My oneitis was a girl I met in grade 1. I followed her my entire life barring high school and now even at university I saw her maybe once.
I thought about her every year and thought I must grow stronger to be with her.
But then in junior high she randomly walked into my classroom, she looked at my face and simply looked disgusted. I realized simply that I am never going to be good enough thus I went down the moneymaxxing/gymmaxxing rabbit hole.
She always saw me as a disgusting comedic piece of trash. But I thought if I have a good career it may work.
Then, my looks got in the way of my work and my life went downhill. I lost all my friends etc.
I realized that my looks were the problem and started looksmaxxing.
But, of course it was no good. Oneitises are simply too painful you must forget them.
I try not to think about the past and I think this is better for me. Maybe she did help me discover the black pill, but I am not sure.