I agree. Do you have the same stance on porn? I find it a good cope
It's not a "cope", this is also the problem, we falsely label every single thing that's enjoyable as cope so that no matter what someone is coping. The original definition is no longer being used (cope as in "coping mechanism").
The implication of saying that someone is coping is that they are doing something as a form of escapism or a distraction from actual reality, and that they've convinced themselves that it's an equal substitute or superior alternative.
For example, the guys who say retarded shit like - "2D girls are better anyways, who even wants to have sex with a real woman".
That's a cope.
If a guy is just jerking off to hentai though, and to him it's just jerking off to hentai, relieving an urge, and he acknowledges that having sex with an actual woman would be better, he isn't coping.
To say otherwise would be like arguing that someone who eats at a street vendor instead of a restaurant is coping, even though that's all that they can afford at the moment. If they are going around saying that - "street food is better than restaurant food", then they are coping. But if they are just eating what they can afford to eat at that time in their life, they are simply just being pragmatic.
Calling everything cope takes away from the purpose of the term, which is to call out delusion, to call out self deception and hold a mirror up to peoples faces, it's to call out people lying to themselves.
This is why personally I would say "anti-escortcels" are copers, because they will say that dying a sex starved virgin is preferable to paying for sex. That's cope, especially since these guys would gladly take a woman out on a "date", and dating is basically just gambling for pussy instead of just buying it directly (you are still paying at the end of the day).
Are you ok with porn being a cope?
It isn't. Cope implies self deception based on the original usage. If by cope we merely mean "doing something enjoyable", then breathing air is a cope, eating food that tastes good is a cope, blinking your eyes is a cope, etc.
WTF isn't a cope under that ridiculously loose and broad definition?
People on different online forums in general say, "Sex is basically jerking off but a woman moaning in front of you etc."
This is coping, and I don't know what you mean by "in general", that is not a general statement at all, that's a statement of someone who has never had sex, masturbation and sex isn't even comparable. Your hand with some lube and the inside of a vagina aren't even close.
I feel kinda satisfied with the best and only the best pornstars models etc. but a phone's not for ever what's your stance on this in general?
You're in your teens or something right?
Because no way you've been jerking off to porn for 10+ years and you haven't realized yet that doing the thing you are jerking off to will be way more enjoyable than jerking off to it.
Porn "gets old" after a decade or so, it's still physically enjoyable, but it isn't the peak of physical enjoyment, and the more years you spend watching people fuck, the more you want to do the fucking yourself (at least that's how it was for me).
on some level I know which response I'm gonna get, it'll probably be something close to yes it's not a good cope.
No, my response is masturbation is not a cope, it's simply masturbation. You saying/thinking that masturbation is comparable to sex is the coping part. Do you see the difference?
Someone buying a hotdog and eating something from a street vendor isn't coping by default because they want to taste something good, they are simply eating. That same person saying the hotdog is better than any steak meal you can get at a restaurant is coping.
Simply "doing something" isn't coping. Coping is asserting that said thing is an "equal substitute" or "superior alternative" to what it is you know you really want to do.