I mean when they do threads on IncelTears mocking us they're literally trying to get female attention, isn't it? they even defend females (I know it's not their main purpose but is probably one of their)
That's true, makes perfectly sense
They wouldn't care so much if their mental gymnastics wasn't just some mechanism of reinforcement and self convincement. There is also the rep system on Reddit:IT, which create a strong illusory sense of "being right";
"look at how much people are agreeing with me (aka high number of upvotes), I must be right!"
But we know that this is nothing but just logical fallacy
They also can use this against people who they disagree of, you can see this in any failed attempt of an Incel trying to argue with them on their own subreddit (aka IT) they usually get a lot of downvotes (anyone who disagree with them btw).