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Serious Improving copes is the point of life when you are incel

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The whole idea is - You need to improve. Not self improve, but improve your copes.

Like watching movies ? Go from laptop -> TV -> Large HD TV + Bluray
Like collecting media ? Go from single drive -> mutliple portable drives -> NAS
Like reading ? Laptop/Phone -> tablet -> Hardcover collection
Like music ? Start browsing audio forums -> soundproof your room -> get nice headphones
Like diy ? Get some materials -> Buy some storage spaces -> (idk buy professional tools maybe)
Like porn ? Pay for the premium pirate sites and get high bandwidth
Like trolling ? Buy vpns -> commission people on fiver to make bots -> buy upvotes/likes

etc.

THE POWER PROCESS

33. Human beings have a need (probably based in biology) for something that we will call the “power process.” This is closely related to the need for power (which is widely recognized) but is not quite the same thing. The power process has four elements. The three most clear-cut of these we call goal, effort and attainment of goal. (Everyone needs to have goals whose attainment requires effort, and needs to succeed in attaining at least some of his goals.) The fourth element is more difficult to define and may not be necessary for everyone. We call it autonomy and will discuss it later (paragraphs 42-44).

34. Consider the hypothetical case of a man who can have anything he wants just by wishing for it. Such a man has power, but he will develop serious psychological problems. At first he will have a lot of fun, but by and by he will become acutely bored and demoralized. Eventually he may become clinically depressed. History shows that leisured aristocracies tend to become decadent. This is not true of fighting aristocracies that have to struggle to maintain their power. But leisured, secure aristocracies that have no need to exert themselves usually become bored, hedonistic and demoralized, even though they have power. This shows that power is not enough. One must have goals toward which to exercise one’s power.

35. Everyone has goals; if nothing else, to obtain the physical necessities of life: food, water and whatever clothing and shelter are made necessary by the climate. But the leisured aristocrat obtains these things without effort. Hence his boredom and demoralization.

36. Nonattainment of important goals results in death if the goals are physical necessities, and in frustration if nonattainment of the goals is compatible with survival. Consistent failure to attain goals throughout life results in defeatism, low self-esteem or depression.

37, Thus, in order to avoid serious psychological problems, a human being needs goals whose attainment requires effort, and he must have a reasonable rate of success in attaining his goals.

SURROGATE ACTIVITIES

38. But not every leisured aristocrat becomes bored and demoralized. For example, the emperor Hirohito, instead of sinking into decadent hedonism, devoted himself to marine biology, a field in which he became distinguished. When people do not have to exert themselves to satisfy their physical needs they often set up artificial goals for themselves. In many cases they then pursue these goals with the same energy and emotional involvement that they otherwise would have put into the search for physical necessities. Thus the aristocrats of the Roman Empire had their literary pretensions; many European aristocrats a few centuries ago invested tremendous time and energy in hunting, though they certainly didn’t need the meat; other aristocracies have competed for status through elaborate displays of wealth; and a few aristocrats, like Hirohito, have turned to science.

39. We use the term “surrogate activity” to designate an activity that is directed toward an artificial goal that people set up for themselves merely in order to have some goal to work toward, or let us say, merely for the sake of the “fulfillment” that they get from pursuing the goal. Here is a rule of thumb for the identification of surrogate activities. Given a person who devotes much time and energy to the pursuit of goal X, ask yourself this: If he had to devote most of his time and energy to satisfying his biological needs, and if that effort required him to use his physical and mental faculties in a varied and interesting way, would he feel seriously deprived because he did not attain goal X? If the answer is no, then the person’s pursuit of goal X is a surrogate activity. Hirohito’s studies in marine biology clearly constituted a surrogate activity, since it is pretty certain that if Hirohito had had to spend his time working at interesting non-scientific tasks in order to obtain the necessities of life, he would not have felt deprived because he didn’t know all about the anatomy and life-cycles of marine animals. On the other hand the pursuit of sex and love (for example) is not a surrogate activity, because most people, even if their existence were otherwise satisfactory, would feel deprived if they passed their lives without ever having a relationship with a member of the opposite sex. (But pursuit of an excessive amount of sex, more than one really needs, can be a surrogate activity.)

40. In modern industrial society only minimal effort is necessary to satisfy one’s physical needs. It is enough to go through a training program to acquire some petty technical skill, then come to work on time and exert the very modest effort needed to hold a job. The only requirements are a moderate amount of intelligence and, most of all, simple OBEDIENCE. If one has those, society takes care of one from cradle to grave. (Yes, there is an underclass that cannot take the physical necessities for granted, but we are speaking here of mainstream society.) Thus it is not surprising that modern society is full of surrogate activities. These include scientific work, athletic achievement, humanitarian work, artistic and literary creation, climbing the corporate ladder, acquisition of money and material goods far beyond the point at which they cease to give any additional physical satisfaction, and social activism when it addresses issues that are not important for the activist personally, as in the case of white activists who work for the rights of nonwhite minorities. These are not always PURE surrogate activities, since for many people they may be motivated in part by needs other than the need to have some goal to pursue. Scientific work may be motivated in part by a drive for prestige, artistic creation by a need to express feelings, militant social activism by hostility. But for most people who pursue them, these activities are in large part surrogate activities. For example, the majority of scientists will probably agree that the “fulfillment” they get from their work is more important than the money and prestige they earn.

