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I'm 20. I notice that most bluepillers in my personal life and also online are millennials, gen x, and even maybe early gen Z who managed to experience dating before social media and OLD became so influential. These people simply cannot comprehend just how brutal the modern dating landscape is for the average guy.

The average girl my age has spent her entire life browsing tik tok and Instagram and seeing only the most attractive of men. People who think internet porn has warped mens standards for women are completely delusional. Most pornstars are average. Legitimately above average and hot women don't often find themselves in the position where they need to do porn or onlyfans. Yet go on tik tok and Instagram and you will only see the hottest of men posting. Average guys simply don't waste their time doing that shit. So now women have a completely warped perception of what the average man is supposed to look like, which only makes legitimately sub5 men even more undersireable to them.

And don't even get me started on OLD. Old heads simply cannot and will not comprehend how much OLD has changed over the past 10 years. It's especially hard to have this conversation with millennials who experienced OLD in its early stages when it was a much more legitimate way to form long term relationships. Nowadays, literally any chick from 1-10 can take a bunch of shitty mirror selfies and have hundreds of thirsty dudes begging her for sex. Women literally have no reason to "settle" for anyone but the most attractive and wealthy men.

This is what oldheads need to understand. Chances are the only reason you managed to find someone is because you were dating during a time where women didn't have infinite options. Eventually they needed to settle for someone who is just "good enough" and that happened to be you. That is not a luxury that my generation has or ever will have. Shit is absolutely fucked bros
 
Strong early post.
Read every word and it's true.
 
water flowing GIF
 
my dads bluepill and told me that if i can make people laugh and be confident foids will want to be around me
 
The average girl my age has spent her entire life browsing tik tok and Instagram and seeing only the most attractive of men. People who think internet porn has warped mens standards for women are completely delusional. Most pornstars are average.
If anything men these days (despite all of our porn addictions) are more likely to date ugly woman than they were before the internet and now women have only had their standards significantly inflated compared to 30 years ago.
And don't even get me started on OLD. Old heads simply cannot and will not comprehend how much OLD has changed over the past 10 years.
The old are never able to adapt to what's new. Look at WW1 where generals were still sending men to charge the frontlines of machine gun fire when lower enlisted troops were saying it's suicide and the tactic wasn't working.
 
This is what oldheads need to understand. Chances are the only reason you managed to find someone is because you were dating during a time where women didn't have infinite options.
They do not want to understand...
 
The average girl my age has spent her entire life browsing tik tok and Instagram and seeing only the most attractive of men. People who think internet porn has warped mens standards for women are completely delusional. Most pornstars are average. Legitimately above average and hot women don't often find themselves in the position where they need to do porn or onlyfans.
I agree , but even if most of women in porn are average , there is still some gems here and here, they look very good, above average sometimes...Until the drugs kick in and they loose everything.

Or maybe they have the best make up artist, that's also a possibility.
 
I can comprehend it very well as i am a millenial incel. But for me it was never better as i was getting nothing before anyway. Ofc now it's worse but it doesn't even matter.
 
That’s why you never talk to old niggas unless they first prove to you that they get it. I always assume the worst from people.
 
My oldhead dad keeps telling me that I just have to go out and ask foids out. Eventually one will bite, so he claims.

He says that even if it takes a million atempts, it is worth it.

He did not have to ask out any other foid except for my mom and she literally settled for him. I know this because she keeps on talking about that one boy she had fallen in love with before she met my father.

She still remembers him, still wonders what he is up to these days.

She doesn't see any issue with telling me this. Doesn't realize that she was spitting blackpills.

My father does not know. She never talks to HIM about this.
But it is funny how jealous this bitch gets whenever she remembers that one foid that kept chasing my father and even nowadays that foid has a social media account and visits my father's page every once in a while.

My mother throws a small fit every time.

It is funny to watch all this from the sidelines, but I cannot laugh, tbh.

Fuck this existence and fuck women.
 
My oldhead dad keeps telling me that I just have to go out and ask foids out. Eventually one will bite, so he claims.

He says that even if it takes a million atempts, it is worth it.

