Story So there's this girl at work

[noGFjuice]

Cute girl at my workplace. Super friendly, the type to smile at just about anybody, even me. Good work ethic and generally positive attitude. She's known for being a really optimistic and helpful person. She looks me in the eye when I talk to her, and doesn't try to run away from conversation. I know she's like that for everyone and there's no reason for me to think anything of it, but I can't help it. She's witty and sarcastic and doesn't try to make me feel pathetic when I'm stumbling all over myself. I want to shoot my shot, but I know exactly how that'll go (25 yrs old and zero luck so far). I can't help than to want to talk to her, but it hurts like all hell every time. It's the first time in a long time I've been able to have multiple conversations with a girl but I don't know how much I can take. Every time I see her I get both happy and distressed as all hell, because I know I can't tell her what I really want. I want to be more than just a coworker she talks to, but I don't know if I could handle losing what companionship we do have. It just hurts.

 

[GreenBull]

Cute girl at my workplace. Super friendly, the type to smile at just about anybody, even me. Good work ethic and generally positive attitude. She's known for being a really optimistic and helpful person. She looks me in the eye when I talk to her, and doesn't try to run away from conversation. I know she's like that for everyone and there's no reason for me to think anything of it, but I can't help it. She's witty and sarcastic and doesn't try to make me feel pathetic when I'm stumbling all over myself. I want to shoot my shot, but I know exactly how that'll go (25 yrs old and zero luck so far). I can't help than to want to talk to her, but it hurts like all hell every time. It's the first time in a long time I've been able to have multiple conversations with a girl but I don't know how much I can take. Every time I see her I get both happy and distressed as all hell, because I know I can't tell her what I really want. I want to be more than just a coworker she talks to, but I don't know if I could handle losing what companionship we do have. It just hurts.

Just don't approach her straight away bro. Since, you've known her for sometime you should ask her during conversations whether or not she has a boyfriend. If she says no, then only you should move ahead slowly with her. I think being too quick can ruin all the 1-2% chances. If you're rejected you at least won't feel terrible like you do now.

 

[zerozerozero]

take the AWALT pill and snap out of the cuckolded trance you're in

 

[Curious0]

Update if you approach her

 

[newcel997]

if she doesnt run from conversations she doesnt think youre hidiuos, but if she saw you as an option she would give hints like 'i hatee being single'

 

[noGFjuice]

Just don't approach her straight away bro. Since, you've known her for sometime you should ask her during conversations whether or not she has a boyfriend. If she says no, then only you should move ahead slowly with her. I think being too quick can ruin all the 1-2% chances. If you're rejected you at least won't feel terrible like you do now.

I'm about 98% sure she doesn't have a boyfriend. I heard about another guy at working asking her out quite a while ago and she turned him down because she apparently wasn't looking for a relationship at the time. She seems genuinely shy, so I'm scared I'll make a wrong move or come on too strong and scare her away forever. I might try asking around to find out about the boyfriend thing since that might be a little too obvious if I ask her directly.

 

[GreenBull]

I'm about 98% sure she doesn't have a boyfriend. I heard about another guy at working asking her out quite a while ago and she turned him down because she apparently wasn't looking for a relationship at the time. She seems genuinely shy, so I'm scared I'll make a wrong move or come on too strong and scare her away forever. I might try asking around to find out about the boyfriend thing since that might be a little too obvious if I ask her directly.

You should ask her directly. Don't trust others, they mostly don't want you to succeed. Maybe, she's been looking up for you to ask her that's why she's been turning others down. Don't think that it'll end your friendship, even if it does it'd be better than to see her with other men in future.

 

[noGFjuice]

if she doesnt run from conversations she doesnt think youre hidiuos, but if she saw you as an option she would give hints like 'i hatee being single'

That's what I'd figure, but she seems truly shy. I'm not sure if she's the "hint - dropping" type. I try to compliment her about her hair or makeup or whatever and her ears turn red and she seems sort of unsure about how to respond. Usually girls try to find an excuse to get away at that point. Thing is, I think she's just all - around shy (she even gets embarrassed by compliments from other women) so I don't think it's worth getting my hopes up over.

