Oldcels, is your ability to cope with solitude, eroding away with age?

[Tempus Edax Rerum]

When I was younger, I was able to endure being alone and unwanted fairly "well", but at the back of my head, I've always had this fear. That with aging, and weakening of my physical body, my mental fortitude will also weaken. In effect, I will be less equipped to deal with being alone.
To really be alone, to not resort to suicide or completely go insane as the result of being alone, you really, need to be strong, but with the aging body... your ability to deal with loneliness and solitude erodes away, you get weaker, and you are no longer equipped to endure solitude.

Being 27 and approaching my thirties as KHHV... I find it more and more difficult to focus. The overarching aura of loneliness, melancholy the constant nagging of the body for physical intimacy, along with the emotional aspect of wanting to be wanted and loved, is becoming a torment that I am finding my self less and less able to deal with. Less able to ingore and repress these feelings into some dark corner of my mind... more and more these feelings consume me, and make my existence more and more cruel, more and more unbearable.

I know a lot of older cels, are in an emotionally vegetated state, where they don't really feel much, or anything anymore.
Anyways, any oldercels 25+, if you want to share how your inner battle against loneliness is going, please feel free to drop a comment below.

 

[St.Tropez]

You are going to kill yourself. The faster you understand this the better.

You can cope for a while,but your coping is meaningless and evryone must die at some point so it is not like dying is something you chose. 

You can only.chose the date. 

I am in same.boat as you and suicide option for me is almost a fact. I will try once more and if I fail I am.doing it.

 

[coldmachinery]

Not old enough really to comment so feel free not to read (21) but as someone with no siblings and a dead parent, isolation has only been 100% crippling for the past year. Video games aren't filling the void and weed isn't doing it anymore after 4 years of smoking it. Recently, I've been feeling chills when I think about how lonely I am, and I instinctively wrap my arms around myself because I'm so withdrawn from physical intimacy. Dreams where I'm with a girl or even people in general have turned into nightmares, I wake up clenching the sheets like a drug addict desperately scrambling for empty pill bottles.

 

[sepelion]

Books are for people fed up with life. A Houellebecq quote. He's a king of incels.

 

[Deleted member 1546]

>being 27 is old

Being an incel probably ages you 20-30% faster, at least emotional and mentally.

This is a cope, but people do tell me I look 4-5 years younger than I am.

 

[sepelion]

>being 27 is old

Being an incel probably ages you 20-30% faster, at least emotional and mentally.

This is a cope, but people do tell me I look 4-5 years younger than I am.

God keeps us looking like children due to never having penetrate a woman.

 

[idkwattodowithlife]

I think as a kid, its easier to forget about some things. Sometimes you get to lose and immerse yourself doing things you enjoy. But as soon as puberty, you develop the need to bask in the females warmth, its somehow a curse for a lot of Incels.

As you grow into older age, I think perhaps you become more conscious with the stuff your doing, and being in the real world, kind of just encloses your route to escape into many things from this dreaded reality you're in. Pain maybe temporary for normal folks (every now and then), but it maybe eternal for Incels, especially for oldercels.

However, I don't understand this completely though, as I'm only 23... But I at least wanted to chime in.

 

[jamho22]

When I was younger, I was able to endure being alone and unwanted fairly "well", but at the back of my head, I've always had this fear. That with aging, and weakening of my physical body, my mental fortitude will also weaken. In effect, I will be less equipped to deal with being alone.
To really be alone, to not resort to suicide or completely go insane as the result of being alone, you really, need to be strong, but with the aging body... your ability to deal with loneliness and solitude erodes away, you get weaker, and you are no longer equipped to endure solitude.

Being 27 and approaching my thirties as KHHV... I find it more and more difficult to focus. The overarching aura of loneliness, melancholy the constant nagging of the body for physical intimacy, along with the emotional aspect of wanting to be wanted and loved, is becoming a torment that I am finding my self less and less able to deal with. Less able to ingore and repress these feelings into some dark corner of my mind... more and more these feelings consume me, and make my existence more and more cruel, more and more unbearable.

I know a lot of older cels, are in an emotionally vegetated state, where they don't really feel much, or anything anymore.
Anyways, any oldercels 25+, if you want to share how your inner battle against loneliness is going, please feel free to drop a comment below.

sorry, this wont be of much consolation. But it gets worse. Much worse. The feeling is like living a life in solitary confinement where one is robbed of human contact. When suffering from chronic loneliness your odds of dying from brain degenerative diseases and heart disease increase by orders of magnitude.

 

[Tempus Edax Rerum]

Not old enough really to comment so feel free not to read (21) but as someone with no siblings and a dead parent, isolation has only been 100% crippling for the past year. Video games aren't filling the void and weed isn't doing it anymore after 4 years of smoking it. Recently, I've been feeling chills when I think about how lonely I am, and I instinctively wrap my arms around myself because I'm so withdrawn from physical intimacy. Dreams where I'm with a girl or even people in general have turned into nightmares, I wake up clenching the sheets like a drug addict desperately scrambling for empty pill bottles.

Yup, I also have no family, and no friends, and not relatives.

I am completely alone, I've adapted to solitude pretty well, but now that I am getting older.... everything is beginning to lose its luster... things just don't engage me, I find myself less capable of immersing my self in things that would distract me from the loneliness... from the feeling of everlasting melancholy.  I'm always stuck with this low-frequency vibration in my body. Vibration or feeling of constant loneliness pressing on my soul and on my body. The void that is constantly sucking the energy out of me, out of life, making it really difficult to enjoy and do anything at all.

