SuicideFuel I'm passive and weak, and it's pathetic

[Notkev]

It's not just my looks. This girl who was my oneitis had no reason to wish me happy birthday when we weren't (and still aren't) friends. What I SHOULD'VE done was to try to get to know her and even ask her out when I had just realized I liked her. Would she reject me? Probably, but it would've been FAR better than me being the passive pussy I was and wait and wait and wait. Truth is I never thought I had a chance, that's why I never initiated, but had I initiated early on, and in person instead of over text, I might have had a microscopic chance ( given my height). Even if I didn't, I would at least know I had the balls to do it, but now what? She is talking to like 2 dudes I don't even know or some shit and I have to bear the weight of seeing her every week. My looks might not improve but my passivity has to if I am to at least make enough money to live a half decent life.

 

[AtrociousCitizen]

Same, ontop of being ugly I also completely lack initiative. But I believe that the reason for that is that I'm ugly.

 

[slapthatsillywilly]

I'm sorry man it's not easy to make the first move

Same, ontop of being ugly I also completely lack initiative. But I believe that the reason for that is that I'm ugly.

Don't be too hard on yourself man. If you were attractive you wouldn't have to lift a finger and foids would beg you to suck your dick

 

[light]

Don't be too hard on yourself man. If you were attractive you wouldn't have to lift a finger and foids would beg you to suck your dick

 

[Notkev]

Same, ontop of being ugly I also completely lack initiative. But I believe that the reason for that is that I'm ugly.

I believe the BP but I also now realize that you have to put in SOME effort if you want something. Obviously don't chase. But I'm my case I should've had the balls to do it in person

 

[VintageCarCoper]

Almost impossible to make the first move when you never had any experience or validation from women. I'm a passive bitch in that regard and don't have the guts to ask a girl out, despite me being relatively kinda fearless in many other things.

 

[Notkev]

I'm sorry man it's not easy to make the first move


Don't be too hard on yourself man. If you were attractive you wouldn't have to lift a finger and foids would beg you to suck your dick

That's true but then why did she did it (the birthday thing)? She wasn't my friend. Maybe she did give a microscopic fuck about me which I ruined by being a passive bitch.

 

[AtrociousCitizen]

Don't be too hard on yourself man. If you were attractive you wouldn't have to lift a finger and foids would beg you to suck your dick

I know, as a chad you don't have to try at all, it all comes naturally.

 

[Soystein]

Don't feel too bad, I am a low-inhib sperg that used to sperg out and start fights, but I have never approached a woman or signalled interest because I know it is extremely unlikely to succeed.

 

[Notkev]

Almost impossible to make the first move when you never had any experience or validation from women. I'm a passive bitch in that regard and don't have the guts to ask a girl out, despite me being relatively kinda fearless in many other things.

Unfortunately. It would've been much easier if I had like ONE good memory with girls around my age and wasn't in fight or flight 24/7 outside.

 

[InternalJizzz]

normies will tell you to be confident while giving no real or legit context as to what they mean..

they underestimate how much looks matter.

 

[VintageCarCoper]

Unfortunately. It would've been much easier if I had like ONE good memory with girls around my age and wasn't in fight or flight 24/7 outside.

Same. Because of what we lack, it destroys the VERY FEW actual opportunities we might have occasionally. I never got as close as you did, but if it ever did happen, I'd probably bitch out the same way

 

[VintageCarCoper]

normies will tell you to be confident while giving no real or legit context as to what they mean..

they underestimate how much looks matter.

You can't just spawn confidence out of nothing. It needs to have actual basis to it. Or else it's akin to building a fancy house on sand

 

[Notkev]

Same. Because of what we lack, it destroys the VERY FEW actual opportunities we might have occasionally. I never got as close as you did, but if it ever did happen, I'd probably bitch out the same way

I feel like shit because the hope was dead in me from the very beginning. The thought that MAYBE I had a tiny chance in this situation easts me alive. Especially when I saw her with somebody else.

 

[InternalJizzz]

You can't just spawn confidence out of nothing. It needs to have actual basis to it. Or else it's akin to building a fancy house on sand

ofc, but it’s a cause and effect thing

those confident chads you see are confident from years of positive feedback and validation due to thier looks, whereas almost no legit incel can be confident since anything he does will be interpreted as weird/creepy. that’s the true blackpill. you can’t have confidence without looks but if you don’t have the looks you’ll never have confidence.

