Even if my face was good enough to attract a girl, how the fuck do guys just go to a date, meeting a woman for the first time with the underlying expectation of impressing her and even the subconscious notion that you could potentially have sex with the girl sitting opposite you? I'd be turning red and visibly shaking, so even if I got to that point, she would discard me for someone who wasn't nervous.

Anyone else with the same level of social anxiety as me? Any one here who doesn't have social anxiety at all but is still incel?

 

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[AtrociousCitizen]

I am similar, I am always anxious about anything social, it fucks up my whole life.

 

[Ubermenschvirtues]

I am similar, I am always anxious about anything social, it fucks up my whole life.

 

[Ubermenschvirtues]

Same here.
My eyes start to water when i look people in the eyes.

 

[Da_Yunez]

I have social anxiety to the point where going to buy groceries or getting on a bus is daunting. I plan my activities outside the home around calculations about how many people will be around in a place at any given time. At Uni, alcohol helped me to go to some events, but now I can't mix alcohol with my medication so that "shield" is gone.

Even if my face was good enough to attract a girl, how the fuck do guys just go to a date, meeting a woman for the first time with the underlying expectation of impressing her and even the subconscious notion that you could potentially have sex with the girl sitting opposite you? I'd be turning red and visibly shaking, so even if I got to that point, she would discard me for someone who wasn't nervous.

Anyone else with the same level of social anxiety as me? Any one here who doesn't have social anxiety at all but is still incel?

have Social Anxiety too but not to that level

 

[Soystein]

I have bad social anxiety, I used to avoid all stores and use public transportation as little as possible, I used hard drugs just to feel "normal". Now I don't go outside anymore, I have been inside my house for over a decade.

When I did stuff outside it helped reduce the anxiety over time, avoiding things makes it worse over time, but my face made me give up on life so now I don't care that the anxiety festers since I don't feel it when I am alone.

 

[Nordicel94]

I have bad social anxiety, I used to avoid all stores and use public transportation as little as possible, I used hard drugs just to feel "normal". Now I don't go outside anymore, I have been inside my house for over a decade.

When I did stuff outside it helped reduce the anxiety over time, avoiding things makes it worse over time, but my face made me give up on life so now I don't care that the anxiety festers since I don't feel it when I am alone.

Yeah, and for me it's not because I lack social skills or awareness or anything, it's just that my body is attacked with so my physical terror that I can't function. Blushing, becoming flustered, tunnel vision, trembling.

 

[InVideoGame]

I am similar, I am always anxious about anything social, it fucks up my whole life.

 

[TheHungariancel]

Yes I have and it’s really bad, it destroyed my life (never really had a life to begin with). I’ve been having it since early childhood, I could never actually fit in anywhere I went as well because I’m also non-NT.

It got really bad when I hit puberty and still is.

 

[RandomGuy]

It seems early mornings are best going out. People are in a rush for work or just getting their day started. By noon the work anxiety/stress takes hold so they tend to lash out for no legit reason.

 

[ldargoblin]

Social anxiety is ridiculous if you think about it and understand what people are as a species. Then you tell yourself "why am I afraid of these pathetic creatures, this is even more pathetic"

 

[Grodd]

I am similar, I am always anxious about anything social, it fucks up my whole life.

 

[TheHungariancel]

Yeah, and for me it's not because I lack social skills or awareness or anything, it's just that my body is attacked with so my physical terror that I can't function. Blushing, becoming flustered, tunnel vision, trembling.

Terror is probably the best word to describe social anxiety. It’s constant and strong stress when you’re in any social situation.

I will never forget the terror of waking up every day before going to school. Especially in high school. I literally opened my eyes and the anxiety started flooding over me.

 

[Rapistcel]

Yes, feeling everyone is laughing at you is a shit, it's a truecel trait, people treat you like shit and you become this way

 

[FastBlast]

Social anxiety + bad looks is a brutal combination. It is actually giga over at that point, just get an escort.

 

[Lazyandtalentless]

Yes I have and it’s really bad, it destroyed my life (never really had a life to begin with). I’ve been having it since early childhood, I could never actually fit in anywhere I went as well because I’m also non-NT.

It got really bad when I hit puberty and still is.

 

[Soystein]

Yeah, and for me it's not because I lack social skills or awareness or anything, it's just that my body is attacked with so my physical terror that I can't function. Blushing, becoming flustered, tunnel vision, trembling.

I get a very high heartrate and feel like I am going to pass out sometimes, I can also get patterns and other shit covering my vision.

 

[Nordicel94]

I get a very high heartrate and feel like I am going to pass out sometimes, I can also get patterns and other shit covering my vision.

Me too, but according to foids this is our purrsonality and it will go away if we "get out more". Sure, exposure therapy can help by training the mind to cope with it but you'll never reach the level of someone for whom this has never been a problem.

 

[Soystein]

Me too, but according to foids this is our purrsonality and it will go away if we "get out more". Sure, exposure therapy can help by training the mind to cope with it but you'll never reach the level of someone for whom this has never been a problem.

I have had this problem all my life to varying degrees, I think anti-anxiety medication can actually help with this, but I have never tried it because I don't want to fuck up my brain any further and even if it did "cure" me I am still stuck with my face.

 

[Nordicel94]

I have had this problem all my life to varying degrees, I think anti-anxiety medication can actually help with this, but I have never tried it because I don't want to fuck up my brain any further and even if it did "cure" me I am still stuck with my face.

Looking back, I went through school basically minimising interactions and saying as little as I could, staying away from events and classes where I know there would be a lot of speaking. I wasn't really bullied because I was too incognito to even become a target. I take valium and it helps, but you have to be frugal with it so I don't waste it on everyday activities like going to the grocery store. I use it either for panic attacks, some event that I have to attend with the family or to relax at home on the weekend.

 

[SocialzERo]

Same. I think it's over. For some exposure only works to a certain extent. If you have autism (like I do) and feel neurologically overwhelmed by the stimuli, you will feel anxiety after hours of exposure. GABAergics may work temporarily. If you want to reduce stress's somatic effects, try beta-blockers, like propranolol.

 

[Nordicel94]

Same. I think it's over. For some exposure only works to a certain extent. If you have autism (like I do) and feel neurologically overwhelmed by the stimuli, you will feel anxiety after hours of exposure. GABAergics may work temporarily. If you want to reduce stress's somatic effects, try beta-blockers, like propranolol.

Yeah, autism must be ten times worse than just having social anxiety. I don't have trouble with social cues, body language, facial expressions. When I've had friends at certain points in my life, I'm actually just a "normal" person. It's just that my anxiety shuts down the machinery. I've tried betablockers but I prefer Valium, even though it has a slight sedative effect.