Men can have body dysmorphia. Actually I do.
A man may find confliction between his physical appearance and that sought by society. A man views his single status as a physical flaw. He sees other men of appearances differing from his that are getting girlfriends. This man wants a girlfriend and chooses to change his appearance to increase his chances of success. This man doesn't know what he should look like with the demands pushed by society and the constraints set by his genetics.
We are competing for differing, often incompatible goals in terms of our physical, genetic limitations. A man can be 5'9", which isn't short and is taller than many other men, especially if he's ethnic like me. He'd worry a ton about his height because of the well known fact that shortness is bad. Maybe his race is stereotyped as short. At the same time he thinks he's fine because he's taller than many men around him. Another can be constantly worrying about being too skinny or big. The internet shames fat people and push viewers to the fitness via the gym. Others are claiming being too muscular is unattractive, and some women say dadbods are attractive. This all makes him think it's bad to be too much of either and he's getting confused
I'm a short and skinny asian guy at 5'6. I put effort into changing parts of my appearance to being attractive where I reasonably can. My dating situation is bad, but it shouldn't be. Living in such a diverse area, the people around me are similarly short, and my 5'6 height is, perceptually, not that far under average. Many other men are under 5'8 - this is a haven for short people. Yet all girls are seeking that 6 inch height difference and most guys are taller than me. I was formerly obese but had become skinny, having picked up and done so much cardio. The general population is quite fat - 70% are overweight with 40% of that being obese. I'm now the fit guy in the room. Still there's plenty of bodyshaming online. In recent years there has been a push towards lifting weights at the gym, where the fat are pushed to shrink and the skinny to grow - I've been on both sides of that spectrum. I wonder, should I get bigger? Does anyone care for muscles? Does any of this matter? I'm called skinny but I see many guys much skinnier than me, and they're often doing best with women. For whatever change I seek to make, I'm still limited by my genetics. There's a push-pull of where you want to be with the contrast of others and yourself, and with the limits of your genetic potential.
A man wants to improve his looks but is conflicted with the changes he can make. He wonders what he can fix and if it's ever enough. If only he could Just Be Chad, but he can only change certain individual parts of his body.
TLDR you want to look different but can't quite get there because the tangible results (gf) don't show
Inspired by this thread by @Balding Subhuman
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A man may find confliction between his physical appearance and that sought by society. A man views his single status as a physical flaw. He sees other men of appearances differing from his that are getting girlfriends. This man wants a girlfriend and chooses to change his appearance to increase his chances of success. This man doesn't know what he should look like with the demands pushed by society and the constraints set by his genetics.
We are competing for differing, often incompatible goals in terms of our physical, genetic limitations. A man can be 5'9", which isn't short and is taller than many other men, especially if he's ethnic like me. He'd worry a ton about his height because of the well known fact that shortness is bad. Maybe his race is stereotyped as short. At the same time he thinks he's fine because he's taller than many men around him. Another can be constantly worrying about being too skinny or big. The internet shames fat people and push viewers to the fitness via the gym. Others are claiming being too muscular is unattractive, and some women say dadbods are attractive. This all makes him think it's bad to be too much of either and he's getting confused
I'm a short and skinny asian guy at 5'6. I put effort into changing parts of my appearance to being attractive where I reasonably can. My dating situation is bad, but it shouldn't be. Living in such a diverse area, the people around me are similarly short, and my 5'6 height is, perceptually, not that far under average. Many other men are under 5'8 - this is a haven for short people. Yet all girls are seeking that 6 inch height difference and most guys are taller than me. I was formerly obese but had become skinny, having picked up and done so much cardio. The general population is quite fat - 70% are overweight with 40% of that being obese. I'm now the fit guy in the room. Still there's plenty of bodyshaming online. In recent years there has been a push towards lifting weights at the gym, where the fat are pushed to shrink and the skinny to grow - I've been on both sides of that spectrum. I wonder, should I get bigger? Does anyone care for muscles? Does any of this matter? I'm called skinny but I see many guys much skinnier than me, and they're often doing best with women. For whatever change I seek to make, I'm still limited by my genetics. There's a push-pull of where you want to be with the contrast of others and yourself, and with the limits of your genetic potential.
A man wants to improve his looks but is conflicted with the changes he can make. He wonders what he can fix and if it's ever enough. If only he could Just Be Chad, but he can only change certain individual parts of his body.
TLDR you want to look different but can't quite get there because the tangible results (gf) don't show
Inspired by this thread by @Balding Subhuman
Men can't have body dysmorphia.
Do you agree with that? If a guy feels like he is too short then he doesn't have "body dysmorphia", he's just a manlet and women don't like manlets, therefore his insecurity is completely warranted. Him feeling bad about his height comes from this logical conclusion, therefore its not a sign of...
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