lol i said this isn't about women or being an incel anymore. it's just me not being a mentalcel.
Nobody needs therapy for that, you just need to take some personal responsibility
All the therapist is doing is making water is wet statements and making you ask yourself questions, you can literally do that yourself by simply having intrapersonal conversation, all you literally had to do was try and be introspective lol.
This is why I laugh at people who spend thousands to talk to a therapist about mundane issues (I know you aren't paying, but most people are paying "professionals" a lot of money for this).
If you've been sexually assaulted or raped it makes sense, but for mundane things like social anxiety, you simply need to:
1. Have intrapersonal conversation
2. Go out and talk to people (there's no way around that)
You see this is one of the reasons I'm glad I worked at so many different places.
I was extremely shy and antisocial, and talked to no one, but when I worked I had no choice but to talk to people and to learn to hold conversation.
You being in a room with the same person gives a level of comfortability and familiarity that you shouldn't have, and that's going to falsely make you think that you are "getting better", when all you've actually done is add your therapist to the mental list of people you "feel comfortable around".
You aren't getting better at socializing, you are becoming more comfortable with your therapist, you're getting better at talking to her.
This is why I say there's no actual improvement taking place.
If you want actual improvement you have to force yourself outside of your comfort zone, there's no work around.
A job as a cashier is a great start, you're forced to strike up conversation with an endless stream of random people all day. You also have to learn to smile more (which is something I literally had to do), when I first started the manager had to ask me why I didn't smile (I never smiled) and asked if I could smile more (are you seeing the level of social awkwardness I was at lol)
Now smiling is 2nd nature to me when I'm in public and having conversation.
Nothing can replace forcing yourself to socialize.
if it improved my chances with women then cool
Let me save you the trouble of wondering, it won't.
Unless it magically makes your face more attractive and/or increases your height.
