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It’s just a feeling of not belonging. I know people now. Cause of past experience, I know how important people are. But now im at a point where I had to self improve to get to where mostly everyone else is at. I’ve been at it since before I even joined this site. I only was aware of the BP because reading the threads here made me realize how my experience connects to everyone else here. It kinda isolates you from everybody. I’ve been a cel my whole life.

When people had gfs in elementary and high school, I was too dumb to pull anything. Now I’m here and they just don’t get it. I went from sub4 to normie and it really doesn’t have a win in the end but the grass is greener here for sure. More people will engage with you but the feeling of not belonging will stick on you like glue.

I have guy friends who are kinda like me and get it but not totally. If they missed elementary school activities, they at least got one late in high school. Me, none. Also there’s a certain loneliness in your life that you can’t shake. Only a gf or sadly a oneitis could fulfill it. Someone who you can think and feel happy about being in your life, someone that’s on your level and completes you. Not dumber, or a submissive thing but a genuine equal. Many normie relationships aren’t even close to that either. They don’t care about each other and either the gf cheats or the guy does. It’s superficial.

You kind of come to hate superficial things because you have depth. You want a actual relationship, you want love.

Hookups are a no and really inaccessible, and according to others in that lifestyle; they are all depressed and feel incomplete so it’s clearly not a answer.

And as explained by a pua I use to watch, hookups do this thing where it makes you have oneitis’s. If you do it with 10 random women, there’s going to be 1 or 2 that you really like and want more out of but the thing with these hookups is that they always end in ghosting because THEY ALWAYS HAVE A BETTER option. There’s always a Tyrone, Chad, guy willing to drop fat banks on her. It’s a brutal situation.

Relationships yes, but you being a incel really causes connection to be harder. People tend to kinda just click, it’s how many relationships happen. But for you and me, It’s ugly. Then you also won’t be able to relate because of you likely had to self improve meticulously while they hadn’t. Idk how Im gonna ascend because I’m having the same issue as before and meeting someone with depth much less a female is a very difficult task. They are everywhere supposedly but you only see the sort the type that parties, and hooks up. That’s not who you wanna go for.

I’m just in my head right now because it’s the first time I’ve felt like this.
 
More people will engage with you but the feeling of not belonging will stick on you like glue.
it will never go away. friends feel like acquaintances who you can't be honest around. it really feels like one is just going through the motions
 
People don't let you develop social skills.

You can guess what barrier is.
 
It’s just a feeling of not belonging. I know people now. Cause of past experience, I know how important people are. But now im at a point where I had to self improve to get to where mostly everyone else is at. I’ve been at it since before I even joined this site. I only was aware of the BP because reading the threads here made me realize how my experience connects to everyone else here. It kinda isolates you from everybody. I’ve been a cel my whole life.

When people had gfs in elementary and high school, I was too dumb to pull anything. Now I’m here and they just don’t get it. I went from sub4 to normie and it really doesn’t have a win in the end but the grass is greener here for sure. More people will engage with you but the feeling of not belonging will stick on you like glue.

I have guy friends who are kinda like me and get it but not totally. If they missed elementary school activities, they at least got one late in high school. Me, none. Also there’s a certain loneliness in your life that you can’t shake. Only a gf or sadly a oneitis could fulfill it. Someone who you can think and feel happy about being in your life, someone that’s on your level and completes you. Not dumber, or a submissive thing but a genuine equal. Many normie relationships aren’t even close to that either. They don’t care about each other and either the gf cheats or the guy does. It’s superficial.

You kind of come to hate superficial things because you have depth. You want a actual relationship, you want love.

Hookups are a no and really inaccessible, and according to others in that lifestyle; they are all depressed and feel incomplete so it’s clearly not a answer.

And as explained by a pua I use to watch, hookups do this thing where it makes you have oneitis’s. If you do it with 10 random women, there’s going to be 1 or 2 that you really like and want more out of but the thing with these hookups is that they always end in ghosting because THEY ALWAYS HAVE A BETTER option. There’s always a Tyrone, Chad, guy willing to drop fat banks on her. It’s a brutal situation.

Relationships yes, but you being a incel really causes connection to be harder. People tend to kinda just click, it’s how many relationships happen. But for you and me, It’s ugly. Then you also won’t be able to relate because of you likely had to self improve meticulously while they hadn’t. Idk how Im gonna ascend because I’m having the same issue as before and meeting someone with depth much less a female is a very difficult task. They are everywhere supposedly but you only see the sort the type that parties, and hooks up. That’s not who you wanna go for.

I’m just in my head right now because it’s the first time I’ve felt like this.
we all have had similar problems.
 

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