 

[newcel997]

That's what I'd figure, but she seems truly shy. I'm not sure if she's the "hint - dropping" type. I try to compliment her about her hair or makeup or whatever and her ears turn red and she seems sort of unsure about how to respond. Usually girls try to find an excuse to get away at that point. Thing is, I think she's just all - around shy (she even gets embarrassed by compliments from other women) so I don't think it's worth getting my hopes up over.

so you drop the hint and see if shes reseptive. also try and observe her around chads and compare to her behavour around you

 

[noGFjuice]

take the AWALT pill and snap out of the cuckolded trance you're in

I can't, man. She's the dream for me. Cute, intelligent, puts her nose to the grindstone and doesn't cut corners when everyone else does. She's so much easier to talk to than any other girls I've met because I feel like there isn't constant judgement from her.

 

[_incelinside]

Ask to hang out with her outside of work and see where it leads

 

[noGFjuice]

Ask to hang out with her outside of work and see where it leads

How long should I wait before I ask? And where do you think I should ask her to go? Out to lunch, or what? From what she's said she doesn't appear to have many friends so she doesn't leave the house much aside from class and work.

 

[noGFjuice]

Did she looked you up in social media? And did she started talking to you (through social media)? Did you have her number? How is her body language when you start talking to her? Does she suddenly start touching her hair? Dies she immitate youre body language?

If so she is into you and ask her out? If not she is just being friendly to you bro.
I have a curry girl know from work who i started dating. I knew she liked me because she showed all the sings and followed me on insta for a reason now im talking to her through whatsapp and she keeps the conversation going.

She has zero social media. I haven't gotten the balls to ask for her number because I'm scared that'll give me away and end it too soon. She has a mid - short haircut so she doesn't touch her hair very much (I only ever see her throwing it out of her face or eyes in annoyance). In terms of body language, I'm not sure I should read too much into it. She doesn't have standoffish posture or anything. I guess she looks kinda shy? Sometimes she'll stand with a hand on her hip with her hip cocked outward a little bit, and she sometimes covers her mouth or the lower part of her face with her hand, especially when she smiles. She also fidgets. I think it's a nervous thing, but she seems nervous around almost EVERYONE. Trust me, man, I wanna ask her out. I just don't think I could handle scaring her away entirely.

 

[noGFjuice]

so you drop the hint and see if shes reseptive. also try and observe her around chads and compare to her behavour around you

She doesn't seem to interact with Chads very much. She seems to gravitate towards grown women as her main source of conversation. She gets a lot more nervous around guys in general.

 

[_incelinside]

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ah so you're a fakecel too

 

[Newbie17]

ah so you're a fakecel too

 

[Incel_Dikshit]

ah so you're a fakecel too

I wish dating isnt the same as p in v and im also a confirmed 4/10

 

[UnfortunatelyINCEL98]

Ask to hang out with her outside of work and see where it leads

 

[chadmarco]

You've got no chance.

 

[noGFjuice]

You've got no chance.

That might be so. But I think it'll be even harder to sleep at night if I don't give it a shot at some point.

 

[UnfortunatelyINCEL98]

i asked a girl out black girl 4/10 / she ignored the question of me asking her out and talked about something else / asking out women just lead to hurt for me / they usually for me just put me in the friendzone / friendzone as in no number : youre a nice guy but.. maybe one day / No then...laughter / ignore

 

[Deleted member 6214]

take the AWALT pill and snap out of the cuckolded trance you're in

 

[noGFjuice]

i asked a girl out black girl 4/10 / she ignored the question of me asking her out and talked about something else / asking out women just lead to hurt for me / they usually for me just put me in the friendzone / friendzone as in no number : youre a nice guy but.. maybe one day / No then...laughter / ignore

I think I could maybe eventually come to terms with just being a friend to her, to some degree. I value her company that much. But I still wouldn't be able to forgive myself if I didn't try. Rejection would hurt - it always does - but the big fear for me is that she and I would stop talking all together.

 

[KilluminoidBR]

Exactly same thing happened with me last year and the girl even gave me multiple iOis.

I was at the same state that you are now, then i called her out and she rejected me.

Well, i got rejected but my suffering stopped. I suggest to you to do the same thing, you probably will get rejected but your suffering will have an end.

