Why is the shitty "improve your personality bro" advice used so much?
I think the idea that your personality doesn't really count for much actually triggers the normalfags and foids deep down. They're scared to admit that their relationships and whatnot weren't formed due to their own merit, but rather factors they have little to no control over.
The idea that it was their "personality" gives them the illusion of control and it makes them feel good about themselves as they delude themselves into thinking that they rightfully earned the validation and approval they receive. It also makes them feel like they're good people, and by being good people they're entitled to good things.
When you attack the "personality" meme, they take it as if you've attacked them. They don't like the idea that they haven't actually achieved as much so they attack you back.
They can't accept that looks has something to do with it and would rather believe its just personality, so they attempt to turn the tables on you by giving you shitty vague advice on how to obtain this so called "good personality" (which is really a huge check list of shit that doesn't help) and once you tell them that it isn't working they'll basically scorn at you for even EXPECTING an outcome. They'll claim that you're being entitled or that you're not trying hard enough, always giving YOU the blame.
Also, it makes them question of what is good vs bad. Weren't good people meant to have good lifes and get a partner because they were good? Weren't bad people meant to be the ones left out because they're bad? When an ugly person tries to tick off the "personality" checklist with no success, then it's only reasonable to assume that he MUST be bad right? The question that bothers them is what makes the ugly person so bad, and then it dawns on them:
he's ugly.
This realisation is followed by confusion as it makes them rethink their ideas of personality. However, they push this realisation away and convince themselves that only their personalities mattered, that they're being approved for who they truly are.
You can't win with them because by engaging in this debate you're attacking their egos, and we all know what happens when you do that.
I think the idea that your personality doesn't really count for much actually triggers the normalfags and foids deep down. They're scared to admit that their relationships and whatnot weren't formed due to their own merit, but rather factors they have little to no control over.
The idea that it was their "personality" gives them the illusion of control and it makes them feel good about themselves as they delude themselves into thinking that they rightfully earned the validation and approval they receive. It also makes them feel like they're good people, and by being good people they're entitled to good things.
When you attack the "personality" meme, they take it as if you've attacked them. They don't like the idea that they haven't actually achieved as much so they attack you back.
They can't accept that looks has something to do with it and would rather believe its just personality, so they attempt to turn the tables on you by giving you shitty vague advice on how to obtain this so called "good personality" (which is really a huge check list of shit that doesn't help) and once you tell them that it isn't working they'll basically scorn at you for even EXPECTING an outcome. They'll claim that you're being entitled or that you're not trying hard enough, always giving YOU the blame.
Also, it makes them question of what is good vs bad. Weren't good people meant to have good lifes and get a partner because they were good? Weren't bad people meant to be the ones left out because they're bad? When an ugly person tries to tick off the "personality" checklist with no success, then it's only reasonable to assume that he MUST be bad right? The question that bothers them is what makes the ugly person so bad, and then it dawns on them:
he's ugly.
This realisation is followed by confusion as it makes them rethink their ideas of personality. However, they push this realisation away and convince themselves that only their personalities mattered, that they're being approved for who they truly are.
You can't win with them because by engaging in this debate you're attacking their egos, and we all know what happens when you do that.
