Discussion On being a virgin

[Pengwin]

One thing I am absolutely sure of, the idea that virtually all people in the world lose their virginity in their late teens is BS, pushed by our media and social media. I would say the very late 20s, and some people even older than that if at all. How much are you deteriorating as a person from this

 

[Gymcelled]

How much are you deteriorating as a person from this

 

[Pengwin]

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COPE

 

[Deleted member 21219]

COPE

Ok greycel.

 

[CopingJim]

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Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck

 

[Gymcelled]

Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck

We cant even moneymaxx, statusmaxx, or just happymaxx like people with functioning relationships, no matter how hard we try.

 

[Deleted member 21219]

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Its over.

 

[unsettling]

this is such a massive cope. most people loose their virginity in their mid teens, around 14-16

 

[Iwanttolive]

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This was brutal to read.

 

[Hell]

One thing I am absolutely sure of, the idea that virtually all people in the world lose their virginity in their late teens is BS, pushed by our media and social media. I would say the very late 20s, and some people even older than that if at all. How much are you deteriorating as a person from this

Hey man if that's your cope then whatever works

 

[Pengwin]

Hey man if that's your cope then whatever works

Yes atleast in my surroundings

 

[Gymcelled]

This was brutal to read.

Don't ever let anyone tell you sex and relationships arent important.

 

[Iwanttolive]

Don't ever let anyone tell you sex and relationships arent important.

This is fckin nuts. This has been said b4 but Inceldom seeps into every aspect of one's life . I can't imagine how fucked up the brain has become from lack of a relationship

 

[Gymcelled]

This is fckin nuts. This has been said b4 but Inceldom seeps into every aspect of one's life . I can't imagine how fucked up the brain has become from lack of a relationship

We're wired for this shit. You know how your brain rewards you/makes you feel good for various things? Eating? Warming up when it's cold? Resting when you're tired?

What's the biggest goal for us mammals? Reproducing and having a long lasting relationship. So obviously our brain would give us an incomparable amount of happiness as a reward for that. And I'm pretty sure the lack of relationships has stunted our mental growth in some ways. We're just too used to rot and be miserable.

Rejection also feels like react physical pain to the brain. It's that extreme, so why wouldn't love and relationships trigger an opposite response?

Spoiler

The brain reacts to rejection in the same manner as physical pain
Kross et al. (2011) recruited 40 individuals who felt 'intensely rejected' after a the recent dissolution of a romantic relationship. Participants were made to perform two tasks under fMRI scanning: a 'social rejection task' and a 'physical pain task'. The rejection task involved looking at a photograph of their previous romantic partner while performing a visualization task that involved recreating the rejection experience.

The pain task involved exposure to thermal stimulation (burning) on their left forearm. It was found that both tasks displayed similar neural activation patterns on the fMRI scanner. Both tasks were administered separately, to minimize potential 'priming' effects that could have lead to anticipation of physical pain during the social rejection task. Thus the conclusion of the study was that social rejection is associated with physical pain.

Discussion:

Most men in the modern dating world must now face staggering amounts of rejection to even get a few replies or matches. This study may shed some light on what such a sense of overwhelming rejection can feel like.

Quotes:

• We demonstrate the specificity of the secondary somatosensory cortex and dorsal posterior insula activity to physical pain.
• Activation in these regions was highly diagnostic of physical pain, with positive predictive values up to 88%.
• These results give new meaning to the idea that rejection “hurts.”
• They demonstrate that rejection and physical pain are similar not only in that they are both distressing—they share a common somatosensory representation as well.

References:

• Kross E, Berman MG, Mischel W, Smith EE, Wager TD. 2011. Social rejection shares somatosensory representations with physical pain. PNAS. 108(15): 6270-6275. [FullText]

 

[Tenshi]

well by now most males are incels anyways (most of them in denial) so you probably right

 

[Sportbro]

We're wired for this shit. You know how your brain rewards you/makes you feel good for various things? Eating? Warming up when it's cold? Resting when you're tired?

What's the biggest goal for us mammals? Reproducing and having a long lasting relationship. So obviously our brain would give us an incomparable amount of happiness as a reward for that. And I'm pretty sure the lack of relationships has stunted our mental growth in some ways. We're just too used to rot and be miserable.

Rejection also feels like react physical pain to the brain. It's that extreme, so why wouldn't love and relationships trigger an opposite response?

Spoiler

The brain reacts to rejection in the same manner as physical pain
Kross et al. (2011) recruited 40 individuals who felt 'intensely rejected' after a the recent dissolution of a romantic relationship. Participants were made to perform two tasks under fMRI scanning: a 'social rejection task' and a 'physical pain task'. The rejection task involved looking at a photograph of their previous romantic partner while performing a visualization task that involved recreating the rejection experience.

The pain task involved exposure to thermal stimulation (burning) on their left forearm. It was found that both tasks displayed similar neural activation patterns on the fMRI scanner. Both tasks were administered separately, to minimize potential 'priming' effects that could have lead to anticipation of physical pain during the social rejection task. Thus the conclusion of the study was that social rejection is associated with physical pain.

Discussion:

Most men in the modern dating world must now face staggering amounts of rejection to even get a few replies or matches. This study may shed some light on what such a sense of overwhelming rejection can feel like.

Quotes:

• We demonstrate the specificity of the secondary somatosensory cortex and dorsal posterior insula activity to physical pain.
• Activation in these regions was highly diagnostic of physical pain, with positive predictive values up to 88%.
• These results give new meaning to the idea that rejection “hurts.”
• They demonstrate that rejection and physical pain are similar not only in that they are both distressing—they share a common somatosensory representation as well.

References:

• Kross E, Berman MG, Mischel W, Smith EE, Wager TD. 2011. Social rejection shares somatosensory representations with physical pain. PNAS. 108(15): 6270-6275. [FullText]

please stop
I am having a bad day,and you are just making it worse