 

[IronMike]

unless you get special treatment from your other coworkers, don't do it

 

[noGFjuice]

Exactly same thing happened with me last year and the girl even gave me multiple iOi.

I was at the same state that you are now, then i called her out and she rejected me.

Well, i got rejected but my suffering stopped. I suggest to you to do the same thing, you probably will get rejected but your suffering will have an end.

That might be what this comes to. I sort of have hopes that we could take it in a "friends - to - lovers" direction, but I doubt I'd be able to pull it off. It's probably gonna end up being me shooting my shot with my fingers crossed. I'm just glad she's nice, so she probably won't rip me apart.

 

[noGFjuice]

unless you get special treatment from your other coworkers, don't do it

Why's that? I don't really talk to anybody else, and my work lets me mostly keep to myself save for receiving instructions once in a while.

 

[noGFjuice]

I'm so fucked.

 

[Xbox]

GL fam

 

[Deleted member 1983]

unless she is sending you clear indicators of interest you are wasting your time. you COULD try asking her out but it may end in a rejection and awkward work situation. Im speaking from experience here ive been attracted to and rejected by a female coworker in the past.

 

[Deleted member 1983]

How long should I wait before I ask? And where do you think I should ask her to go? Out to lunch, or what? From what she's said she doesn't appear to have many friends so she doesn't leave the house much aside from class and work.

dont wait too long or your chances will become slimmer and she will assume your not interested. you need to ask her out soon dude. trust me on this one, its better to rip the band aid off than suffer a slow death.

 

[catfishman23]

I've been in this situation before, I would be just straight up with ask her about her life then ask if she has a bf, if she says no ask if she's looking for anything.
She's most likely going to say she's not, that's an indicator she is not interested in you or anyone else at work.

 

[Brainlet]

I'm so fucked.

You're not fucked you've just got to play it smart.
You mentioned she has zero social media, this is both a blessing and a curse. The former because if you don't see her talking to other guys as you described she tends to hang out with women, she is most likely not messaging other guys or seeking validation from them on platforms such as Instagram of Snapchat. The latter, because you can't add her on any platform in order to probe her sense of humour, what memes make her laugh etc, which can be helpful in escalating things.
To me it seems that you've just got to be honest with her in a way that isn't so pushy as it becomes too awkward to work with her in the future. You need to elucidate your feelings gently, ask her after work if she's free sometimes and wants to get coffee/get pizza/get a take away/see an exhibition/ it doesn't matter what really. If she says yes, be assertive and schedule the 'date' yourself say the time, place, when you'll meet, straight away. If she says no, it's over. If she says she's busy, It's over. If she says she's busy but then offers another time/place, you've struck gold. Good luck nigga

 

[Cali_Incel]

Cute girl at my workplace. Super friendly, the type to smile at just about anybody, even me. Good work ethic and generally positive attitude. She's known for being a really optimistic and helpful person. She looks me in the eye when I talk to her, and doesn't try to run away from conversation. I know she's like that for everyone and there's no reason for me to think anything of it, but I can't help it. She's witty and sarcastic and doesn't try to make me feel pathetic when I'm stumbling all over myself. I want to shoot my shot, but I know exactly how that'll go (25 yrs old and zero luck so far). I can't help than to want to talk to her, but it hurts like all hell every time. It's the first time in a long time I've been able to have multiple conversations with a girl but I don't know how much I can take. Every time I see her I get both happy and distressed as all hell, because I know I can't tell her what I really want. I want to be more than just a coworker she talks to, but I don't know if I could handle losing what companionship we do have. It just hurts.

Jeez I'm almost in the same predicament as you expect I know the girl I have crush on is single and have no kids.

 

[TomathonClancy]

Cute girl at my workplace. Super friendly, the type to smile at just about anybody, even me. Good work ethic and generally positive attitude. She's known for being a really optimistic and helpful person. She looks me in the eye when I talk to her, and doesn't try to run away from conversation. I know she's like that for everyone and there's no reason for me to think anything of it, but I can't help it. She's witty and sarcastic and doesn't try to make me feel pathetic when I'm stumbling all over myself. I want to shoot my shot, but I know exactly how that'll go (25 yrs old and zero luck so far). I can't help than to want to talk to her, but it hurts like all hell every time. It's the first time in a long time I've been able to have multiple conversations with a girl but I don't know how much I can take. Every time I see her I get both happy and distressed as all hell, because I know I can't tell her what I really want. I want to be more than just a coworker she talks to, but I don't know if I could handle losing what companionship we do have. It just hurts.

