The age-old coping phrase.
The message behind this is obvious. It's usually said to imply that any detrimental event that happens to you, as long as it's not bad enough to cause significant harm or kill you, will make you more resilient and, in a sense, "stronger" (mentally).
I disagree. Yes, you might build a tolerance to the bullshit you endure in life if you keep experiencing misfortune, but that tolerance doesn't necessarily make you stronger—it actually makes you weaker.
It's similar to how the body of a drug addict gets used to higher and higher doses, building a tolerance to greater amounts of harmful substances. Your brain will do the same. It will get used to hardship. But just like the drug addict, you’re slowly deteriorating from the inside.
You can even put on a good show for yourself, pretending that enduring all the pain you’ve been through made you more resilient and stronger as a person. But the reality is, you've been reduced to nothing but a hollow shell of your former self. You will eventually reach your breaking point, and when you do, you're no longer thinking about how tough you've been. Instead, even the smallest setbacks can be enough to push you off the edge.
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