He did not have to ask out any other foid except for my mom and she literally settled for him. I know this because she keeps on talking about that one boy she had fallen in love with before she met my father.

She still remembers him, still wonders what he is up to these days.

She doesn't see any issue with telling me this. Doesn't realize that she was spitting blackpills.

My father does not know. She never talks to HIM about this.
But it is funny how jealous this bitch gets whenever she remembers that one foid that kept chasing my father and even nowadays that foid has a social media account and visits my father's page every once in a while.

My mother throws a small fit every time.

It is funny to watch all this from the sidelines, but I cannot laugh, tbh.

Fuck this existence and fuck women.
Yup. My dad is basically the same. Gen X and constantly giving me bluepill advice like "just do hobbies" and "make yourself happy and the women will come". He's particularly hard to argue with because him and his entire social circle were KHHV until their early 20s and so he thinks its totally cool and normal to be a loser virgin in high-school with zero game. He is also a firm believer in the idea that women aren't as "visual" as men and value personality and confidence more than looks.
 
Yup. My dad is basically the same. Gen X and constantly giving me bluepill advice like "just do hobbies" and "make yourself happy and the women will come". He's particularly hard to argue with because him and his entire social circle were KHHV until their early 20s and so he thinks its totally cool and normal to be a loser virgin in high-school with zero game. He is also a firm believer in the idea that women aren't as "visual" as men and value personality and confidence more than looks.
Good fucking lord. Your father is a lost cause, man.

I am sorry. Mine is very similar.
Mine also tells me shit like "You love sports so much. Why don't you go to the gym and meet girls there?" .
He completely disregards that I haven't worked out for allmost two years because of how depressed I am. He doesn't even fucking realize that I suffer severe depression and it's been like this for years.
He almost always asks me how I am doing and unlike normtards I say it how it is, that I feel bad.
He never asks why. He just complains to me that I never answer that I am good.

When normies ask you how you are, you are expected to answer that you're fine and swallow your pain. Nobody actually wants to deal with your shit.

Now, a father is not some random normie, he is your father. He absolutely should have an interrest in why you feel down all the time.
Not this nigger.
And then these people have the audacity to complain about jow their kids amount to nothing.

Hell, I have gotten so low inhib that I take my xbox controller with me when I visit them and just sit there and play Minecraft all the time.

That's how boring and depressing the visits are.
 
"Why are you an incel? At your age, I smiled to a girl and she instantly begged me to marry her! Then we worked at a lemonade stand for a week to afford our first house! Just apply yourself more!"
 
OLD was always shit you don't know what you're talking about. Only gen x maybe got some matches on there in the 2000s, young foids in 2010 were already chasing Chad
 
Good fucking lord. Your father is a lost cause, man.

I am sorry. Mine is very similar.
Mine also tells me shit like "You love sports so much. Why don't you go to the gym and meet girls there?" .
He completely disregards that I haven't worked out for allmost two years because of how depressed I am. He doesn't even fucking realize that I suffer severe depression and it's been like this for years.
He almost always asks me how I am doing and unlike normtards I say it how it is, that I feel bad.
He never asks why. He just complains to me that I never answer that I am good.

When normies ask you how you are, you are expected to answer that you're fine and swallow your pain. Nobody actually wants to deal with your shit.

Now, a father is not some random normie, he is your father. He absolutely should have an interrest in why you feel down all the time.
Not this nigger.
And then these people have the audacity to complain about jow their kids amount to nothing.

Hell, I have gotten so low inhib that I take my xbox controller with me when I visit them and just sit there and play Minecraft all the time.

That's how boring and depressing the visits are.
You guys should talk to your dads and see if they’re willing to put their money where their mouths are.

Meaning ask them to create accounts on dating sites/apps with their current picture and a fake name so no one will be able to easily find out that they’re married and see how well their “rizz” works at getting one of these modern entitled Chad only cunts.

When they don’t get a single match and or receive only a long stream of go nowhere lame and pathetic one word replies at best you can declare victory.
 
You guys should talk to your dads and see if they’re willing to put their money where their mouths are.

Meaning ask them to create accounts on dating sites/apps with their current picture and a fake name so no one will be able to easily find out that they’re married and see how well their “rizz” works at getting one of these modern entitled Chad only cunts.

