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It makes you slightly more likely to face social rejection and exclusion. It makes you slightly less likely to befriend people. It makes you slightly more likely to elicit pity or mockery rather than good-hearted friendly reactions. And even if what I've just said is false, it makes you more shy and self-conscious... You can go to a therapist who will attempt to convince you that ugliness is fine but your reptilian brain will never be fully convinced, even after many rounds of hypnosis therapy. You'll always remain aware that you carry a burden that not everyone carries, at the very least. This burden can be carried (tons of ugly people work and even have families) but it is there nonetheless.
Someone who's not ugly: no self-consciousness at all, no need for a therapist. This guy has a clear advantage in life, where relationships and friendships are the most important thing to ensure survival, perhaps even more than money. In a POW camp where money and diplomas don't have value, your only worth is determined by your friendships.
For some reason, that I link to Hitler's cooptation of genetics and eugenics and ultimate defeat in war, the modern Western medical community has ceased to consider physical ugliness as a problem worth mentioning or solving. It is reflected in the very poor treatment of mental illness linked to physical ugliness in the mental health system. Yet, this judgment, which stems from abstract morality rather than pragmatism, should not be taken too seriously. In three centuries the medical community could have done a full turnaround on the topic, with compulsory plastic surgery for ugly teenagers.
My advice:
- Don't forget that you're carrying a burden. If tomorrow you were interned in a concentration camp, where every weakness can directly destroy your chances of survival, ugliness could directly make you die. For instance, you try to befriend a kapo but he rejects you because he doesn't like ugly people: death.
- Don't make your situation worse than it already is.
- Try to get surgery if you can. Ignore every naysayer as someone who wants to help you die.
Someone who's not ugly: no self-consciousness at all, no need for a therapist. This guy has a clear advantage in life, where relationships and friendships are the most important thing to ensure survival, perhaps even more than money. In a POW camp where money and diplomas don't have value, your only worth is determined by your friendships.
For some reason, that I link to Hitler's cooptation of genetics and eugenics and ultimate defeat in war, the modern Western medical community has ceased to consider physical ugliness as a problem worth mentioning or solving. It is reflected in the very poor treatment of mental illness linked to physical ugliness in the mental health system. Yet, this judgment, which stems from abstract morality rather than pragmatism, should not be taken too seriously. In three centuries the medical community could have done a full turnaround on the topic, with compulsory plastic surgery for ugly teenagers.
My advice:
- Don't forget that you're carrying a burden. If tomorrow you were interned in a concentration camp, where every weakness can directly destroy your chances of survival, ugliness could directly make you die. For instance, you try to befriend a kapo but he rejects you because he doesn't like ugly people: death.
- Don't make your situation worse than it already is.
- Try to get surgery if you can. Ignore every naysayer as someone who wants to help you die.
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