 

[Notkev]

You can't just spawn confidence out of nothing. It needs to have actual basis to it. Or else it's akin to building a fancy house on sand

Unfortunately. We have little reason to be confident

 

[VintageCarCoper]

I feel like shit because the hope was dead in me from the very beginning. The thought that MAYBE I had a tiny chance in this situation easts me alive. Especially when I saw her with somebody else.

Try to let it go. Take it from me, this is NOT your fault whatsoever. It's ok to be said and wonder what could have happened, but it's over. And it was out of your control.

 

[Notkev]

ofc, but it’s a cause and effect thing

those confident chads you see are confident from years of positive feedback and validation due to thier looks, whereas almost no legit incel can be confident since anything he does will be interpreted as weird/creepy. that’s the true blackpill. you can’t have confidence without looks but if you don’t have the looks you’ll never have confidence

I'd say most people know this deep down, which is why they hate it if in a rare occasion one of us shows confidence. In their eyes we don't deserve to be.

 

[VintageCarCoper]

ofc, but it’s a cause and effect thing

those confident chads you see are confident from years of positive feedback and validation due to thier looks, whereas almost no legit incel can be confident since anything he does will be interpreted as weird/creepy. that’s the true blackpill. you can’t have confidence without looks but if you don’t have the looks you’ll never have confidence.

I know. That's my main point. You can't fake it really because it takes a lifetime of positive feedback to have true confidence.

 

[Lonelyus]

Don't feel too bad, I am a low-inhib sperg that used to sperg out and start fights, but I have never approached a woman or signalled interest because I know it is extremely unlikely to succeed.

Brutal, We should share a hooker at realescorts someday

 

[InternalJizzz]

I know. That's my main point. You can't fake it really because it takes a lifetime of positive feedback to have true confidence.

you can try… i’ll likely fail tho

 

[InternalJizzz]

I'd say most people know this deep down, which is why they hate it if in a rare occasion one of us shows confidence. In their eyes we don't deserve to be.

it’s a brutal existence.

 

[Notkev]

Try to let it go. Take it from me, this is NOT your fault whatsoever. It's ok to be said and wonder what could have happened, but it's over. And it was out of your control.

Thanks man. I gotta stop the passivity for my own sake. Ascension may be a pipe dream but being passive invites unnecessary competition.

 

[VintageCarCoper]

you can try… i’ll likely fail tho

Yep. Just like if some dummy tries taking apart an engine, that shit is never gonna run again most likely because this dude isn't qualified to do it.

 

[VintageCarCoper]

Thanks man. I gotta stop the passivity for my own sake. Ascension may be a pipe dream but being passive invites unnecessary competition.

Have a balance. Do be an autist asking out a dozen woman a day. But also try to not be too afraid of conversation

 

[Soystein]

Brutal, We should share a hooker at realescorts someday

 

[Notkev]

Have a balance. Do be an autist asking out a dozen woman a day. But also try to not be too afraid of conversation

I'll try to be direct next time if I liked a girl (I hope I don't like anyone at this point). I think getting rejected fast and early would be better.

 

[VintageCarCoper]

I'll try to be direct next time if I liked a girl (I hope I don't like anyone at this point). I think getting rejected fast and early would be better.

Be careful and never ask out a woman at work. Only risk it if it's a woman you aren't obliged to interact with on a regular basis

 

[Notkev]

Be careful and never ask out a woman at work. Only risk it if it's a woman you aren't obliged to interact with on a regular basis

Yeah. This girl has taught me that much at least. Girls you see regularly are the worst choices.
Btw congrats on your name. It matches what you do now.

 

[VintageCarCoper]

Yeah. This girl has taught me that much at least. Girls you see regularly are the worst choices.

True. Just use some common sense, and if she is seeming uninterested to begin with, don't even bother. Indirect rejections are rejection enough.

Btw congrats on your name. It matches what you do now.

Thanks. Fat link Changed it against my will

 

[KinkyKanga]

JUST grab and toss her on your shoulders, and then TAKE her away (in video game).

 

[Notkev]

JUST grab and toss her on your shoulders, and then TAKE her away (in video game).

This would've increased my chances (of jail)

 

[KinkyKanga]

This would've increased my chances (of jail)

 

[Grodd]

Same, ontop of being ugly I also completely lack initiative. But I believe that the reason for that is that I'm ugly.