When they don’t get a single match and or receive only a long stream of go nowhere lame and pathetic one word replies at best you can declare victory.
My father doesn't even know how to access his own email account on his own.

He needs MY HELP for this. I memorize all his passwords and basically manage all this shit for him.

He is even too dumb to write and email and send it to the correct receipant.

My mom told me how he can't remember his pin code, for his bank account.

And that nigger is an electrician, mind you ... .
He is not an actual nigger. I just call everyone a nigger who is dumb.

Anyway, I did cold approaches and warm approaches.
Later in life I too noticed that more and more people are dating via the internet. So, I switched to that as well.

While is are way more choices, those way more choices don't give me the time of day once they see me.

I noticed how on e I'd share photos of me, they'd change their tone.
So, yes, I was able to chat foids up, but it always failed once it was time for a face reveal, so to speak.

None has dared to give me shit about my looks, because they all loved in close proximity, BUT they did come up with all kinds of excuses and explanations for not being into me.

The funniest one was where one checked my profile and then told me that obviousely I am a very funny guy, but she is a very serious person, so she doesn't see us together.

Water of course, but back then I was just getting red pilled.

Here's the kicker though. I remember how my father used to tell me that I should look for a girl who's on the uglier side. Those are more loyal and less likely to leave me, he said.
Nigga knew, nigga understood but couldn't quite call it what it is.
 
My father doesn't even know how to access his own email account on his own.

He needs MY HELP for this. I memorize all his passwords and basically manage all this shit for him.

He is even too dumb to write and email and send it to the correct receipant.

My mom told me how he can't remember his pin code, for his bank account.

And that nigger is an electrician, mind you ... .
He is not an actual nigger. I just call everyone a nigger who is dumb.

Anyway, I did cold approaches and warm approaches.
Later in life I too noticed that more and more people are dating via the internet. So, I switched to that as well.

While is are way more choices, those way more choices don't give me the time of day once they see me.

I noticed how on e I'd share photos of me, they'd change their tone.
So, yes, I was able to chat foids up, but it always failed once it was time for a face reveal, so to speak.

None has dared to give me shit about my looks, because they all loved in close proximity, BUT they did come up with all kinds of excuses and explanations for not being into me.

The funniest one was where one checked my profile and then told me that obviousely I am a very funny guy, but she is a very serious person, so she doesn't see us together.

Water of course, but back then I was just getting red pilled.

Here's the kicker though. I remember how my father used to tell me that I should look for a girl who's on the uglier side. Those are more loyal and less likely to leave me, he said.
Nigga knew, nigga understood but couldn't quite call it what it is.
A perfect opportunity for you to bond with the old bastard then.

You could run everything and have him type up the messages which you’d give to these women and let him know his progress if any.

Since he’s likely old and decrepit now we both know the experiment won’t last very long.
 
A perfect opportunity for you to bond with the old bastard then.

You could run everything and have him type up the messages which you’d give to these women and let him know his progress if any.

Since he’s likely old and decrepit now we both know the experiment won’t last very long.
Yeah, he has definetely gotten old in the tooth, figuratively and literally. He has lost most of his teeth.

Tell you what, I will tell him to out his money where his mouth is once he talks to me again about girlfriends.

I already know what I'll ask. Jfl
 
my dads bluepill and told me that if i can make people laugh and be confident foids will want to be around me
Sure, normies like having an ugly clown to make fun of. But that's not a particularly new concept. It's been around before.
Your father should know that.
 
My oldhead dad keeps telling me that I just have to go out and ask foids out. Eventually one will bite, so he claims.
Has he never seen how young foids are almost constantly on their smartphones?
Does he think they only text or talk to their moms on them?
Lmfao
 
I can comprehend it very well as i am a millenial incel. But for me it was never better as i was getting nothing before anyway. Ofc now it's worse but it doesn't even matter.
 
Has he never seen how young foids are almost constantly on their smartphones?
Does he think they only text or talk to their moms on them?
Lmfao
He only complains about young people spending too much time on the phone, especially while driving.
 