Every time I've met a girl like that they've ended up being a faker who wears a plastic smile in public, only to say nasty stuff about people behind their back. I knew a girl back in high school just like the one you described who ended up hating me after she found out I was depressed and avoided me, then she ended up starting beef with a whole bunch of girls and now she's cut ties with 90% of her former friends.

It's the nicest ones you have to be wary of.

 

[Realsmoke]

she is happy because she is getting good dick at home, usually overly witty girls are full blown sluts its pretty obvious.
Then when she says she has a boyfriend you will feel like you got rejected when you didnt even ask her out, because she is your only option.
Give up.

 

[Haywire]

what do you look like or have you posted a pic?

I'm so fucked.

 

[Izayacel]

take the AWALT pill and snap out of the cuckolded trance you're in

Oh love uyuyuyuy, like this guy said awalt, aggresive approach or cope and die

 

[bkdreamkb]

Those types are rare as fuck. I would say that 1 every 100 girls are like that. The rest is usually mean and will judge only by appearance.

I am having the same problem. This girl in my class is really cute. She started a conversation (which never happened before) and acted like she was really interested in the subjects we were talking. I am planning to invite her to watch a movie. I got nothing to lose.

 

[BlackPillUNC]

Oh love uyuyuyuy, like this guy said awalt, aggresive approach or cope and die

If this bitch wanted you, she would have said. Women make it obvious. She's just trying to have an easy time at work.


That being said, definitely ask her out, but you're not even a friend you're just a coworker. Glad I'm not as cucked as you. Still ask, it'll help you get over your cuckedness, but yeah.

 

[bkdreamkb]

Try to ask her to a date. But not by text but IRL so she feels pressured to accept.

 

[Poverty Cel]

It’s over

 

[NotQuiteChadLite]

take the AWALT pill and snap out of the cuckolded trance you're in

This.

You are a clown.

 

[mikepence]

If this bitch wanted you, she would have said. Women make it obvious. She's just trying to have an easy time at work.


That being said, definitely ask her out, but you're not even a friend you're just a coworker. Glad I'm not as cucked as you. Still ask, it'll help you get over your cuckedness, but yeah.

Yeah he should at least try to pursue things a bit, at least go for a ONS. But it's most likely not going to turn into a serious relationship.

 

[SwordsmanAlt]

You got nothing to lose. Go in with that realization and make it the fuck happen.

If you fail, we'll still be here.

 

[Deleted member 250]

take the AWALT pill and snap out of the cuckolded trance you're in

 

[noGFjuice]

what do you look like or have you posted a pic?

I think I'm somewhat average in the face. I'd say maybe a fair 5.5 or 6 on a good day. I'm barely 5'6, so that's been a big issue in the past. Also not big in stature; I don't bulk up with muscle, I just turn into a combination of lean and skinny. I guess I'm overall just kind of "alright". Not particularly hideous but not worth given a second glance at either. I think I give off an air of a lack of confidence and experience.

 

[Broken Man]

You don't even need to ask if she has a bf. Why do you care if she's taken or not ? Just talk to her like you normally do and then be straight forward from there. Tell her that you'd like to do something with her this weekend and see if she has plans. If she says she's busy then she most likely isn't attracted to you and doesn't see you as anything more than a co-worker. Even the shy girls will make time for you if they see you as a potential love interest.

 

[0764]

I'm about 98% sure she doesn't have a boyfriend. I heard about another guy at working asking her out quite a while ago and she turned him down because she apparently wasn't looking for a relationship at the time. She seems genuinely shy, so I'm scared I'll make a wrong move or come on too strong and scare her away forever. I might try asking around to find out about the boyfriend thing since that might be a little too obvious if I ask her directly.

Lol don’t get it twisted she turned him down cuz she would rather have Chad.

Also me personally I would mess with a girl I work with, but that’s just me. Just know that if she rejects you it’ll get awkward then you and her will be on unspeakable level

 

[Deleted member 3291]

cope