Brutal Manipulative parents

[Hoppipolla]

Sorry, I know I've made some other threads like this recently. My dad has just been a lot to deal with!

Manipulation is a strange thing. Because it makes me think of like... a conscious plan. Like he's sitting there scheming and drawing up a grand plan of how he's going to control me. But I don't think it's like that at all.

I don't think he even really knows he does it. He's just controlling and knows he prefers when I do things in a very specific way.

But the methods that parents like this can use are just crazy. Withholding love, silent treatment, emotional abuse, etc.

But recognising them is the first step towards overcoming them I think because otherwise it can be very confusing and you can't work out what's even going on.

I just wanted to share this in case anyone else feels similarly or has noticed similar things from their parents.

My mum wasn't like this though really. She was much nicer and made a lot more sense!

 

[McFlurryCel]

Manipulate to Cope with non existence in this world to live for nothing but despair everyday

 

[Pancakecel]

You need to grow a pair and stand up for yourself if you are still letting your parents, or anyone for that matter manipulate you.

 

[Hoppipolla]

You need to grow a pair and stand up for yourself if you are still letting your parents, or anyone for that matter manipulate you.

I try not to but it's difficult when they're so... sneaky.

As I say I get the silent treatment and no positive feedback or warmth sometimes and of COURSE then I feel guilty and like I want to repair the relationship, but the only way to do that is to "fall back into line".

And then sometimes I want to hear my dad out, but "hearing him out" can involve a barrage of essentially abusive messages.

So... point is... some people are super hard to navigate or understand. And you can't distance yourself from them because they're family.

It's not that I "let" him manipulate me really... it's that it's hard to work out what on Earth he's up to sometimes.