Serious JFL my mom just accidentally SLIPPED-UP and clearly implied (not meaning to insult) how ugly I am, father always used to do it

[TheGrayWolf]

My father used to always do this (doesn't live here anymore), and now her (the first time in a few years).

I know I'm exceptionally ugly but such things just make me even more self-conscious/sad, actually hearing it from a parent (even if not on purpose and "in the heat of the moment"/a fiery discussion). Going outside and getting negative reactions (negative feedback-loop) from strangers also makes me sad and self-conscious but so does this.

 

[Left4DeadKoala]

What did she say?

 

[Left4DeadKoala]

This has happened to me to

 

[HotDogCel]

This has happened to me to

#metoo

 

[AtrociousCitizen]

This has happened to me to

 

[Only_Perspective]

>even your mom is admitting you're ugly
brutally over/10

 

[TheGrayWolf]

What did she say?

it was something about me wanting a gf and that she can't do anything about it. That I need to go "attack" my father and "not [her]" — (it's objectively his fault I'm ugly but I don't want to divulge why here), and in the heat of the moment, she said "your head"; she is obviously upset about my predicament and that I am not able to get a gf, she said "your head!" --- then after a 2-3 second pause corrected herself, "in your head, how you think, you're not normal, you don't eve go outside!" (tbf my father has a number of mental issues but that's not what she meant with "your head!" that was a clear slip-up. Also tbf she does a lot for me (buys groceries, cooks, I can live at home for free etc).

 

[TheGrayWolf]

>even your mom is admitting you're ugly
brutally over/10

yes even if implied and very clearly not on purpose/slip-up. she's clearly overwhelmed by my predicament. but yeah after her accidentally implying it I now feel the fight has gone out of me, my battery is empty.

 

[Left4DeadKoala]

it was something about me wanting a gf and that she can't do anything about it. That I need to go "attack" my father and "not [her]" — (it's objectively his fault I'm ugly but I don't want to divulge why here), and in the heat of the moment, she said "your head"; she is obviously upset about my predicament and that I am not able to get a gf, she said "your head!" --- then after a 2-3 second pause corrected herself, "in your head, how you think, you're not normal, you don't eve go outside!" (tbf my father has a number of mental issues but that's not what she meant with "your head!" that was a clear slip-up. Also tbf she does a lot for me (buys groceries, cooks, I can live at home for free etc).

Brutal.

Sorry brocel

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Brutal.

Sorry brocel

Thanks for understanding bro

 

[TheGrayWolf]

This has happened to me to

What did your parent say?

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Brutal.

Sorry brocel

you know, I can't even verbally defend myself properly. if I go too much out of line "I'm done", i.e. kicked out. I'm already in my late 20s and I'm on bloody thin ice

 

[Left4DeadKoala]

you know, I can't even verbally defend myself properly. if I go too much out of line "I'm done", i.e. kicked out. I'm already in my late 20s and I'm on bloody thin ice

Damn. That must suck to not be able to say anything back. I'm glad my mom isn't mean to me at all

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Damn. That must suck to not be able to say anything back. I'm glad my mom isn't mean to me at all

Well she's not "mean" normally tbf... like I said she cooks for me, buys groceries and other materialistic stuff (maybe bc she feels bad) and I live in her house for free.
BUT I think she's unfair often (like today, saying I attacked her [verbally] but all I did was explain my despair, and if I say too much we'll just have a huge fight, fights I never won and never can.

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Damn. That must suck to not be able to say anything back. I'm glad my mom isn't mean to me at all

Also the heavily implied "you're very ugly" hurts but of course she'd never admit it or apologise, nor do I want to give her the satisfaction to admit I'm ugly. I tell her "I know I can get a gf, you just think I can't", because she always thought and thinks SHE can dissuade me from it. I may sound like an asshole but I don't think I am, the whole story is too complicated.

 

[Only_Perspective]

she is obviously upset about my predicament and that I am not able to get a gf, she said "your head!"

yeah, she was obviously just upset. It's a good thing she actually cares about you though.

 

[TheGrayWolf]

yeah, she was obviously just upset. It's a good thing she actually cares about you though.

true but still, it hurts now it makes me even more self-conscious even around her

 

[Lonelyus]

My father used to always do this (doesn't live here anymore), and now her (the first time in a few years).

