The reason that most of us are "young" is because inceldom is, at least at the massive scale it's at now, a largely a new thing. The amount of incels has skyrocketed in the past 10-15 years due to rapid advancements in technology, SJWs, racial/identity politics, feminism, and modern leftism. They have created a society where just being a man (and white) is hostile, and there is a clear media and societal campaign to disenfranchise men. Women, who were ALREADY the selector sex, have gained even more power in the last 10-15 through the advancements in technology. They can now select their most fit mate in less than 10 minutes.
I maintain that If I was a teenager/young adult when you were (late 70s/early80s), I would not be incel. I, like many users of this forum, are a victim of our society. There was no tinder for me to be instantly mogged on. Women were STATISTICALLY more faithful back then and had less extramarital sex.
Lastly, women do not get more desperate in age, the juggernaut just keeps getting stronger. 2 kids and 46? She gets 25 messages a week on OKC, while you rot.