41. For many if not most people, surrogate activities are less satisfying than the pursuit of real goals (that is, goals that people would want to attain even if their need for the power process were already fulfilled). One indication of this is the fact that, in many or most cases, people who are deeply involved in surrogate activities are never satisfied, never at rest. Thus the money-maker constantly strives for more and more wealth. The scientist no sooner solves one problem than he moves on to the next. The long-distance runner drives himself to run always farther and faster. Many people who pursue surrogate activities will say that they get far more fulfillment from these activities than they do from the “mundane” business of satisfying their biological needs, but that is because in our society the effort needed to satisfy the biological needs has been reduced to triviality. More importantly, in our society people do not satisfy their biological needs AUTONOMOUSLY but by functioning as parts of an immense social machine. In contrast, people generally have a great deal of autonomy in pursuing their surrogate activities.

The main part of this is

When people do not have to exert themselves to satisfy their physical needs they often set up artificial goals for themselves. These are surrogate activities.

On the other hand the pursuit of sex and love (for example) is not a surrogate activity, because most people, even if their existence were otherwise satisfactory, would feel deprived if they passed their lives without ever having a relationship with a member of the opposite sex. (But pursuit of an excessive amount of sex, more than one really needs, can be a surrogate activity.)

So basically given that the pursuing a relationship with a foid is not a thing -> we should aggressively set up and pursue surrogate activities once we admit that it is over and life is either rope, cope or be in a state of delusion.
 
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High IQ thread in all seriousness. I read manga online, but lately I;ve really been wanting to start collecting manga. I've seen quite a few inspiring mango collections on YT and I'm mirin ngl :whatfeels:
I also want to move out and get my own crib so I can LDAR with anime on a big screen instead of a PC/tablet, but that's not gonna happen anytime soon since I'm a NEET

ded srs I don't want sex or a gf, I just want copes :feelscomfy:
 
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WØLF said:
High IQ thread in all seriousness. I read manga online, but lately I;ve really been wanting to start collecting manga. I've seen quite a few inspiring mango collections on YT and I'm mirin ngl :whatfeels:
I also want to move out and get my own crib so I can LDAR with anime on a big screen instead of a PC/tablet, but that's not gonna happen anytime soon since I'm a NEET

ded srs I don't want sex or a gf, I just want copes :feelscomfy:
Agreed with every single word, especially collecting manga, getting a nice crib and watching anime on a huge TV.
 
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Saint Cho said:
Agreed with every single word, especially collecting manga, getting a nice crib and watching anime on a huge TV.
Thank you, based GrAYbhai. Glad there's someone I can actually relate to here :feelsokman:

I wouldn't even need a house tbh, even a small apartment would be fine. Just a comfy place where I can display weeb posters, figurines, manga, etc. freely without having to worry about anyone judging/making of me or tampering with my shit y'know

I really wanna cop Berserk, Claymore, Vinland Saga, Vagabond, Oyasumi Punpun, One Punch Man, Chainsaw Man, Dragon Ball (the original ofc), just for starters. Man there's so many :whatfeels:

Wby? What manga are you planning to get?
 
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there's nothing I like because nothing is enjoyable when you're alone

wtf I would do with all those trinkets?
 
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the point of life is hedonism.
 
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WØLF said:
Thank you, based GrAYbhai. Glad there's someone I can actually relate to here :feelsokman:

I wouldn't even need a house tbh, even a small apartment would be fine. Just a comfy place where I can display weeb posters, figurines, manga, etc. freely without having to worry about anyone judging/making of me or tampering with my shit y'know

I really wanna cop Berserk, Claymore, Vinland Saga, Vagabond, Oyasumi Punpun, One Punch Man, Chainsaw Man, Dragon Ball (the original ofc), just for starters. Man there's so many :whatfeels:

Wby? What manga are you planning to get?
I already have all the Naruto, Dragon Ball, Jojo, and One Punch Man manga. Planning on Berserk, One Piece, AoT and a whole bunch others:feelsautistic:
 
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Saint Cho said:
I already have all the Naruto, Dragon Ball, Jojo, and One Punch Man manga. Planning on Berserk, One Piece, AoT and a whole bunch others:feelsautistic:
I see. Mogs me brutally. I have nothing :fuk:
 
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WØLF said:
High IQ thread in all seriousness. I read manga online, but lately I;ve really been wanting to start collecting manga. I've seen quite a few inspiring mango collections on YT and I'm mirin ngl :whatfeels:
I also want to move out and get my own crib so I can LDAR with anime on a big screen instead of a PC/tablet, but that's not gonna happen anytime soon since I'm a NEET

ded srs I don't want sex or a gf, I just want copes :feelscomfy:
Manga doesnt work For me. The lack of colors, movement and music makes it so that I retain zero memories. I remember having fun reading My hero academia but I remember none of it
 
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I have a collecting cope. Amass figures of Godzilla, Ultraman, various animu and VG merc and display them.

Basically, as a collector you want to moneymaxx so you can afford larger scale and also vintage stuff.

In terms of storage, you generally start out with things like cheap bookcases and hanging shelves and then upgrade to detolfs and glass displays.

That is what I am working towards.
 
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mNFwTJ3wz9 said:
Yeah... that's kind of the point....
I did buy a bigger TV a few years ago. Best investment in my life. Made coping so much nicer.
 
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JFL at anything other than drugmaxxing.
 
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Great thread.

Reading is a good cope. So is music.
 
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Tenshi said:
there's nothing I like because nothing is enjoyable when you're alone

wtf I would do with all those trinkets?
true, I feel like I'm a prison, why should I build an superb art creation if I can't share it with anyone?
We are alive but we are technically dead.
 
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