Yup. My dad is basically the same. Gen X and constantly giving me bluepill advice like "just do hobbies" and "make yourself happy and the women will come". He's particularly hard to argue with because him and his entire social circle were KHHV until their early 20s and so he thinks its totally cool and normal to be a loser virgin in high-school with zero game. He is also a firm believer in the idea that women aren't as "visual" as men and value personality and confidence more than looks.
He's a coper. What is Gen X? I'm 36, so am I a part of it too?
Apart from that, it's sad that children already have "experience" these days, considering how young many Foids and Chads start with these things.
To me, this is largely the fault of their parents, who tell them it's perfectly fine.
I hate all this sexualization and moral depravity in the Western Hemisphere.
Having sex at 13 or 14 and then getting an abortion. It's come to this. Horrible and godless.
 
He only complains about young people spending too much time on the phone, especially while driving.
But has he ever heard of all the things you can do with these phones and that dating apps are now a significant part of young people's lives?
 
But has he ever heard of all the things you can do with these phones and that dating apps are now a significant part of young people's lives?
No, never. He thinks that people go to places and meet each other there, like parties, gym, bars, discos. He is an idiot who still lives in the soviet union, in his mind.
 
I think @Emba would disagree
You would be wrong.

Good thing you didn't bet on it...

The thing is, most old folks are afraid of the internet. They think its a faster version of television, and they fear that too. (Although they mostly trust and obey it - at least the news part.)

Also, not everyone has HAD time or money to be online to view those things... Sheltered, hard working, surviving folks don't have time to fondleslabs.

But these days, most are starting to access the devils web...

The dating landscape has indeed changed, but the blackpill hasn't. Cunts still be bitch's!

I think the part where you thought I would disagree with him, was, dating in general.

However he said landscape. And that has indeed changed.
 
Good fucking lord. Your father is a lost cause, man.

I am sorry. Mine is very similar.
Mine also tells me shit like "You love sports so much. Why don't you go to the gym and meet girls there?" .
He completely disregards that I haven't worked out for allmost two years because of how depressed I am. He doesn't even fucking realize that I suffer severe depression and it's been like this for years.
He almost always asks me how I am doing and unlike normtards I say it how it is, that I feel bad.
He never asks why. He just complains to me that I never answer that I am good.

When normies ask you how you are, you are expected to answer that you're fine and swallow your pain. Nobody actually wants to deal with your shit.
It's like everyone is living "on the surface" of reality, and they hate and fear what's under the skin of reality. All the real stuff.

You got to figure that they were trained and brainwashed to be that way for generations.
Now, a father is not some random normie, he is your father. He absolutely should have an interrest in why you feel down all the time.
Not this nigger.
And then these people have the audacity to complain about jow their kids amount to nothing.

Hell, I have gotten so low inhib that I take my xbox controller with me when I visit them and just sit there and play Minecraft all the time.
And, you are enforcing surface type behavior when you don't try to get or dig under it. (By ignoring it)
That's how boring and depressing the visits are.
If you were more real about the reality, then it would be even more depressing.... (But less boring)

So, sometimes being a surface dweller has its Benefits. Lol.


(Lots of words to say nothing lol)
 
You guys should talk to your dads and see if they’re willing to put their money where their mouths are.

Meaning ask them to create accounts on dating sites/apps with their current picture and a fake name so no one will be able to easily find out that they’re married and see how well their “rizz” works at getting one of these modern entitled Chad only cunts.

When they don’t get a single match and or receive only a long stream of go nowhere lame and pathetic one word replies at best you can declare victory.
That's a good idea!
 
You would be wrong.

Good thing you didn't bet on it...

The thing is, most old folks are afraid of the internet. They think its a faster version of television, and they fear that too. (Although they mostly trust and obey it - at least the news part.)

Also, not everyone has HAD time or money to be online to view those things... Sheltered, hard working, surviving folks don't have time to fondleslabs.

But these days, most are starting to access the devils web...

The dating landscape has indeed changed, but the blackpill hasn't. Cunts still be bitch's!

I think the part where you thought I would disagree with him, was, dating in general.

