It does not exist. It’s not a cope. You can observe its existence by looking at others, but you will never know what love is, because maybe your brain isn’t even capable of feeling that so called “love”.
It’s the same with the so called “validation”, which does not exist either. Maybe some incels do feel the need to be validated, but a lot of incels are unable to feel the same.
Take autists as an example, mentalcels, maybe they aren’t even capable of feeling those stuff that normies call “love&validation”.
In my opinion, love does not exist because it’s a word used to describe a strange mental phenomenon that differs from one individual to another, so best case scenario: love do exist, but it’s individually perceived differently by people based on their sensibility and socialization level and culture...
I think that love do not exist, because I cannot feel it, so for me it is not real.