Incels.is - Involuntary Celibate

The use of the word fit to describe oneself or one’s ideal partner is everywhere, particularly on more sex-focused apps like Pure and Feeld, and it’s always left me with a vague sense of discomfort. Dating while fat can be an incredibly fraught endeavor. It’s easy to find someone to fetishize you, but finding someone who’s actually going to love and respect you—regardless of your size—can be far trickier. I start to feel as though the casual sex and companionship that many people turn to dating apps for is off-limits to me until I lose half my body weight.

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For some reason, identifying as fit is hilarious to me. It’s just so shallow.

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What I do hope for, though, is a world in which fat people like myself can freely date, flirt, fall in love, or have random sex without feeling as though our bodies are a barrier to the kind of connection we’re looking for. Maybe that starts with a greater awareness, on all of our parts, of how we choose to describe ourselves and our ideal partners.

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