Questions for Arabcels

[Erenor]

I have heard several claims that arab patiarchy isn't so great, because a lot of men have to wait until they're 30 to get married and there are no hookups, so a lot of young men are sexually frustrated. But why is it like that? Is it expected that you already a lot of money when you marry?

And how do you find a wife if casual dating doesn't really exist?  Are the marriages kind of arranged or do you just straight up ask woman if they want to marry you?

If you marry at 30, do you find a wife who is already 30 as well (prime window almost over) or someone who is a lot younger?

Also, what happens when a girl has sex before marriage? Is she shunned by her family and social circle?

Sorry, these are a lot of questions at once, looking forward to anwers

 

[Erenor]

bump

 

[idkwattodowithlife]

A lot of them actually get married young in their cultures, it kind of makes sense though. When you're hormones buzzing up and about in your teenage years, sometimes your early twenties.

One of the posters here @ItheIthe spoke of getting married younger which would enable in solving some of our issues with degeneracy.

 

[tehgymcel420]

I have heard several claims that arab patiarchy isn't so great, because a lot of men have to wait until they're 30 to get married and there are no hookups, so a lot of young men are sexually frustrated. But why is it like that? Is it expected that you already a lot of money when you marry?

Ideally you're supposed to get married when you are at a stable point in your life, can be early mid 20s, 30s, 40s, or never. You're not supposed to hookup but most of them (who aren't incel) do anyway.

And how do you find a wife if casual dating doesn't really exist? Are the marriages kind of arranged or do you just straight up ask woman if they want to marry you?

You can ask around (friends/family) if they know anyone with a single daughter, or you could try to court females yourself.

If you marry at 30, do you find a wife who is already 30 as well (prime window almost over) or someone who is a lot younger?

The wife is usually younger, I've seen men marry females up to 10 years younger than them.

Also, what happens when a girl has sex before marriage? Is she shunned by her family and social circle?

She is shamed, and if it is a strict religious family she is killed.

 

[Inexistent]

I have heard several claims that arab patiarchy isn't so great, because a lot of men have to wait until they're 30 to get married and there are no hookups, so a lot of young men are sexually frustrated. But why is it like that? Is it expected that you already a lot of money when you marry?

And how do you find a wife if casual dating doesn't really exist?  Are the marriages kind of arranged or do you just straight up ask woman if they want to marry you?

If you marry at 30, do you find a wife who is already 30 as well (prime window almost over) or someone who is a lot younger?

Also, what happens when a girl has sex before marriage? Is she shunned by her family and social circle?

Sorry, these are a lot of questions at once, looking forward to anwers

I'm from north Africa , so my country is more liberal than other Arab countries . Usually men marry when they are 20 something/30 ( the wife is usually younger(16 to 25) , my grandmother was 13 when she got married to my grandfather ( who was 25 I think )) .
About fornication and hookups , most people do it secretly . Some even date ( but not publicly) . So most men just fuck around in their youth and when they think it's the time to get settled , they ask their mum to find them a wife ( that's what usually happens) . Sometimes the guy might ask a woman straight away , but it probably won't work . A guy sitting in a café once stopped my sister , told her that she was very pretty  , that he loved her from the first and all the bla bla bla and then asked her whether she would want to marry him ( to which she answered no).
If a girl has sex before marriage , she can get her hymen restored via plastic surgery . If somehow people find out , she will get shamed and made fun of , no one will want to marry her , she might even get beaten up ( look up what happened to Loubna Abidar , a moroccan" porn" star ,she got beaten up and  hospitals refused to take care of her , so she immigrated to France . It was because of ONE movie (zine li fik)  ).
Her parents might also try to force the guy who had sex with her to marry her . ( I think even rapists  were  forced to marry their victims because of virginity a while ago , even now rape victims are usually the ones who get shamed )

 

[Erenor]

You're not supposed to hookup but most of them (who aren't incel) do anyway.

Yeah but I suppose hookups are less common than in the west. I think that makes it a lot easier to have no contact with females, if a lot of your friends are in the same situation.

You can ask around (friends/family) if they know anyone with a single daughter

when they think it's the time to get settled , they ask their mum to find them a wife

Sounds like a solution for many incels to me, especially for those with high inhib

 

[hehe xd]

Allah is the biggest chad followed by muhammad (peace be upon him)

Pbuh muhammed  <3

 

[FeminismsCancer]

my grandmother was 13 when she got married to my grandfather ( who was 25 I think )) .

Whoahh what a sweet life he must've have had.

 

[dawn]

So, premarital sex happens even in Saudi Arabia and other muslim countries? Surprised to know this .

 

[Juxtaposition6]

I have heard several claims that arab patiarchy isn't so great, because a lot of men have to wait until they're 30 to get married and there are no hookups, so a lot of young men are sexually frustrated. But why is it like that? Is it expected that you already a lot of money when you marry?

And how do you find a wife if casual dating doesn't really exist?  Are the marriages kind of arranged or do you just straight up ask woman if they want to marry you?

If you marry at 30, do you find a wife who is already 30 as well (prime window almost over) or someone who is a lot younger?

Also, what happens when a girl has sex before marriage? Is she shunned by her family and social circle?

Sorry, these are a lot of questions at once, looking forward to anwers

I don't want to get married.
Not now, not later.
Marriages being arranged or not depends on the region you live in and yes, most women get shamed for being whores if they have sex before marriage but honor killings and crap like that don't happen here.
Casual dating does exist, it's just that it's mostly devoid of sex.

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or so i think.