wastingtimeoflife
6.7k points·
1 day ago
3
I literally just studied this!
Ok so although you’ve been diagnosed with azoospermia it means that when they looked at your semen in the lab it didn’t have any sperm in it. However, you produce a lot of semen and the lab only looks at a tiny fraction of it which usually gives a good response. Usually you would repeat several times before concluding its azoospermia, although just because the lab didn’t see any sperm it can just mean that you had an incredibly low count so none of their samples from the sample you have showed any.
This doesn’t necessarily mean that for example in a normal ejaculation a normal guy would have 30-900million sperm which is usually about 15million per mL. It’s possible you have maybe... even 1000 sperm per mL and you would still be diagnosed with azoospermia as it would not be expected that the likelihood of getting pregnant at the right time with only 1000 sperm would be probable: BUT IT CAN HAPPEN.
Even if you only had 1 sperm per mL of ejaculate you could still get her pregnant but you would definitely never find that 1 sperm as a biomedical scientist in a lab.
Good luck and happy fatherhood.
misterjta
8 points·
17 hours ago
Okay dude I get that you're wigging out, but please consider things from as logical and dispassionate a perspective as you can. And I know that's hard, but...
The doctors
may have said "completely blocked off" (or you may be miss-remembering), but doctors dumb things down
a fucking lot. It's entirely reasonable that a doctor would take results that said "99% blocked off" and then tell you "completely blocked off".
Why? Because medicine has a lot of grey areas, and people
suck at digesting bad news. If you tell a patient there's a 99% chance their loved one will be dead within a week, what most people
hear, purely out of subconscious self-defence is "It's not certain, you have a chance"
When a doctor says "We can try this experimental treatment but I have to warn you, at this stage the odds of success are extremely low. I honestly think you'll do more harm than good and my advice would be to make her as comfortable as possible and say your goodbyes" what people hear is "Congratulations! I've got a magical snake oil in this syringe and everything's gonna be fine, sue me for malpractice if I'm wrong!".
People
love absolutes, and don't process nuance well, especially under stress, so lots of doctors will lay things on thick because it helps the message sink in and (generally) saves heartache.
Also note that:
- Your wife wanted to start a family with you. This in itself is a really good sign that she's committed to the relationship.
- Your wife has shown no signs of any guilt at all even though you're currently scouring everything she does because you're worried. And even with all your worry, in this paranoid state, you're left scrambling for things like "she's been really busy", or "once she had a winky face message" which even then you rationally know isn't uncommon, or is probably from a female friend.
- She knew you were diagnosed with azoospermia. In any rational universe, knowing that and then being pregnant from any possible sort of affair knowing you'd got that Dx, you'd have seen guilt. Nobody, nobody is that good an actor. It cannot be done.
Mate, this is good news! The doctors overstated it, or they were wrong, or they were kinda right but you hit the exact moment in your wife's cycle that she got pregnant!
I get that you're worried, and honestly part of that is probably just natural panic because what you thought was an impossiblity until at least July is suddenly happening already and on some level you'll be stressing about what this means for the future
anyway. I get the paranoia. And you've been burned before so of course your brain's in "danger Will Robinson" land.
But literally reading your post you're countering those fears. Fear is, genuinely, a mind killer. It stops you thinking straight, and it magnifies risks. Don't let it do that. It's all good.