Fapping makes me lazy, also gives alot of pimples and i kinda blame it for my hair loss.
It gets you stressed so from now im nofapping
My mentality is that i just imagine i actually just stopped casually with no challenge or resistance and living like that until my imagination actualise
Instead of just saying you will not masturbate for the foreseeable future, why not just, say, consistently only masturbate once a week in the shower on a given day? Like you only masturbate when you take a shower first thing on Sunday morning. This is what I've done.
This is why I disagree with nofap. By making it into this game where they count how many months they can go, it defeats what should be the purpose: to quit porn usage and the dependency on the habit of masturbation. They conflate porn usage and masturbation: it's insane that if a guy masturbates and ejaculates
once without porn after going weeks or months straight without having done so, they consider this a "relapse" from a supposed "masturbation addiction" tantamount to if he had relapsed into porn addiction i.e. watched porn again. I'm actually convinced the reason they make it into this neurotic, obsessive, sadomasochistic game and torment themselves is because they don't
want to be free from this. Otherwise, you'd see advice like what I just gave above more frequently on the parts of the internet where guys discuss this. Instead, it's the norm for them to say you should just quit masturbating entirely, and they actually count how many days they can go.
If it was really about helping people, the purpose of these nofap communities would be to encourage guys to quit watching porn and to masturbate in moderation, like once a week or 2-3 times a week, as I suggested.
Besides, you will have wet dreams i.e. ejaculate in your sleep if you attempt to go weeks/months straight without masturbating/ejaculating once. This is because ejaculation is a necessary function if you have working parts, you produce semen and it must eventually be released. I've actually said this to "nofap" proponents on the internet before and they've denied this.
The nofap communities (like the subreddit) even delete your posts/comments and
ban you if you so much as mention or link to a certain book called "Hackbook" or "Easypeasy" with the website of the same name (easypeasymethod.org) which is all about helping men to quit porn addiction. The gist of the book is that the very notion you are addicted to porn and must identify as a "recovering addict" only further reinforces the dependency and increases the possibility you'll watch it again. Instead he encourages recognizing you are not addicted and never were. It's not hard to see why nofap, which is evidently a cult, bans you if you bring up the book. Ironically, the creator of the website and most recent editor of the book
himself has advocated nofap regardless on his Youtube channel. (though the book itself doesn't, instead merely focusing on quitting porn and saying masturbating without porn in moderation is fine.)
Hopefully others here sees where I'm coming from.
