A comment in op
"I stopped being incel only after fixing my looks. The transformation in my dating life was literally night and day. Before then, I spent almost 20 years wondering what I was "doing wrong", constantly trying to fix things that weren't even broken in the first place. We're doing more harm than good by denying that looks ARE a major contributing factor to the incel problem, and I can guarantee that the longer we as a society continue to deny this, the more gender relations WILL take a turn for the worse. "Looks aren't that important" is no longer a social safety net, but a liability. BTW, that same myth is THE root cause of male sexual entitlement"
Realist comment I've ever seen, this guy gets it, outsiders think we are just whiners crying like insecure 16 year old girls for not looking too skinny or whatever. Saying looks don't matter does more harm the good