However he said landscape. And that has indeed changed.
I'm just heard that dating was always bad and womens didn't gave any slack to incels even then
 
Yup boomers refuse to take the time to understand anything yet feel entitled to receive everything.
 
Good post. In my experience one of the reasons for this is that old people live in a bubble. These people are married and set for life financially, they have no reason to interact with society at all and no reason to interact with social circles and spheres of the youth, so they will have no understanding of how the world is for us. The old people I've spoken to just live and act like the world is in the same state that it was at the last time they participated in society which for some of them was the 1970s to 1990s. And when it comes to the Internet the generations are fairly segregated (there is some overlap between Millenials, Gen Z, and Gen Alpha) with older generations on the Internet rarely venturing outside their bubble
 
It's like everyone is living "on the surface" of reality, and they hate and fear what's under the skin of reality. All the real stuff.

You got to figure that they were trained and brainwashed to be that way for generations.

And, you are enforcing surface type behavior when you don't try to get or dig under it. (By ignoring it)

If you were more real about the reality, then it would be even more depressing.... (But less boring)

So, sometimes being a surface dweller has its Benefits. Lol.


(Lots of words to say nothing lol)
So, you suggest that I should confront him?

I've done that so many times that I can't even count them anymore, throughout my teens, twenties, when I moved out. This year alone I've done it several times.

He just doesn't take me seriousely. No matter what I ssay, how I say it. To him it's all bullshit and he screams at me to stop. Yeah, he screams and shouts and even threatens violence. Not that he scares me, but this is how it always goes.
 
So, you suggest that I should confront him?

I've done that so many times that I can't even count them anymore, throughout my teens, twenties, when I moved out. This year alone I've done it several times.

He just doesn't take me seriousely. No matter what I ssay, how I say it. To him it's all bullshit and he screams at me to stop. Yeah, he screams and shouts and even threatens violence. Not that he scares me, but this is how it always goes.
Really? Then drop it.

No point in it then.

Some folks you just have to accept as they are.
 
Really? Then drop it.

No point in it then.

Some folks you just have to accept as they are.
Yes, really, and I have tried. God knows I have.

In fact, I once stumbled upon an insightful video which explained what narcicism is. I was curious because I've heard this term thrown around a lot lately and so I clicked.

I noticed very quickly that most of what was said both my parents did to me.
Suddenly all began to make sense. A female friend of my family once took the time to listen to me and she explained to me that some fathers are jealous of their sons and either unconsciousely or consciousely sabotage their sons's lives, upbringing, careers because of that.
Because they see that their sons are young, free, full of energy and still have the whole world ahead of them and can make all the right choices, which they themselves haven't.

And although this was a foid telling me this, in hindsight, it was true in my father's case.

Had he really wanted me to succeed in life, he would have supported me in my visions and plans for my future.
He never did that. Every idea I've ever had as a kid was bullshit. Every hobby, every career path, it was all bullshit.

He'd discourage me at any given chance and he LOVED telling me how stupid, invompetent and useless I was, according to him.

I hate him, and I won't miss him when he finally croaks.
He was physically there, but he was not there for me as my father, my mentor.
He always was just another enemy, who btw once tried to choke the life out of me until he snapped out of it.
 
Yes, really, and I have tried. God knows I have.

In fact, I once stumbled upon an insightful video which explained what narcicism is. I was curious because I've heard this term thrown around a lot lately and so I clicked.

I noticed very quickly that most of what was said both my parents did to me.
Suddenly all began to make sense. A female friend of my family once took the time to listen to me and she explained to me that some fathers are jealous of their sons and either unconsciousely or consciousely sabotage their sons's lives, upbringing, careers because of that.
Because they see that their sons are young, free, full of energy and still have the whole world ahead of them and can make all the right choices, which they themselves haven't.

And although this was a foid telling me this, in hindsight, it was true in my father's case.

Had he really wanted me to succeed in life, he would have supported me in my visions and plans for my future.
He never did that. Every idea I've ever had as a kid was bullshit. Every hobby, every career path, it was all bullshit.

He'd discourage me at any given chance and he LOVED telling me how stupid, invompetent and useless I was, according to him.