I know I'm exceptionally ugly but such things just make me even more self-conscious/sad, actually hearing it from a parent (even if not on purpose and "in the heat of the moment"/a fiery discussion). Going outside and getting negative reactions (negative feedback-loop) from strangers also makes me sad and self-conscious but so does this.

It runs in the family i guess

 

[TheGrayWolf]

It runs in the family i guess

in the case of looks, you'd think so but not really in my case. I'm like someone with down-syndrome. the parents could look good but the offspring could still turn out differently.

 

[ReconElement]

Tbh no one really cares about you therefore the kinda redpill like advice of working on skills still stands work on skills and be successful, at least it's better to be ugly and wealthy than to be ugly and poor

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Tbh no one really cares about you therefore the kinda redpill like advice of working on skills still stands work on skills and be successful, at least it's better to be ugly and wealthy than to be ugly and poor

I agree, but I won't be, and am not, either. My mom does "care" but she also know it's all hopeless and powerless, so she indirectly demands that I just "accept it". As in, "it's sad but deal with it", is implied.

also it's clear she know I can't get a gf, one reason for her being that I'm ugly – I'm literally deformed.

it's clear from what she says — and what she doesn't say also speaks volumes) — that she knows I can't get a gf, but hearing it from a parent is still brutal. I feel unwell now.

 

[Stupid Clown]

I agree, but I won't be, and am not, either. My mom does "care" but she also know it's all hopeless and powerless, so she indirectly demands that I just "accept it". As in, "it's sad but deal with it", is implied.

also it's clear she know I can't get a gf, one reason for her being that I'm ugly – I'm literally deformed.

it's clear from what she says — and what she doesn't say also speaks volumes) — that she knows I can't get a gf, but hearing it from a parent is still brutal. I feel unwell now.

She has a lot of gull to tell you to just accept such a cruel life that she never had to. Fucking privileged bitch

 

[ReconElement]

I agree, but I won't be, and am not, either. My mom does "care" but she also know it's all hopeless and powerless, so she indirectly demands that I just "accept it". As in, "it's sad but deal with it", is implied.

also it's clear she know I can't get a gf, one reason for her being that I'm ugly – I'm literally deformed.

it's clear from what she says — and what she doesn't say also speaks volumes) — that she knows I can't get a gf, but hearing it from a parent is still brutal. I feel unwell now.

Kind of a cruel woman, whatever they'd be dead but look after yourself brother especially your money, you'd need it a lot more so just work something out. I don't mean successfull just be normal somewhat stable

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Kind of a cruel woman, whatever they'd be dead but look after yourself brother especially your money, you'd need it a lot more so just work something out. I don't mean successfull just be normal somewhat stable

At least she does give me a very good allowance and buys groceries and cooks. I don’t have to work, I’m a half NEET doing my degree fully remote/online.
But that doesn’t really change my frustration for the future, that I’ll never feel the free touch of a woman, and while it’s legal where I’m from, I don’t want to fuck a sex prostitute for the time being. I want affection from a kind cute girl. Hell I’m a dreamer.

 

[PrototypeCel]

My father used to always do this (doesn't live here anymore), and now her (the first time in a few years).

I know I'm exceptionally ugly but such things just make me even more self-conscious/sad, actually hearing it from a parent (even if not on purpose and "in the heat of the moment"/a fiery discussion). Going outside and getting negative reactions (negative feedback-loop) from strangers also makes me sad and self-conscious but so does this.

my father always intentionally "slips up"
he whispers and says things about me just loud enough for me to hear but not loud enough for my mom to hear and i when i do bring it up my mom doesnt believe me
i feel like 99 percent of ppl would of roped by now if they were in my shoes
born with shitty genetics
born into toxic family
my life

 

[TheGrayWolf]

my father always intentionally "slips up"
he whispers and says things about me just loud enough for me to hear but not loud enough for my mom to hear and i when i do bring it up my mom doesnt believe me
i feel like 99 percent of ppl would of roped by now if they were in my shoes
born with shitty genetics
born into toxic family
my life

holy shit, that's fucked up. with the genetics thing I was just unlucky af, my parents looked good when they made me 28 years ago, my sister looks good but my head and face just grew wrong, I look mentally retarded. Like someone with down-syndrome never has downy parents.

 

[despisedpaul]

my mom slips up too, it hurts knowing what she holds back

 

[TheGrayWolf]

my mom slips up too, it hurts knowing what she holds back

how does she slip up?