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Quote from Reddit commenter, on a post from r/dating about being ugly and dating market etc etc
this was on a post 10 hours ago
“I remember being a virgin at your age and feeling the exact same as you. I'm not exactly a good looking guy. I'm short at 5'6 (167cm)
I'm also deformed from a genetic disorder that stunted the growth of my arms and hands (so my arms are too short for my body and I have small bumpy hands. Both my arms are odd looking. and I walk with a small limp because of my disability.
Instead of giving up -which I almost did- I decided to start reading books about psychology, therapy and working on my self image, my insecurities.
I also started trying to learn about women and what behaviors attract them as well as just learn about how to socialize better. I ended up finally losing my virginity right before I turned 27. But I still had years of learning. I was still awkward and I still mostly sucked with women.
I moved to a bigger city and looked for mentors (guys that were already good) and other men also trying to improve. Started going out on the weekends, mostly during the day and practiced approaching women, which was extremely difficult for me. I probably got rejected a thousand times for a few years of learning. My successes were small and rare, but over time became more frequent.
To make a long story short, things eventually clicked for me. I'm now 37 and when I started out at 26 my highest hopes were to just not die a virgin. I literally have to explain to almost every woman on the first date why I'm deformed. And yet, despite this, I've now slept with more women than 93% of men my age have (according to online stats). I've had girlfriends, I've had friends with benefits, I've had an abundance of options.
My aim here is not to brag about my success, because believe me I'm extremely humble and grateful. I just want you to know that it's never too late and there's always hope. Hell a lot of people didn't think there was hope for me because of how I look. So keep going”
JFL
original post here www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/emz4pf/i_feel_too_ugly_to_be_loved_by_a_woman/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
this was on a post 10 hours ago
“I remember being a virgin at your age and feeling the exact same as you. I'm not exactly a good looking guy. I'm short at 5'6 (167cm)
I'm also deformed from a genetic disorder that stunted the growth of my arms and hands (so my arms are too short for my body and I have small bumpy hands. Both my arms are odd looking. and I walk with a small limp because of my disability.
Instead of giving up -which I almost did- I decided to start reading books about psychology, therapy and working on my self image, my insecurities.
I also started trying to learn about women and what behaviors attract them as well as just learn about how to socialize better. I ended up finally losing my virginity right before I turned 27. But I still had years of learning. I was still awkward and I still mostly sucked with women.
I moved to a bigger city and looked for mentors (guys that were already good) and other men also trying to improve. Started going out on the weekends, mostly during the day and practiced approaching women, which was extremely difficult for me. I probably got rejected a thousand times for a few years of learning. My successes were small and rare, but over time became more frequent.
To make a long story short, things eventually clicked for me. I'm now 37 and when I started out at 26 my highest hopes were to just not die a virgin. I literally have to explain to almost every woman on the first date why I'm deformed. And yet, despite this, I've now slept with more women than 93% of men my age have (according to online stats). I've had girlfriends, I've had friends with benefits, I've had an abundance of options.
My aim here is not to brag about my success, because believe me I'm extremely humble and grateful. I just want you to know that it's never too late and there's always hope. Hell a lot of people didn't think there was hope for me because of how I look. So keep going”
JFL
original post here www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/emz4pf/i_feel_too_ugly_to_be_loved_by_a_woman/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
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