 

[modus_coperandi]

It depends. Do you have any RL friends? If that's the case it will get extra hard because you will also experience how these once close friends will slowly alienate from you and it makes the loneliness even more prevalent. A steadily growing distance when they are building up separated lives with very limited capacities, whose places are exclusively reserved for people with comparable life concepts.

Edit: Ok, just saw your addendum, NVM.

 

[LurkingIncel]

Well I'm 25. But at a younger age I certainly used to think that I didn't need anyone and that I could endure anything. Well it turns out the older I get, the less I feel like enduring, or toughing it out, however you want to phrase it. I just end up asking my self what's the point? Hell, the last two days I spent probably 16 hours or so in bed(each day). It's become a tiresome struggle to even convince myself to get out of bed anymore. So yeah I certainly agree the older you get the more it chips away at your mental fortitude, throw in health problems as you age and it only compounds the issue, at least in my experience.

 

[shadowsoulz125]

Go, fuck an escort. Just do it at least before trying anything. It might change your outlook, that they are just objects for pleasure. Everyone comes and goes alone.

 

[blickpall]

I think I cope much better than I did in my "live fast die young" drug-fueled degeneracy period. I stay hurt for less time, I try less often, I find more validation in matters outside the romantic/interpersonal and more in the self-actualizing, intangible, and ephemeral.

PS: 28 y/o oldcel reporting.

 

[Deleted member 306]

It gets worse each year.

 

[Anonymous]

I can't be bothered to put out effort in anything. It definitely gets worse.

 

[Westcoastincel]

I don't day dream as much and have gotten better at blocking people from my mind when they walk near me but the problem is that in life, the more social you are the better off you are so I am facing that dilemma.

The way I "cope" is by changing my attitude, the way I see it, its too late for me so just accept the life. The only thing I can do is treat myself because no one else gives a fuck about me. I'm a hideous freak but that doesn't mean I cant go to the movies, buy food, travel, spend money on me but it does kind of hit me in the feels when i see others enjoying life with their friends or when I hear people talking about their relationships, that sounds so alien to me like what is that even like that ?

 

[Tempus Edax Rerum]

Well I'm 25. But at a younger age I certainly used to think that I didn't need anyone and that I could endure anything. Well it turns out the older I get, the less I feel like enduring, or toughing it out, however you want to phrase it. I just end up asking my self what's the point? Hell, the last two days I spent probably 16 hours or so in bed(each day). It's become a tiresome struggle to even convince myself to get out of bed anymore. So yeah I certainly agree the older you get the more it chips away at your mental fortitude, throw in health problems as you age and it only compounds the issue, at least in my experience.

I feel like it's analogous of walking on a tight rope, on one end you have "vegetated" emotionless state of not feeling anything at all(which leads to you slowly becoming a vegetable), on the other, you have intolerable pain which leads to suicide. You have to stay perfectly balanced. You have to stay perfectly balanced in the middle, any misstep and you instantly fall into the one or the other side.

I feel like I've always been in the "vegetated" state, it's probably a state of a really deep clinical depression that you have for years, being completely void of any emotions, like hiding behind a thick impenetrable armor.

Go, fuck an escort. Just do it at least before trying anything. It might change your outlook, that they are just objects for pleasure. Everyone comes and goes alone.

I know for a fact escorts are not for me. I am not "virtue signaling" but, I understand that most of the girls that escort, do so, because they come from broken families, and have deep emotional problems, have drug abuse problems etc. And they don't really enjoy fucking random strangers.. I just don't want to contribute to this degeneracy or cycle of abuse.

Secondly, every man is not 100% masculine, and every woman not 100% feminine, the average is something like 75/25 Masc/Fem and vice versa.
Meaning that men have feminine characteristics, and females have masculine characteristics. I know personally for me, I don't really put a huge emphasis on sex itself, for me sex only matters if it's tied to an emotional connection. Yes I am suffering from the lack of sex, but I am suffering far more from the lack of "emotional intimacy"... for me sex can only be tied to "emotional intimacy". Sex could never satisfy if it was void of the emotional intimacy part.  Meaning If the woman doesn't really desire me, love me, and show genuine affection, sex means nothing.

I view sex maybe as the peak or the climax point of bonding, cuddling? Not really a thing in itself, if it's robbed of bonding, cuddling aspect, it's really robbed of its essence and value.

I don't day dream as much and have gotten better at blocking people from my mind when they walk near me but the problem is that in life, the more social you are the better off you are so I am facing that dilemma.

The way I "cope" is by changing my attitude, the way I see it, its too late for me so just accept the life. The only thing I can do is treat myself because no one else gives a fuck about me. I'm  a hideous freak but that doesn't mean I cant go to the movies, buy food, travel, spend money on me but it does kind of hit me in the feels when i see others enjoying life with their friends or when I hear people talking about their relationships, that sounds so alien to me like what is that even like that ?

I can't really focus on other things atm, the overwhelming pull of loneliness has just an overbearing effects on me atm.  I wake up every single night, in the middle of the night for no other reason, simply from the feeling of being utterly alone.  It's really strange... I always cuddle up to my sheets, and my pillow, close my eyes and try to fall asleep,  faintly imagining I'm cuddle up to a loving girl.

IDK maybe it's beta-carotene deficiency, I haven't been eating carrots, and I know I need to eat carrots to get this Vitamin(A) as a vegan.