I hate him, and I won't miss him when he finally croaks.
He was physically there, but he was not there for me as my father, my mentor.
He always was just another enemy, who btw once tried to choke the life out of me until he snapped out of it.
Brutal sabotagepill bro

Just ignore him then
 
Brutal sabotagepill bro

Just ignore him then
I can't really. These narcicistic pieces of shit are all that I have. The rest of my family keep to themselves.
Our family in general is very atomized.

I'm basically on my own here.
 
I can't really. These narcicistic pieces of shit are all that I have. The rest of my family keep to themselves.
Our family in general is very atomized.

I'm basically on my own here.
Yeah... I get it
 
I think @Emba would disagree
There is a a reason why we don't see that many oldcels here and it's not just suicide from being unable to handle it for so long, The threshold for being an incel has definitely decreased over time.
 
I'm 20. I notice that most bluepillers in my personal life and also online are millennials, gen x, and even maybe early gen Z who managed to experience dating before social media and OLD became so influential. These people simply cannot comprehend just how brutal the modern dating landscape is for the average guy.

The average girl my age has spent her entire life browsing tik tok and Instagram and seeing only the most attractive of men. People who think internet porn has warped mens standards for women are completely delusional. Most pornstars are average. Legitimately above average and hot women don't often find themselves in the position where they need to do porn or onlyfans. Yet go on tik tok and Instagram and you will only see the hottest of men posting. Average guys simply don't waste their time doing that shit. So now women have a completely warped perception of what the average man is supposed to look like, which only makes legitimately sub5 men even more undersireable to them.

And don't even get me started on OLD. Old heads simply cannot and will not comprehend how much OLD has changed over the past 10 years. It's especially hard to have this conversation with millennials who experienced OLD in its early stages when it was a much more legitimate way to form long term relationships. Nowadays, literally any chick from 1-10 can take a bunch of shitty mirror selfies and have hundreds of thirsty dudes begging her for sex. Women literally have no reason to "settle" for anyone but the most attractive and wealthy men.

This is what oldheads need to understand. Chances are the only reason you managed to find someone is because you were dating during a time where women didn't have infinite options. Eventually they needed to settle for someone who is just "good enough" and that happened to be you. That is not a luxury that my generation has or ever will have. Shit is absolutely fucked bro
i'm in my 30s but it was the same growing up, it felt like all the adults were treating the youngsters based off of something they read in dusty instruction manual
absolutely nothing that they said, actually applied to the social behavior of the young people they were "schooling"
i'm reminded of the lectures from our teachers about how "you kids need to be a united collective, you need to help each other" while everyone just wanted to leave school and leave their classmates behind as soon as possible so they could go party with their real friends
the nonsense from parents was not much better and assumed people will want to be friends with you if you bother them insistently enough, which was already out of touch in the 2000s
 
Boomers defend meritocracy like their lives depended on it. They don't believe there are systemic problems beyond your control. They believe you can't buy a house because you don't work hard enough, and the same old stuff. Add to that the fact that they're damn gynocentrists, and boomer men think it's "weak" to complain about women's cruelty, and they love that slave mentality. You have no idea how many times I've heard a boomer say, "Were you born ugly? Well, then you had to work hard." Hell, they're on board with the black pill, then. Meaning, being ugly means condemning yourself to watching Chad get women or a good job without doing anything to help. They cling to the idea that if you were born an incel, you deserve to suffer and that relationships, like everything else, are meritocratic. Pure nonsense. I can barely pay the rent, while Chad does nothing and makes five times as much as I do.

PS: Sorry for my English, I speak Spanish
 
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But hey, man, thank you for hearing me out. I hope you at least have some pleasent people to be around every once in a while.
I went to town the other day and got a burger to eat while I pirated lots of stuff off the library WiFi.

they were pleasant enough to not call 911 on me for looking like I'm dying. (Catching breath and moving real slow)
 
I went to town the other day and got a burger to eat while I pirated lots of stuff off the library WiFi.

they were pleasant enough to not call 911 on me for looking like I'm dying. (Catching breath and moving real slow)
Wair, what is 911 in the USA again? Ambulance or cops?

Hope the burger was good. What did you pirate?
 

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